Ever had your partner take it from you?

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  1. Rommette

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    Have you and your partner ever taken on roles and he took it from you? Sometimes I like it rough but for the most part many of my sexual encounters seem to be this slow love making process. Sometimes I wanna say "Will you go faster". It seems as if the faster they go the faster they cum. I wish they could still go fast and have a long session. For me pain is pleasure but i've still never had an orgasm during sex. :rolleyes: One day i'll get there.....
     
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    3. Most women like to be fucked, and fucked well. Yes, there are women out there who want to "make love" every time - sweet, gentle, rocking love with lots of eye contact and loving kisses. Those women are not the majority. The majority like to be pounded. The majority like to have their hair pulled. The majority like a good, solid jackhammering. When a woman is bucking wildly against you, it's not because she wants you to pull back and slowly swirl your cock around her vagina like you're mixing a cake batter up there. It's because she wants you to hold down her arms, or grab her hips, or push her legs above her head, and fuck her harder. Don't be too afraid of what this means as far as gender equality goes - I am a raging feminist bitch, but I still want to be penetrated like you are planning on fucking my throat from the inside out.

    4. A little roughness is nice. Do not pretend that you had no idea that some women like their hair pulled. Do not act shocked if she wants you to spank her ("Really? Spanking? Won't it hurt?" - yes, it does. That's the fucking point). We know you've read Stuff and Maxim, and that's all those laddie mags talk about in their "How to Please Her" sections. Start with light, full handed smacks to the area of her ass that she sits on. Judge her response and continue on from there. You don't have to bend her over one knee and tell her she's a naughty girl and that Daddy's going to punish her; save that for the fifth date. Women are less delicate than you think, so don't worry about breaking her hip.

    5. It's OK for you to make noise. Otherwise, we feel like we are fucking a ninja. Unless you actually are a ninja, and have sneaked into our rooms with vibrating nanuchaku and zippered black pajamas, please, please make some noise. If you're banging a woman, and she's crying out and saying your name and moaning, and you can't even manage a grunt, she's going to feel like an idiot. You don't have to make the sounds she is making, but do SOMETHING. You know how when you are watching porn, and the girl does something great to the guy and the guy kind of goes "Ah!", half grunt, half yell? That's HOT. Do that. Whisper our name (assuming you know it) gruffly. Groan against her neck when you're in missionary position. You don't have to grunt like a mountain gorilla, but if you are totally mute, she's going to get worried.

    6. Most women like dirty talk, in addition to the grunting. If you'd like to get some dirty talk going, ask her if she likes the way you fuck her. If she responds well, continue with something like, "I love fucking you. God, you look so fucking hot." Is she still moaning in response? "Your tits are so beautiful." Does that work? If she doesn't respond well to the term "tits", you might have to stop there. If she keep moaning or responding, pass Go and collect $200. Try the following:

    "Oh, god. Your pussy is SO tight."
    "You're so wet - are you wet because you like the feel of my cock ramming you?"
    "I think I'm going to come inside you. I'm going to fill up your little cunt." It doesn't matter that you're wearing a condom; we LOVE hearing this.

    If all of those work, you can then progress to things like "sexy little bitch" and "dirty whore". Tread carefully, but please, tread. Do not tiptoe. Do not sit down. Charge.

    8. We really like it when you come. It's called a money shot for a reason. Watching semen shoot out of you is one of the most gratifying things EVER. However, do not assume that she wants you to jack it off onto her face. She might, but don't assume. Seeing and/or feeling you come is rewarding for us, so there's no need to deprive us of it, but please do consult us before unleashing. "I think I'm going to come - how do you like it?" is a fair question that shouldn't rob you of your testicles.



    OMG!!!!! This explains me 100%.....i'm glad to know i'm not alone
     
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    *nods in agreement with every word up above*

    Yes, that is me to a T as well - and I have that man in my life - with the most delicious British accent to boot and mind, hands and body to drive me wild.

    Someone that will put his lips close to my ear, barely touching it, groaning softly when out on town 'so you want that hot, hard cock of mine to slide all the way in baby? nah, too gentle, think I might just lift you up and the drop you down straight on it, push all the way up inside in one single move'. Hands at the same time pulling me in against a raging hard-on.

    Or early morning lying there awake but still sleepy, hands pulling me to the edge of the bed, angling my butt up in the air, fingers moving inside to make sure I'm wet enough and then his cock sliding in, fucking me until I'm wide awake and can hear him grunt behind as he cums deep inside.

    Or his lips moving over my neck, teeth biting down, hard enough to hurt a bit, mouth sucking, maybe leaving marks at places where they won't be readily seen - just to remind me I am his and that he has every right in the world to mark me as he see fit, for others to see and know I belong to him.

    Doesn't stop him one minute from being the most considerate man I know who will cook me dinner as I get home tired from yet another day's work, cuddle up on the sofa, bring me a huge glass of grape juice, massage my feet, hug me tight when I'm at my PMSiest crying mood or take me out for a suprise meal just because he felt like it that day. Bad boy in bed, perfect gentleman in all other parts of life - couldn't ask for anything more. :)
     
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    Ooohhh Girl!!!! You tell it like it is!! I agree with every word too.
    I didn't read the craigslist until after I posted but whoever she is, she's a very smart woman and not afraid to tell it like it is. I want to print that out and post it in a prominent place in my bedroom or carry a copy in my purse.:wink::rolleyes:
     
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    I don't understand why men WOULDN'T act that way in the bedroom. And the only reason I can think is there are a bunch of dry cunt snot nosed women out there asking for gentle romance, and pushing this to the men of the world as equality, when sex is really about pure animal agression and filthy cock in cunt action. I'm not being funny but why slide it gently in and gaze in your lovers eyes even when trying to be loving? Its much better to pound harshly whilst gazing into her eyes. And both your eyes are saying the same thing - FUCK ME.
     
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    lol I've read that before and really sums it up great. Many women (not all) love the feeling of being 'taken' during sex. Count my wife in that group for sure. Sometimes sensual is great especially to start out but you gotta ramp it up and bring it too.
     
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    A couple things I'd add, in response to this post and the craigslist thing is that no one can say what "most" people like. We tend to form social groups around similar values which bias our perception. However, that should not stop people from pointing out what they've noticed in their own lives. I've known plenty of women who complain about not getting enough sex, not getting good sex, and not getting aggressive/assertive sex. And I'm sure they would agree with these statements.

    But, as far as equality goes, the goal of equality is not to impose limits but to allow greater liberty and opportunity. So while men need to be encouraged to "take" their partners so do women. That's what I consider a great sexual relationship, when either partner can be counted on to ravish the other from time to time, as well as engage in some very mutually aggressive or tender sex (the freedom to enjoy whatever roles suits you at the moment).

    So women, remember sometimes the person you're with is also thinking: just fucking fuck me already.
     
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    For a virgin dork like me, that craiglist post made my cock go hard and limp at the same time.
     
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    Consider yourself lucky!

    Men act this way because they thinks romance is what we want when most of us want the total opposite!


    I totally agree with you......I often joke around and say "don't make me bend u over".....lol. I've never had to force him......we have an agreement that when i want it i get it.
     
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    I liked to be fucked slow. Slow hard and deep. But when i do feel like a change and he just isnt getting it i always find it better to jump on top, fuck him hard, get him worked up as much as i can then let him take over and finish me off.
     
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    In your mind until you meet me eye to eye if you d
    That's right I like it rough. Discipline and show me who is boss, make me beg for more! Show me your the man. Order me boss me and make me OBEY. Throw that intense power on me that I would die for and I'll worship every drop.
     
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    I like it slow, candlelit, and sensuous every once in awhile, but generally, I prefer sex to be a teasing challenge that culminates in being driven, or driving him ;), to a wet, fully worked orgasm.

    I want my body to feel like I've had sex the next day, even next few days. The little twinge of discomfort or feel of swollen lips that brings on a fucking flashback is quite delicious. :32:
     
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    amen to that :)
     
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    That's me all the way:eek:
     
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    I love this post! I enjoy a challenge but, please don't ask for sex. If your a man take it. Be sensual but, take control. Don't ask tell. Take me completely or not at all.
     
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    does that include cybersex : P
     
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    The advice from the Craigslist article could be titled:
    "Men - How to get your ass kicked out of bed!"

    Everybody is different.
    Not everyone enjoys rough stuff.

    Hair pulling and spanking do not constitute turn ons for me.

    Romance and sensuous lovemaking are appreciated by some men as well as many women.
     
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    I hope not, nothing like a guy that is 'hands on'. :naughty:


    What does 'romance and sensuous lovemaking' mean to you?
    What's involved?

    Because, I love romance and a guy that tells & shows me how much I mean to him, and I'm not saying I want a guy to choke me into unconsciousness, but a little hair pulling or spanking is nice. An occasional rougher night, in whatever manner we choose, can be hot, too.

    For me, it is all about variety, exploration, and changing things up with romance - particularly in a monogamous relationship. :shrug:
     
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