i love this topic, as a gay guy, i love the dudes, but it does not mean that I dont want to be bette davis either!
Ha ha, I bet you do a mean impression to.
having said that, I would not try and live a lie to myself or any girl if I had inclinations for a dude. Nor would I settle (although I have) for living with a dude if I was having my chickies on the side (I dont). That would be using him.
there is NO switch to turn off or on, you either "do or do not, there is no try"...yoda. get your priorities str8, devotion to wife and kids or cut it off.
It took a while to even respond to this and I still don't know what to say.
doesnt sound like you got the balls to handle a gay life anyway.
Probably not and I'm soo good with that. Don't feel the need to align my life to anyone else's world view but mine.
now if your question was "how do I balance my bi life style?" I would have offered up a different approach to it. very simple young but muscular grasshopper
lol...I hear you man and appreciate the comp. Appreciate the 'tough love' also..