What does 'romance and sensuous lovemaking' mean to you?
What's involved? :shrug:
Oh honey, are you going to make me ruin my reputation as a big mean Pitbull?
Romance is making special moments and making someone feel like a special person.
Could just be sitting on a park bench and holding hands and looking at the moon
(lovely full moon tonight - sorry I can't hold your hand tonight)
Writing a poem.
Flowers.
Going to a classy restaurant just to let you know you are special and appreciated.
If someone is rather frugal and they spend money on you that seems so out of character - so that resturant has someone strolling table to table with a violin - and he pays for the musician to serenade you.
That's romance
(Its not as impressive with spendthrifts but still a nice gesture and probably qualifies as romantic too).
Sensuous lovemaking.
Perhaps a good way to understand is to compare it to pure animal sex.
Animal sex - you both are horny and get into a room.
You tear off each others clothes and he throws you on the bed and jumps on top of you and trys to get inside you immediately and start pumping away.
With sensuous lovemaking you both are just a horny as in the animal sex situation and know that you will end up in wild sexual abandon - but you choose not to start in wild sexual abandon.
It starts with touching. And not sex organs either. Hands, fingers arms.
Brushing hair away from the cheek.
Caressing the neck.
Rubbing the shoulders.
Gently
Then maybe some kissing
Just lips first - softly.
Not even lip to lip to lip yet.
Just kissing
being kissed
Enjoying
The feel of the lips
Moving
pleasuring different places
unpredictable pleasure
Involving all the senses
Savoring each other
like the taste of fine wine
And elements of romance are not necessary but help enhance
Candlelight
We all look better in the soft glow of a flame.
Music
Soft slow music.
It should not intrude.
Perfume
To highlight the wonderful natural scent of a woman.
Some cologne for the woman to inhale.
Flowers are nice - I love roses but do they grow any that smell like roses any more? The room should smell nice too.
We know where the evening is going.
Lets enjoy every minute.
Make it last.
When the sun comes up
it will remind us that we must take time to sleep