Ever Feel Sex is Overrated?

[transformer_99]

Sex is never over-rated in my personal experience. It probably is for those that allow it to become a preoccupation and obsession. Then I could see where comparisons would be made regarding good and bad, best ever, worst ever and so on could lead to disappointment and dissatisfaction.

 

[submit452]

No Girlfriends, sex isn't overated not having any is.

 

[earllogjam]

Do people who have a lot of sex or getting some always need to brag about it? As if you get points for sexual prowess in the game of life - even the guys on Viagra.

It seems to be about quantity like most things in America and never about quality. For me I'd rather have 5 gourmet meals a year than 100 Happy Meals. Happy Meal sex is sex just as some people consider McDonald's to be food but it rarely is satisfying. It just gets rid of the hunger.

I've had a lot of sex in my life and I got to a point where there were just too many Happy Meals. Sensual people are rare in my experience, people who I truly love to have sex with is also rare for me. Great transcendent sex is complex because it's about the energy, how the person looks, smells, talks, acts, feels and touches, and responds. But whenever I find someone like that I truly savor every bit of it and on those rare times sex transcends everything but for the many Happy Meal sex I've had I'd say it's overrated. And when people say it's not overrated because they have great sex everytime....they're probably kidding themselves.

 

[HazelGod]

Never use sex to get off - that's what your hands are for :biggrin1:. Great sex is about giving and receiving, not taking. When you get it right, it certainly can't be overrated.

I like that...sums my feelings up nicely.

 

[Principessa]

Buffalo Girl :tongue: I'm a Marinara man. :wink:

I make an awesome marinara. :flirt:

 

[B_Hung Jon]

I'm been celibate for quite sometime. I enjoy it (no complications, no STD's, no emotional worries). Masturbation works very well for me.:biggrin1:

What I miss: kissing and intimacy (I can live without it, though).

I need the whole nine yards. Sex and love are the best together because they create an intimacy that makes me feel whole and fulfilled. You can have one without the other as far as I'm concerned.

 

[B_Demention]

Sex is alright, but it's nothing to write home about. I don't get what empowers my entire gender to be so promiscuous since I can always sort of take it or leave it. That wasn't the case in my teens, I was all randy and ready to jump on anything that moved back then. Maybe I have a hormone/sex drive issue.

 

[DonJuanDeShenzhen]

Personally, I have found sex to be the ultimate expression of the love that I have felt, and even when not love, my emotion and passion. Never use sex to get off - that's what your hands are for :biggrin1:. Great sex is about giving and receiving, not taking. When you get it right, it certainly can't be overrated.

Couldn't have said it better :biggthumpup2:

 

[ManlyBanisters]

It's amazing how much build up sex has on here and in our society.

Well - 'here' - that's not surprising - the original raison d'etre of the place being the phallus, one of its main functions and the corrollaries therefof are bound to feature big.

In society - others have said it already, sex sells. So stuff is marketed to us using sex, we are conditioned to want sex, we want it more, more stuff is marketed to us with sex, and so on.

Is having sex the be all to end all? How much is the importance of sex in your life coming from external expectations? Do you feel bad if you aren't getting any because you are made to feel odd if you don't have sex or want to?

I don't recall many times in my life when I haven't wanted sex - just after childbirth and when I was borderline dying being the only two. But that's just me - I know I have a high drive. I used to find sex more pleasurable than masturbation so I would seek out partners to fulfil that need. I'm much better at masturbation now so I can go a long time without sex and only feel the need for the person I want to have sex with, not just the act of sex itself. I have never felt particularly bad about 'not getting any'. I have never felt lass valid in times where I have not been with a partner or been in a position to find a casual partner quickly.

Is something that's supposed to be natural become so sensationalized and blown out of proportion that it makes other important things in your life smaller?

No, not for me. I love being desired - it's wonderful. But it's not that important. I learnt very early on that being desired and being loved are not the same thing. Now I'd rather have both or neither. I used to go with just desire quite a lot - and I had a lot of fun with it, my priorities have changed now.

 

[deleted15807]

Sex is alright, but it's nothing to write home about. I don't get what empowers my entire gender to be so promiscuous since I can always sort of take it or leave it. That wasn't the case in my teens, I was all randy and ready to jump on anything that moved back then. Maybe I have a hormone/sex drive issue.

The effort put into it all is astounding. One can only wonder what if all that effort was diverted to philanthropy were would the world be?

 

[Rugbypup]

Sex? Overrated?

CONSTANTLY!

The media and society makes you feel less than a man if you're not getting shagged every night, can't get a blow job off any woman with little more than a look and have had a lesbian threesome at least once a month.

 

[headbang8]

@ Big Bull. I used to think I could do without the intimacy. But the loneliness sneaks up on you.

@ earllogjam. If I'm hungry. I'll have a Happy Meal, and it'll taste damn good. But you can't live on Happy Meals and stay healthy.

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Intimacy keeps us healthy, safe and sane. And it's pretty hard to keep up intimacy without sex, or at least without the comfort of knowing and feeling the body of someone you love.

 

[headbang8]

Sex? Overrated?

CONSTANTLY!

The media and society makes you feel less than a man if you're not getting shagged every night, can get a blow job of any woman with little more than a look and have had a lesbian threesome at least once a month.

RP! I challenge you to be positive about sex. Something about sex must be nice. Even bad sex is...well, it's at least a Happy Meal.

Personally, I think we might do well to keep the words "sex" and "rating" apart. It's not a competition. And sex is not in competition with other ways to make yourself happy.

As they say, it's one of the 5 Emotional Food Groups that go to make up the Food Pyramid of the Soul. Sex is part of a heart-healthy diet, but you can't live on sex alone. You'll get emotional scurvy, or something.

That was a crummy metaphor, but you get what I mean...

 

[Rugbypup]

...erm no, not really, sorry.

 

[D_Roland_D_Hay]

Sex overrated? Not at all...it is what you put into it!

 

[B_Hung Jon]

Sex? Overrated?

CONSTANTLY!

The media and society makes you feel less than a man if you're not getting shagged every night, can't get a blow job off any woman with little more than a look and have had a lesbian threesome at least once a month.

Well, I always thought that this was the definition of a man. Don't men fuck everyone they want because all women (and some men) can't resist our sexual charms and manly power?

 

[Industrialsize]

I like sex

 

[D_Roland_D_Hay]

I like sex

I can totally understand why:biggrin1:

 

[Rugbypup]

Well, I always thought that this was the definition of a man. Don't men fuck everyone they want because all women (and some men) can't resist our sexual charms and manly power?

Hoping that was written in sarcasm but if not, QED!

 

[B_New End]

I love sex.

But I hate the way it has been commercialized, and the way ti is constantly used to try and get me to buy shit I dont want or need.

Is it overrated. No. It is one of the best things in the world, both physically and emotionally, but it is not necessary for happiness. The only thing necessary for happiness is freedom.

The happy meal analogy was a good one. I could have had sex with my hot roommate. And when she had sex with dudes, they were probably happy for the moment, and had their egos stoked, a notch in the belt, but i knew better. I knew I wouldn't enjoy it with her, because we didn't see eye to eye on what good sex was.... and she was really dumb. (seriously stupidist person I ever met, that wasn't actually retarded)