Ever dated a girl you believe is out of your league?

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Dated a woman out of my league? Hey, I married up. She's good-looking and has a great personality, and other men always think more of me when they meet my wife (or when they see me drop trou in the locker room but that's another story). LOL

No, seriously, I've dated women more physically attractive than I am for sure, and went out with girls more popular than I was in college. It's about confidence, I think. That and taking the chance to talk to her or ask her out in the first place.

BTW, I have no idea what number I am on the mysterious scale that enables a guy to say he is a 7 or 8 (or considered thus by the opposite sex) but he's dated a 9 or, better yet, a 9.5. Who the hell knows what that scale is? And what is the difference between one woman and another that makes the first .5 better on some scale? Perhaps I'm just out of touch.
 

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Well, I think I must be interpreting this question differently than everyone else, since most everyone seems to be only looking at physical appearance or wealth. I think that anytime you look at a couple and you think, "She could find a better man than him," then that constitutes a belief that she's "out of his league" and that he's lucky to have her. To me, it isn't just appearance or wealth that make people think that one person in the couple is "better" than the other one, but factors like educational level, talent, IQ, personality traits, character (like loyalty or honesty), and charisma factor heavily, too. For example, person who is considered to be fun might seem mismatched with someone who is a bit of a downer and whose conversation is tiresome or boring. You can't tell me that the "fun" person's friends wouldn't secretly believe that the boring person isn't good enough for her. A person who is lazy and a liar might not seem good enough for a person who is hard working and honest and kind.

I think that most people have a kind of "mating calculator" in their heads where they calculate "league" status. A person who is wealthy and educated but perhaps not so young or especially funny might be considered a same league match with someone who isn't wealthy but has youth and charisma, youth and charisma being considered "equal" to wealth and education by whomever made that judgment. Obviously every person's calculator is different. For example, some people are going to consider beauty to be of higher value than intelligence, and other people consider the opposite to be true.


yeah all of this makes sense

but to me, at the end of the day, the people who consistently date people who are "out of their league" are the people who are very sure of themselves with few insecurities, because like it was said earlier, the people with a lot of attractive qualities are sometimes the loneliest because people are intimidated by them
 

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When you classify yourself in different leagues, its almost like saying, "I don't wanna work hard enough to get her" or " she's not easy enough". Ruling yourself out of the game before you get in it is a bad idea.
 

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i've believed this about every girl i've ever dated...and i think i'm pretty awesome, so i just usually feel lucky the whole time. ;)