Ever feel like you are always the one showing interest?

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Why is this so common? I know any relationship isn't 50/50 but Jesus, EVERY SINGLE TIME I feel like I'm always the one showing interest and it's exhausting and the older I get the less tolerance I have for this kind of things (also this comes from a person who used to take bread crumbs of attention from people in the past)

Don't know if it's too blunt or direct to do this but I've already told some people how I feel about this, yes we are all busy but even then I make time for them, time I don't get back.

Anyone else?
 
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If you're the one that is always chasing (showing interest) then you simple need to learn more about what you're chasing. Take some time to understand what type of partner you're looking for and also what those type of people want/need and/or are looking for. After that, decide if you're willing to become that to attract them and you'll up your game otherwise change targets.

You can't catch a shark in the manmade pond down the street with nightcrawler bait and the rod/reel combo from walmart. You need to understand that sharks are in the ocean, you're gonna need a big boat, and some pretty expensive gear. Not willing to go to the ocean or boat or gear?... quit chasing sharks, you will always fail and never catch a shark therefore only mentally tax yourself to no end and then vent your frustrations on this forum.

Good luck!
 

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Yea it bothers the hell out of me. She's ok once I start but it sure would be nice if she took the initiative. It's only SEX. An enjoyable ,fun and pleasurable event . Why don't more women want it. It feels good and is relaxing. As a matter of fact for me it's the most enjoyable,best feeling thing I do. I want it all the time . To feel desired by your partner would be even better.