Hey folks, first post apart from my brief new member one. My burning question at the minute is what experiences others have had with girlfriends (or maybe boyfriends, but that's not for me) who they have been too big for. I'll probably be just ranting and blarging a bit too, cuz I need to talk to someone due to my current situation. I have split up with my fiancé of nearly 2 years earlier this week after finding out she's been having an affair, though it wasn't me who wanted things to end, I've known she hasn't been satisfied in bed for a while and I haven't been either, because her head is never really 'there'. I still love her and hope she can find happiness with her new partner, who is a mutual friend... it's all very bizarre. I actually found out for certain about the affair (which I've suspected for months and she has denied), by taking a day off without telling her and sneaking inside through the back door and catching her in bed with him with a great line of saying "So, how much better will I have to get to know you before I trust you?", something he had said to reassure me when had confronted them about my (apparently accurate) worries previously. I did see his cock, and at the time thought, "Well, I won't know if he's bigger than me since he wasn't erect yet"... yeah yeah, standard guy jealousy etc. Turns out however, when having another really fucking bizarre conversation today, that when I came in one of the things that went through his head was "Shit, another guy has seen my erect cock"... now that surprised me a little and my eyes went a little wide and I said, in total shock and without thinking "That was ERECT? Oh god, I didn't even consider that possibility, I just thought I got there before you'd got hard." Seriously, at a guess the guys about 4.5"-5" long and an inch wide, not much bigger than me flacid on a warm day. Anyway, turns out, though very cagily spoken about since the whole subject just makes her nervous, that my ex was always 'uncomfortable' with intercourse with me. I'm a bit under or over 9 inches long depending on quite how aroused I am, about 2.25 - 2.5 wide and I know it's above average but never considered it a problem because she always reassured me it wasn't except in some positions if I wasn't carefull enough. I haven't had a lot of sexual partners, she was my third (never had a one night stand, always ended up in relationships). After my first relationship (5 year marriage) my ex also said afterwards in conversation that it was actually quite nice to be able to have sex without worrying about it hurting, in spite of her being far from a virgin when we first slept together I apparently made her bleed a little our first time, which she hadn't told me about (it did take 6 hours for her to make me cum mind, which I am pretty proud of for a first time). So, what I want other people's opinions on is do others have any similar experiences in relationships? Have you ever found out that relationship problems may have started because of sexual problems involving you being too big, and that being kept hidden by your partner rather than them telling you about it so you can give them oral and have penetration less often (which would never have been a problem for me).