I guess for me, the type of dudes that catch my attention tend to be alpha male types like me. While I have had fun times I can't image cohabiting with them, there would be to much conflict/not enough compromise...I just don't see it working at all, but that's just me.
Living together isn't for everyone. I got along better with my partner before we moved in together. He wants things his way, and so do I. He's got a big type A personality and is a control freak. His 83 year old mother asked him if he realized that I just let him think he's the one in control and he wasn't happy at all.
As for other things _ I get what you're saying. When I was single there were times when I really wanted to get laid, but didn't want to deal with another guy. I just wanted a hole to fuck and would have been happy for someone to come in the door, bend over, and leave when I was finished. The issue was getting to that point usually involved some cocky attitude, bullshit, or stupid personal drama.