Ever dumped a guy for being too small?

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by Cthulhu, Nov 17, 2005.

  1. Cthulhu

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    Being in the average-smallish category (5.5x4.5 aprox), I have always been anxious than I would meet a girl who would like me, but when she would see that I ain't packing anything worthwhile, she would turn 180 and run like hell. (actually, I have been anxious that every single freaking girl would react this way, thank God I was wrong).

    Providing that the guy was not an asshole in any way, would you ever do (or have you evere done) anything like that to him, if he wouldn't (didn't) rise up to your personal minimum dick size standards? If so, would (did) you tell him the truth (in a polite way), bullshit him or say nothing at all?

    the question if mainly for women, but gay guys are welcome to answer too

    mind you, it has never happened to me, the first girl I have ever been with happened to be a virgin, provet to be tight even for my low standards, and we are still together, happily screwing our brains out
     
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    What a beautiful ending
     
  3. Cthulhu

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    Yea. And we screwed happily ever after
     
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    I think any woman who does that is shallow and not someone you'd want to be with anyway. If my girlfriend did that I'd tell her to fuck off then and be happy that she was out of my bed, and life of course.

    I worry that my girlfriend is going to dump me or gets upset that I don't get fully hard...I mean sometimes I do, then I either need to relax or I'm not up for playing when she is...meh. She hasn't said anything and when my cock isn't 'up' for it my hand is, which is better as I have more control and can touch all the good spots better.

    Things will improve I think when she becomes more at ease with nakedness, eg she won't let me touch her breasts (skin on skin) but I can play with them over her clothes and sometimes over the bra...

    But yeah anyway, I wouldn't worry about it. For everyone girl that will dump a guy because of his penis, there are probably 50 that won't. It's not important to girls, they are more into the emotional side of things, it's in their 'nature'. You could not have a penis at all, but if there's an emotional connection, and she feels you care about her then that's enough. There are toys and stuff to compensate so a big penis isn't necessary. Probably better with a dildo anyway, then if she can't take it, you're not feeling cheated/neglected as someone who can't enter a woman might. Then you can thrust it all the way in and shag her silly :p
     
  5. Cthulhu

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    Excuse me for being paranoid, but did you just say that I am so small that I 'd better use a dildo? Because it sounded just like that...
     
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    No. Substitute compensate for 'simulate the experience of having a big cock enter your vagina'. I was in a rush :p
     
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    Cthulhu, your stated sized is well withing the average range for size, so stop calling (and thinking) of yourself as being 'smallish.' You are in no way small. You are 'average' average and 99% of the women out there are fine with that!:D

    I think you just proved my point yourself. Stop worrying about being rejected for your microscopic, tiny, puny, small penis! ;)
     
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    If you are not looking for long term attachment, why shouldn't you end a relationship if you are not enjoying the sexual side - you can in the immortal words - still be friends.

    This doesn't make women shallow - I think it makes them honest and if penis size is a significant part of their source for sexual fulfillment, then that is a reasonable position also. Of course it would be out of order to rub a guy's nose in it.

    I ended realtionships in my late teens and early twenties when the sex wasn't that good and some when it was awsome and had a GF who was completely hung up about touching her boobs - that lasted less time than I can now. Don't make the mistake of thinking you own people just because you are going out with them.

    Of course things change when you do both wish to make a strong committment.
     
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    I think it is only shallow when: you're "not looking for a long term relationship" and they are, but, you fail to mention this fact.
     
  10. Cthulhu

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    Ok. No harm done.

    People, I think you are missing the point. I didn't begin this thread for my own insecurities, I just was curious about your experiences.

    If I ever break up (God forbid) and am then too fucking scared of approaching a woman for the aforementioned reason (which I probably will be), I 'll then seek support (not that it will help my fucked-up mind a great deal, but you can’t blame a man from trying)

    Maybe I’ ll get lucky again, and find another big boobed-small pussied virgin.

    God, I ‘m a lucky man already
     
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    Wondering when a woman is going to post here.... taps foot....

    probably when one does it will be to say they may have dumped a guy for his lack of self confidence, his overwhelming insecurity, his paranoia, his obsessive jealousy or some such character issue, not his dick

    unless they have an exceptional mismatch of genitals
     
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    Rawbone,

    Would you admit to dumping a woman because she had : small breasts, to tight vagina, Thin legs, too big or small butt, a rounded abdomen, thick waist line. Too tall or too short.? Probably not, but along with all of the other things that may be more blaring any one or a combination of those might help you to turn thought into action.

    Naughty
     
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    I dont get it, if you're in love with the person, why would the size of his penis even play a factor.:confused: Though it might play a factor in a physical relationship.
     
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    ONE girl's view

    Despite being (healthily- from my own viewpoint.. unhealthily from some others viewpoint) pretty obssessed with hugeness of penis in guys and so far lacking much luck in meeting only the largest at 8x 5.5, i have never 'dumped' a guy for being 'small' in the penis size area. That's not how it works. After all 98% of the guys I have been with are under the size of 7.5-8 inches as the 8 was my largest so I have always been with 'smaller' guys than I dream of. Friendships, Funships and sexual or romantic relations break up or fade or drift away for lots of reasons, but dick size has never been one of them. I am not that shallow, even tho I dream of meeting a HUGE HUGE guy.

    I wonder if I have ever been dumped cos my tits were ' too big'.. yknow actually I have I think cos I have had ex bfs who couldnt handle or feel comfortable in the amount of attention or comments I got from other men while out with me.. I have never yet I think beed dumped cos my tits were too small tho.. oh well 1 out of 2 can't be bad!

    We are who we are and we all have objects of fantasy in pics movies and imaginations. I always think no matter how gorgeous or huge a guy or girl is.or how famous.. someone somewhere is lucky enough to be doing them while we all dream of it.,yet when u read of famous people's lives however 'beautiful' they all seem to suffer same miseries as the rest of us.. so well life isn't like the movies or our dreams.

    Frankly despite I'd adore to meet a 12+ inch guy.. I'd never 'dump' anyone for being less than a fantasy idea.
     
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    Karena,

    Nicely put, I mean excluding the size queens here, I would be truly shocked if you girls were as mean as snakes to simply dump a poor fella cos he had a small dick! Surely you would love a man for who he was and not what he's hiding between his legs. Of course you would!! lol

    So you would love to experience more than 8 inches would you. Hmm, well as it's often caimed the average length is around 6 inches so you ain't done that bad so far have you even if some ladies here have had over 10! I acually knew a women who met a guy with a 12 inch dick and she said he wished it was smaller..

    Steve
     
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    BINGO!!!..
     
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    I'm still with my boyfriend so obviously I haven't dumped a guy for have a small penis
    Katie
     
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    I certainly wish that I could have a girlfriend...especially one who is hot enough to get a lot of attention...and that I don't get dumped for my 6.5x6.25 chubber...
     
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    Can't speak either as a woman or a gay man, but I have been declined for intercourse on three occasions a long time ago. I'm 4.5x4.0 erect. One of those times I got a blowjob as a consolation prize, once a handjob, once a good night kiss on the cheek.

    Been married over 30 years now, sometimes my wife tells me to stop because she can't feel it.
     
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    Interesting how karena says 98% of the guys she has slept with, implying she has slept with at least 50 guys!
     
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