Ever Feel Sex is Overrated?

[invisibleman]

I think that sex is amazing. I wish that everyone had it more. (I wish I had it more. And with better minded individuals.) I think that sex in a relationship can be the most special thing. Passion and enthusiasm. You have to have them.

If you are in a relationship and you aren't having sex because of an argument or not feeling like you are being appreciated...you gotta talk it over. Some lose desire over a partner being too fat or too old. I think that is sad. I have been done like that. It is disappointing. It makes me feel unvalued. Especially when I am rejected by guys who are just as fat and as old as I am. And I am not Jabba the Hutt.

I think that a lot of people are hurting in life and that affects the sex drive too. I try to connect with people and feel really disconnected. But you never know when life will bring you someone in your life that will make you all feel like kings, queens and superheroes. Someone you can have sex and you can feel like the universe is just for you.

I have heard the phrase "you can't love until you've loved yourself". I have heard from the most beautiful people...and those beyotches ALREADY got men. And I get so mad. I tell those fuckers that I love myself. I know what I want. I know what I desire in life. I want a devoted man and just hate getting used to the guy. AND then, they want to up and leave you. I guess that is my problem. I think that all that Disney doctrination has me fucked up in thinking that "Someday my prince will come" but Mickey never tells you that that regal fuckhead "will come in your best friend's ass and stop having sex with you because he is fucking your best friend and your prince is telling you that it is his erectile dysfunction...or that he isn't in the mood...or that he is fucking the friends' friends more."

 

[headbang8]

The happy meal analogy was a good one.

Yes, casual sex is a very happy meal, indeed!

 

[B_The Greek Dude]

The media and society makes you feel less than a man if you're not getting shagged every night, can't get a blow job off any woman with little more than a look and have had a lesbian threesome at least once a month.

/agrees.

 

[Ms.Teacher]

Amen bigbull! I haven't had sex in over 2 years now, and honestly, I don't really miss it. My hands and my toys keep me in good shape most of the time, though a few times a month I kinda go crazy and like REALLY REALLY want to be inside a woman. Those days suck lol. As you stated above, the things I miss most about being in a relationship are the intimacy, the love, the touch, the romance one experiences with another person. I am determined, however, that the next time I have sex with someone, that that person will be someone that I am deeply in love with, and could spend the rest of my life together with them. I want to make love to a woman, and have sex as sex was intended to be, the ultimate act of love. Once we get beyond the intitial acts of love making, then we can screw like bunnies, though passionate, love filled sex will still be a major part of our sexual relationship. I'm a romantic at heart, and want to swoon a woman, make her fall in love with me for who I am, not for my body or any other physical attribution I may or may not have.

I like him. :smile:

It seems to be about quantity like most things in America and never about quality. For me I'd rather have 5 gourmet meals a year than 100 Happy Meals. Happy Meal sex is sex just as some people consider McDonald's to be food but it rarely is satisfying. It just gets rid of the hunger.

I enjoy fast food on occasion, but when it comes to sex, I'll pass on the happy meal. I'm interested in quality over quantity.

I've had a lot of sex in my life and I got to a point where there were just too many Happy Meals. Sensual people are rare in my experience, people who I truly love to have sex with is also rare for me. Great transcendent sex is complex because it's about the energy, how the person looks, smells, talks, acts, feels and touches, and responds. But whenever I find someone like that I truly savor every bit of it and on those rare times sex transcends everything but for the many Happy Meal sex I've had I'd say it's overrated. And when people say it's not overrated because they have great sex everytime....they're probably kidding themselves.

Aren't you contradicting yourself there? You enjoyed your happy meals but overdosed on them. You've had great transcendent sex, but yet you say it's overrated because it's not great sex every time. Was happy meal sex great every time?

You're right about sensual people being rare, and wanting the energy, looks, smells, etc., so when you find that, why are you letting it pass you by? Even when we get all of that, we can't expect to have mind blowing sex every time. If we're lucky we might.

The media and society makes you feel less than a man if you're not getting shagged every night, can't get a blow job off any woman with little more than a look and have had a lesbian threesome at least once a month.

Very true.

 

[QuiteOne]

Yes... I think sex is overrated... however I also think it's awesome!

My opinion is that people place WAY too much emphasis on sex. It's just one of MANY aspects of a healthy and satisfying life.

 

[B_becominghorse]

No, it's not overrated if you're getting a lot of good fucking, but for those of use consumed by its pleasure, it's sometimes inconvenient.

 

[deleted15807]

I think it's based on genes and environment. Some people can't get enough while others can go a might long time.

 

[earllogjam]

@ earllogjam. If I'm hungry. I'll have a Happy Meal, and it'll taste damn good. But you can't live on Happy Meals and stay healthy.

this reminds me of how i got violently ill after eating too many prepared bentos from the seven-11's in japan while traveling.

...erm no, not really, sorry.

pup, it will become more clear to you after you get laid a few more times.:wink:

Aren't you contradicting yourself there? You enjoyed your happy meals but overdosed on them. You've had great transcendent sex, but yet you say it's overrated because it's not great sex every time. Was happy meal sex great every time?

sex like most things you experience varies in enjoyment and consistancy and is not the fantastic thing that it is made out to be everytime.

You're right about sensual people being rare, and wanting the energy, looks, smells, etc., so when you find that, why are you letting it pass you by? Even when we get all of that, we can't expect to have mind blowing sex every time. If we're lucky we might.

good sex is peculiar to who you are in that moment in your life.

 

[D_Martin van Burden]

I think, specifically, the last call bar desperation hook-up is the most overrated. At one point in my life, getting laid was a strong priority. I get horny like everybody else, but I don't pursue hookups with as much vigor or interest. Why? I like being disease free.

Seriously, I think it's just where I am mentally. I recognize that it was once a feat or an accomplishment to get laid on the regular, but now I don't really let my sex life (or a lack thereof, at times) dictate that. I like sex and I enjoy it, but I don't feel like I have to live constantly on the hunt. I do fine when I'm not as sexually active. I still have fun with my friends and my hobbies. I don't need sport fucking to entertain me. I just take it as it comes along, and I don't feel like I'm any less of a man for doing so. In fact, I probably spend more time laughing at the guys who are a little more obvious in their desperation.

 

[B_Hung Jon]

Hoping that was written in sarcasm but if not, QED!

yeh, it obviously is.

 

[Rugbypup]

Hey, this is LPSG, nothing is taken as obviouse here.

 

[BIGBULL29]

Some people throughout history have said they have trascended the desire for sex. I believe that was and can be the case for some (not many, though). There is liberation in knowing that you can live without sex. Besides, if sex in itself is so fulfilling, no one would ever choose to be celibate, would he (or she)?

I get sick and tired of hearing about how my gender can't give their dicks in their pants. I've done it for years, and it's kept me out of a lot of trouble. I feel a sense of freedom from being celibate. But that doesn't mean that I never have desires for intimacy. These days, though, I make zero efforts to find sex.:biggrin1:

I may be going on a vissipana meditation retreat this summer. Maybe I'll come back with an even greater desire to be celibate. Just maybe I'll become a monk someday! :tongue:

 

[unabear09]

Some people throughout history have said they have trascended the desire for sex. I believe that was and can be the case for some (not many, though). There is liberation in knowing that you can live without sex. Besides, if sex in itself is so fulfilling, no one would ever choose to be celibate, would he (or she)?

I get sick and tired of hearing about how my gender can't give their dicks in their pants. I've done it for years, and it's kept me out of a lot of trouble. I feel a sense of freedom from being celibate. But that doesn't mean that I never have desires for intimacy. These days, though, I make zero efforts to find sex.:biggrin1:

I may be going on a vissipana meditation retreat this summer. Maybe I'll come back with an even greater desire to be celibate. Just maybe I'll become a monk someday! :tongue:

Great post man! Gonna get laughed off the board for this, but I kind of like not having to worry about having sex. Seeking and having sex complicates so many things for me (and I'm sure I'm not alone here), and my life and mind is way too complicated as it is without throwing something else to worry about it. I (as I have said many times before) look at sex as the ultimate expression of love, and I want to keep it that way. I want to be madly in love with someone, to the point where the only other way I can express my love is to make love to that woman. In a way I feel as Bigbull, in that I feel a sense of freedom by not having or persuing a sexual relationship. Don't get me wrong, I still have a very active sex drive, its just I have little desire to go out and have sex. So, until I meet that special someone who I fall madly in love with, I shall remain celibate.

 

[2322]

I may be going on a vissipana meditation retreat this summer. Maybe I'll come back with an even greater desire to be celibate. Just maybe I'll become a monk someday! :tongue:

That would be a colossal waste and I don't mean your dick.


I think much depends on what the intention is behind the sex you're having. If it's just a glorified form of masturbation or you're just browsing the variety racks, then yeah, sex can be very overrated. On the other hand, there are times when masturbation just doesn't cut it. I don't know how you know it, but it's a different kind of urge than just the basic need to get off. Those times sex can be the fulfillment of a necessity, and while it may not be great, it does the job.

I am at a disadvantage because I have never had sex with someone I love. Perhaps though, I can turn that disadvantage to an advantage by addressing the situation as an outsider.

My suspicion is that sex between two people who love each other is likely the most underrated sex there is. I know widows and widowers who would gladly trade the worst sex they've had with their spouses for just one more time with the love they lost. We all have our off nights, or sometimes engage in sex to please someone else, but always realize that time and love are the two most precious gifts of life. If you can share both with someone, then I doubt any sex with that person will ever be overrated.

 

[invisibleman]

I get sick and tired of hearing about how my gender can't give their dicks in their pants. I've done it for years, and it's kept me out of a lot of trouble. I feel a sense of freedom from being celibate. But that doesn't mean that I never have desires for intimacy. These days, though, I make zero efforts to find sex.:biggrin1:

I may be going on a vissipana meditation retreat this summer. Maybe I'll come back with an even greater desire to be celibate. Just maybe I'll become a monk someday! :tongue:

A monk with a big cock. That is kinda hot. I would put on a Jake Dakota video just to see your religion. Hehehehe. :wink:

 

[deleted213967]

Yes. I often feel sex is overrated, typically 1.35 minutes after ejaculation.

Often, the feeling dissipates, typically 1.35 seconds before ejaculation.

 

[BIGBULL29]

Great post man! Gonna get laughed off the board for this, but I kind of like not having to worry about having sex. Seeking and having sex complicates so many things for me (and I'm sure I'm not alone here), and my life and mind is way too complicated as it is without throwing something else to worry about it. I (as I have said many times before) look at sex as the ultimate expression of love, and I want to keep it that way. I want to be madly in love with someone, to the point where the only other way I can express my love is to make love to that woman. In a way I feel as Bigbull, in that I feel a sense of freedom by not having or persuing a sexual relationship. Don't get me wrong, I still have a very active sex drive, its just I have little desire to go out and have sex. So, until I meet that special someone who I fall madly in love with, I shall remain celibate.

Thanks (I knew someone out there was a little like me):wink:

You do what is right for you. I'm doing what is right for me at this time in my life. I have to keep my life as simple as possible.

To Invisibleman: I'm not attracted to Jake Dakota, btw, so you need to put another video to see my religion. :biggrin1: A monk with a big cock is hot? OK.

It was driving me nuts, you know, to know who he was in the pic I posted on another thread in the etcetera, etcetera forum. I saw that pic on a porn site and knew it was someone I saw in a porno a while back. Anyways, that pic turned out to be a pic of Cal Reynolds (don't like him either). I'm not much into gay porn, even though I watch a scene on occassion.

To Jason_els: I don't consider myself a waste because I'm choosing celibacy :wink: (I know you aren't being malicious in that comment:smile

Peace to all of you. Good night (going to burn some incense and meditate)

 

[OCMuscleJock]

Well we know that ain't true. If it were hookers would be the happiest people on the planet. The profession everyone wants to get into.

well they don't call prostitution the oldest profession for nothing!

 

[Alex Chambers]

Ever Feel Sex is Overrated?

Uh, no.

 

[invisibleman]

Thanks (I knew someone out there was a little like me):wink:

You do what is right for you. I'm doing what is right for me at this time in my life. I have to keep my life as simple as possible.

To Invisibleman: I'm not attracted to Jake Dakota, btw, so you need to put another video to see my religion. :biggrin1: A monk with a big cock is hot? OK.

It was driving me nuts, you know, to know who he was in the pic I posted on another thread in the etcetera, etcetera forum. I saw that pic on a porn site and knew it was someone I saw in a porno a while back. Anyways, that pic turned out to be a pic of Cal Reynolds (don't like him either). I'm not much into gay porn, even though I watch a scene on occassion.​

To Jason_els: I don't consider myself a waste because I'm choosing celibacy :wink: (I know you aren't being malicious in that comment:smile

Peace to all of you. Good night (going to burn some incense and meditate)

Yeah, okay.

I am not into straight porn but I like to watch Charles Dera, Jack Venice, and Ben English on occasion. And they really are religiously blessed on the screen. Like the Bull. :biggrin1:

I think that monks and Mormon guys are truly dirty minded. No matter how puritanical, the deeper the tail.