Ever had complaints?

[Nick01522]

Hey folks, first post apart from my brief new member one.

My burning question at the minute is what experiences others have had with girlfriends (or maybe boyfriends, but that's not for me) who they have been too big for. I'll probably be just ranting and blarging a bit too, cuz I need to talk to someone due to my current situation.

I have split up with my fiancé of nearly 2 years earlier this week after finding out she's been having an affair, though it wasn't me who wanted things to end, I've known she hasn't been satisfied in bed for a while and I haven't been either, because her head is never really 'there'. I still love her and hope she can find happiness with her new partner, who is a mutual friend... it's all very bizarre.

I actually found out for certain about the affair (which I've suspected for months and she has denied), by taking a day off without telling her and sneaking inside through the back door and catching her in bed with him with a great line of saying "So, how much better will I have to get to know you before I trust you?", something he had said to reassure me when had confronted them about my (apparently accurate) worries previously. I did see his cock, and at the time thought, "Well, I won't know if he's bigger than me since he wasn't erect yet"... yeah yeah, standard guy jealousy etc. Turns out however, when having another really fucking bizarre conversation today, that when I came in one of the things that went through his head was "Shit, another guy has seen my erect cock"... now that surprised me a little and my eyes went a little wide and I said, in total shock and without thinking "That was ERECT? Oh god, I didn't even consider that possibility, I just thought I got there before you'd got hard."

Seriously, at a guess the guys about 4.5"-5" long and an inch wide, not much bigger than me flacid on a warm day.

Anyway, turns out, though very cagily spoken about since the whole subject just makes her nervous, that my ex was always 'uncomfortable' with intercourse with me. I'm a bit under or over 9 inches long depending on quite how aroused I am, about 2.25 - 2.5 wide and I know it's above average but never considered it a problem because she always reassured me it wasn't except in some positions if I wasn't carefull enough. I haven't had a lot of sexual partners, she was my third (never had a one night stand, always ended up in relationships).

After my first relationship (5 year marriage) my ex also said afterwards in conversation that it was actually quite nice to be able to have sex without worrying about it hurting, in spite of her being far from a virgin when we first slept together I apparently made her bleed a little our first time, which she hadn't told me about (it did take 6 hours for her to make me cum mind, which I am pretty proud of for a first time).

So, what I want other people's opinions on is do others have any similar experiences in relationships? Have you ever found out that relationship problems may have started because of sexual problems involving you being too big, and that being kept hidden by your partner rather than them telling you about it so you can give them oral and have penetration less often (which would never have been a problem for me).

 

[B_625girth]

I've only had a two gals complain about my size. the first gal complained that I wasn't long enough at 7.25", but she liked my girth, 6.25". But we continued for several months, and the sex was very good.

the second complaint was that I was too thick, and the first time we screwed it took several minutes to get all of me inside her. she was quite small, and complained some, but had an intense orgasm a few minutes later. I had a condom on and cumming just wasn't going to happen for while, so I kept stroking her. after 2 more orgasms I finally reached mine, and we both fell asleep. the next morning she was a little sore, and had trouble walking. she complained a little. by the next weekend, she was ready for more, and got on top and slowly came down on me. we broke up because she wanted to date more guys. I was her second. so she went out with a mutual friend. apparently, he was not too large, and she accused me of "runing" her. they had sex on their second date, and that was their last date. he told me he was disappointed, and called me a bastard.

 

[Nick01522]

Yeah, I've had the opposite reaction too, my second gf absolutely loved it, couldn't get enough of it and loved to keep going and coming over and over again till she was too sore to do anything again for a couple of days. Seems to be the shorter ones that have issues

 

[Big--One]

Normally girls complain about my girth (close to a coke can), that I hurt them when I push it in. Also when I get too deep it often hurts but there I more or less get these accusing moans or they try to push against me.
Most of the girls have been sore after a good fucking, even with lots of lube.
But these complains differ often depending on the experience of the girls!

 

[alex8.5]

My girth was the issue and the length. On two occasions

 

[Principessa]

I've only had a two gals complain about my size. the first gal complained that I wasn't long enough at 7.25", but she liked my girth, 6.25". But we continued for several months, and the sex was very good.

I was her second. so she went out with a mutual friend. apparently, he was not too large, and she accused me of "ruining" her. they had sex on their second date, and that was their last date. he told me he was disappointed, and called me a bastard.

I'm sorry but I have to laugh. :biggrin1: Why would he call you a bastard, if he was disappointed in her?

Assuming she told him about your magnificent man meat that's really not your fault. Perhaps she should consider becoming a size queen. :tongue:

 

[B_Monster]

Only with girth, not lenght.

 

[Ali-Pali]

Nobody's ever mentioned size but i have been asked to go a bit slower...

 

[dolfette]

people complain about it? to your face?

that's so rude!

 

[Ericsson1228d]

I guess the moral of Nick's story is that a big cock does not = martial (or premarital) bliss.

 

[art]

My 2nd girlfriend (who was a virgin before I met her) was always instructing me to enter her more slowly, because of the thickness of my cock. It took three dates before I got all the way in, and after that, I went for lots of foreplay and making out, and even more lube. (My first gf had no complaints, and I slid right in the first time we got together, so I thought that was normal. I certainly didn't know any better as a 15-year-old virgin.)

 

[thereisalight]

My wife has complained for several years that it hurts (if we go more than a few days between sessions). Complaints are directed towards girth rather than length although a few times she said "ok, stop or 'it' will poke out of my throat."

Guys will occasionally complain as well.

 

[B_andyo]

no major complaints, only a few here and there little painful strokes.

But, nothing to to keep sex flowing

porn girls get hurt too, I probably was hurting one a lil bit, she told me to do it slower.

 

[B_IanTheTall]

Contrary to popular opinion, there is such a thing as too big; the point varies on the recipient and what your doing.

For vaginal there is too long.
For anal there is too thick.
For oral there is too thick and then too long.

 

[D_Iskepee_Longwoodee]

My first girlfriend complained of the length...this was in college. My Second girlfriend I dated bitched about my length and girth, because not only did it feel good, but it hurt at the same time. All or most of my former girlfriends told me they saw a penis of my dimension before. I did have one girlfriend recently who told me that she never knew they came in those sizes. My Boyfriends have also complained about the same...only now is my significant other starting to enjoy it and now knows how to use it to his advantage.

 

[AttemptingZen]

Unfortunately, I have :frown1: When I was with my ex sex was always pretty good, if not as often as I'd like. However a couple of years ago I lost a significant amount of weight, and I guess with the fat pad diminishing, I gained just under an inch in length, and my ex told me I felt thicker as well. (although that either had to be his imagination, or just improved blood flow rather than any real growth) Unfortunately sex became a lot more uncomfortable for him, I did my best to not go deep, but I was rather used to slamming all the way in and never really having to worry about that. That wasn't a big part of why we broke up, but it factored.

I've not really had a lot of complaints since, but I've also learned to be far more careful. (also, amusingly enough, since our break-up he still regularly tries to get ex-sex... now that we're not together anymore he loves it being bigger)

 

[D_Bob_N_Weaver]

Only complaint I've had was from a tiny Asian girl.

 

[B_Demention]

Only a few times in a jokingly good way when I start to press into the back of someone. I've heard that that sensation is painful to some women, but I've never had one that didn't like it. Ironically, the only one I've hurt doing that is myself, as my head gets a little sore from pressing that back part over and over. It's just really hot to do though, so I tend to always go there regardless.

 

[Juicee Jubes]

I would call myself an expert deepthroater not because im the best at giving but cause i enjoy doing it with a passion/ and usually dont have too many trouble getting in most large members to the base. 9+ in. Once all the way down I like to swallow gently to simulate milking effect / which turn mosts guys on as well. Big turn on for me - get pleasure from giving oral pleasure..

I find cocks 80-90% erect are another turnon and when fully hard some guys can make you little sore from deepthroating but always possibl;e. My trick is to gently slide my tongue out as I go down usually does the trick. Can size cocks can be challenging tho. ;p

Cuddle

 

[D_Hyacinth Harrytwat]

I'm really sorry to hear about all this and having to break up with your fiancée but I must say - it's amazing that you had something so good to say when you caught them (and, you know, didn't try to throw the guy out the door).

I guess you do have to find the right fit, but I've heard of tons of people just making it work (both too big and too small).

On a lighter note I hope you do find someone who can really get into it, mind and body, because it doesn't hurt if you're really into it and enjoying the moment. Funny how guilt has a way of distracting someone during sex eh?