Ever Give your Number to a Complete Stranger (in a public setting)?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by D_vtrr56sew, Aug 22, 2011.

  1. D_vtrr56sew

    D_vtrr56sew New Member

    Joined:
    Aug 18, 2011
    Messages:
    46
    Likes Received:
    0
    Riding the subway in NY, or just walking down the street for that matter, it's not uncommon for me to lock eyes with a guy I find attractive.

    Something I've thought about is dropping my number to a guy randomly. Obviously I'd have to make strong eye contact and get a real gay vibe. For example, I sat across from a gay couple in their 40's on Saturday on the train. The one guy was checking me out and stared at me for a good amount of time. Then he started to rub his partner's upper body in a kind of discrete way. I thought he was sending me a little message.

    Anyway, not that I would have given my number to this guy, it's just something that intrigues me that I think I'll do one day. I mean I'd only do it when I get up for my stop or the other guy does. That way, there'd be no confrontation of any sort and he'd be able to just call me if he wanted to, or not. Maybe I'll write down my name and number on a piece of paper and keep it in my wallet handy. :wink:

    So, has anyone ever done this? What happened?
     
  2. canuck_pa

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 28, 2007
    Messages:
    2,403
    Likes Received:
    351
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Beautiful Vancouver Canada
    I've never done it myself although I've wanted to.

    However if I had been given a number from someone as attractive as you I'd feel very flattered.
     
  3. D_Harry_Crax

    D_Harry_Crax Account Disabled

    Joined:
    Sep 3, 2006
    Messages:
    4,636
    Likes Received:
    106
    I have a friend in Washington DC who does this regularly. Usually he hears nothing, but sometimes he gets a call. He thinks of it as "playing the numbers"--the more guys he gives his number out to, the more likely one of them will call.

    Also, NYCman, you may give me your number anytime.
     
  4. SparkyNYC

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 21, 2010
    Messages:
    1,009
    Likes Received:
    2
    Go for it!.at worst you can.block.him
     
  5. Remington

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Aug 8, 2010
    Messages:
    1,635
    Albums:
    3
    Likes Received:
    62
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Washington/Arizona
    Verified:
    Photo
    I've never given my number to a complete stranger.

    Too many weirdos, out there.
     
  6. silvertriumph2

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Aug 26, 2007
    Messages:
    5,628
    Albums:
    3
    Likes Received:
    3,948
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Eastcoast USA (NYC-Manhattan)
    Verified:
    Photo

    I live in NYC too...and I have in the past done it, but not too many times. Most of the time it was on the subway, in a bar, or in Central Park.

    I did it once to a guy, after many days traveling to and from work in the same car together and looking at each other. We began to wait for each other before taking a train, and eventually started giving little smiles and nods of good morning.

    So, I thought it was stupid to continue it and figured it was time to act, so when I got off one day I handed him a piece of paper. He called about 10 minutes after I got home and we met that night for dinner. We are still friends to this day...

    But, I think it prudent to be careful...
     
  7. D_Pokin Joe Frazier

    D_Pokin Joe Frazier New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 26, 2010
    Messages:
    1,092
    Likes Received:
    4
    I do it all the time its so not a big deal just say hi my name is ....and here is my card if you every want to have lunch.
     
  8. bigboy9239

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    May 3, 2006
    Messages:
    7,572
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    211
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    In the City close to NJ and Delaware
    No..but i had a pretty blond give me her number without me asking....
     
  9. mikebm4wm

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Sep 3, 2010
    Messages:
    1,168
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    268
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Atlanta,Ga.
    I JUST did this...while getting my hair cut today this guy comes in and while getting his hair cut I noticed he would make eye contact in the mirror with me a few times...so I asked my stylist for pen and paper which I wrote : just a compliment if nothing else but handsome guy...signed my name and number ...gave it to my stylist to give to his stylist to give to him...not expecting anything to come of it but nothing ventured nothing gained and trying to be MORE proactive these days !!!
     
  10. EllieP

    Staff Member Moderator Gold Member

    Joined:
    Sep 21, 2009
    Messages:
    8,621
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    6,700
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Florida (US)
    I have, but I'm sort of forward that way. There definitely is a double standard, because when a total stranger gives me his number I would have immediately put up my defense walls. I've actually done it twice. The first was a very nice dinner and drinks, my treat, of course. Nothing more. The second was a phone call explaining how flattered he was but he was married. I waited for him to say "but..." but it never came. I thought "lucky woman."
     
  11. MickeyLee

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Nov 3, 2008
    Messages:
    12,627
    Likes Received:
    4,981
    Location:
    neverhood
    yep. have given out my number and have gotten numbers.

    i do give out the junk number, a number i keep updated to wherever i am living at the time. so the number gets changed with relocation.

    very few people get the "real" phone number.
     
  12. D_Kitten_Kaboodle

    D_Kitten_Kaboodle Account Disabled

    Joined:
    Apr 24, 2010
    Messages:
    4,304
    Likes Received:
    56
    agree.... but I've given my number to folks I have met online many times... but the number actually belongs to FancyPants.... It's her play phone... just in case she runs across a stalker or weirdo that wants to track her down... can't be done. Play phones (prepaid kind with no paper trail) are wonderful for this type of "sexcapade"
     
  13. D_Tim McGnaw

    D_Tim McGnaw Account Disabled

    Joined:
    Aug 30, 2009
    Messages:
    7,308
    Likes Received:
    12
    Yeah I've given out my number to plenty of perfect strangers, not my land line of course, only my mobile.

    Sometimes it's led to hookups and fun other times to friendship. I met one of my exes that way too.

    I don't give my number out to strangers on the interwebz though, it's got to be a flesh and blood encounter.
     
  14. D_Percy_Prettywillie

    D_Percy_Prettywillie Account Disabled

    Joined:
    Jul 6, 2011
    Messages:
    762
    Likes Received:
    3
    I did this once! Alright, I had a really rough day at work and I decided I was going to stop at the first place I found on the way home that served alcohol. Just my luck, it was the Olive Garden (yuck.) Well, I got jolly well smashed, but before I did I noted that my server was very cute. He was curvy in all the right places, tall, and had the best complexion and most beautiful features I'd seen in a while. I decided that when he brought the bill I'd write my number on it and tell him to call me. That was one of those "What have I got to lose" days. I did it and took a cab home.

    I forgot about it until about a week later I got a text message saying "Hey, this is Tyler from the Olive Garden." I was very excited. We got together that night for coffee. Unfortunately for me, Tyler turned out to be an 18 year old finishing his last semester of high school. He certainly did not look that young. I estimated he was my age or older (before I got so drunk that it wouldn't have mattered.)

    That was a deal breaker for me so I never saw him again and avoid the Olive Garden like grim death (not that I needed an excuse for that anyway.) I will say I was proud of myself for overcoming that fear of rejection and just going for it and then not being rejected made it all the sweeter. It's not the sort of thing I think I could do regularly though. It takes a particularly inspiring stranger to illicit that sort of response I think.




    JSZ
     
  15. B_crackoff

    B_crackoff New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 17, 2010
    Messages:
    1,742
    Likes Received:
    1
    A few years ago -I saw a woman on a train - she was with her sisters- she gave me eye contact - I followed her to the toilet - & we literally rode the tracks together. Turned out she didn't have a phone!

    A couple of years before that, when I was late teens, 2 lithe teenage girls (one full on, one quite shy)came down the train, bothering & sitting on the laps of the gentlemen seated.

    Not being the jealous type when it came to new fun, I waited till they came to me, & got off with the full on one. They invited me off. I said no. Then the shy one came on to me. I got off, & was with them both.
    #
    I miss certain days of my youth:frown1: There are always more stories of failure than adventure - but you've got to put yourself out there if you ever want new experiences & fun!
     
    #15 B_crackoff, Aug 23, 2011
    Last edited: Aug 23, 2011
  16. art

    art
    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Nov 29, 2005
    Messages:
    2,183
    Likes Received:
    352
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Virginia
    Sure, done it a few times & gotten numbers in return. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. I've also BlueToothed 'em my "business card" contact a few times. (My current gf and I met this way on a crowded bus. The story's in LPSG somewhere.) For strangers (no matter how cute or sexy), I give out only the cell number. We've got to be really good friends before I hand out the unlisted landline number. I'll put you on my speed dial you before I'll give you the landline.
     
Draft saved Draft deleted