Ever get busted by partner camming or having cyber?

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  1. randddue

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    My wife once walked in on me while I was having cyber sex with a guy, both of us camming. She'd been out and I was so involved, and so close to cumming, that I didn't hear her quiet, earlier than expected return. Her arrival shocked me but also caused me to go over the edge and blow a big load. She was even more shocked as she had no idea I'd do such a thing online, especially with a guy! She had hurt feelings too, and it took a while for her to get over it and just accept that this was a "new way" to jerk off, no more unfaithful than jerking off to porn which we've done together. I did have to remove the camera from my computer though, and reassure her that I was not gay and that this was just something that happened, "fooling arond". I still enjoy cyber sex, and masturbate online with men and women as I find it very stimulating, more than porn. But I am VERY cautious that I not get busted again. Any simlar expereinces? I'd love to hear about them, and how you resolved it.
     
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    if you feel you have to hide it, then u see it as "cheating". but maybe that's part of what makes it hotter for u.

    if ur doing it in place of sex with ur wife then maybe it's time to man up and tell her that ur just not that into her anymore and move on.

    i'm not in a committed relationship right now but i think i'd feel a little hurt if the dude was getting off with other dudes online and hiding it from me. overall i dont' really see that as cheating but it's prolly a gateway behaviour that would lead to an actual affair, and basically a selfish attitude.
     
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    This is bullshit.
     
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    Thanks for the response. But this is not something I do in place of sex with my wife...far from it. I feel that my solo activities keep me in tune sexually and that I'm gnerally more interested in sex with her, not less.
     
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