ever have a one night stand?

[B_Spladle]

I am surprised with some of these responses. People in the Real World, always seem so proud of their "conquests". Apparently, this is just lies.

I don't see where the shame or disgust comes from. I would not have one, because I prefer to get to know my sexual experiences first, but I can understand two people, equally interested in the other sexually, getting together after a few drinks and going buck wild.

Well, to be fair, I have had several multiple-night stands . . . :biggrin1:

I guess I just don't see the point. If you like a person, you presumably will want to spend many nights w/ them. If you do not like a person, you presumably will not want to spend even one night w/ them. So why have a one-night stand?

 

[D_Gunther Snotpole]

Well, to be fair, I have had several multiple-night stands . . . :biggrin1:

I guess I just don't see the point. If you like a person, you presumably will want to spend many nights w/ them. If you do not like a person, you presumably will not want to spend even one night w/ them. So why have a one-night stand?

Spladle, who helped you write this?

 

[jeff black]

Well, to be fair, I have had several multiple-night stands . . . :biggrin1:

I guess I just don't see the point. If you like a person, you presumably will want to spend many nights w/ them. If you do not like a person, you presumably will not want to spend even one night w/ them. So why have a one-night stand?

Yes, I have as well. Uncommitted acts of sexual behaviours can be fun, provided they are with a "Friend with Benifits".

You would have a one night stand, because you share a sexual attraction for the person you are checking out. There may be some intellectual attraction as well, but chances are... it is just a LUST thing, or a Drunk thing.

The next morning, (or possibly during the act) you might realize that this person has nothing to offer. So you toss them on the street, and Vola, a ONE NIGHT STAND.:biggrin1:

And Oh yah, you may not know that it is going to be a one-nighter, until you have sex. The next morning, you may roll over and he/she is NOT what you remember, or they were terrible in bed.

 

[B_Spladle]

Spladle, who helped you write this?

The Lord is with me everywhere I go.

 

[B_Spladle]

Yes, I have as well. Uncommitted acts of sexual behaviours can be fun, provided they are with a "Friend with Benifits".

You would have a one night stand, because you share a sexual attraction for the person you are checking out. There may be some intellectual attraction as well, but chances are... it is just a LUST thing, or a Drunk thing.

The next morning, (or possibly during the act) you might realize that this person has nothing to offer. So you toss them on the street, and Vola, a ONE NIGHT STAND.:biggrin1:

And Oh yah, you may not know that it is going to be a one-nighter, until you have sex. The next morning, you may roll over and he/she is NOT what you remember, or they were terrible in bed.

Well, I've never had sex drunk, and I've never had sex with anyone who was so bad in bed that I didn't want seconds. Lucky me.

 

[jeff black]

Well, I've never had sex drunk, and I've never had sex with anyone who was so bad in bed that I didn't want seconds. Lucky me.

Or just not picky


*Realizes that the " Two Fat, One Armed Chicks on Chase porno I found the other day, was actually Spadle. I thought I recognised the guy.*

 

[mindstar]

I am surprised with some of these responses. People in the Real World, always seem so proud of their "conquests". Apparently, this is just lies.

I don't see where the shame or disgust comes from. I would not have one, because I prefer to get to know my sexual experiences first, but I can understand two people, equally interested in the other sexually, getting together after a few drinks and going buck wild.

who needs the few drinks?

*laughs*

i seem to be far better at casual hook-ups then I do with anything more stable and besides sex is sex. I'm horny - the other guy is horny - its easy as, fuck and he gets kicked out and I get the bed to myself

I don't see any dramas with one-night stands personally - it can be a little lonely at times but meh - cést la vie

 

[B_Spladle]

Or just not picky


*Realizes that the " Two Fat, One Armed Chicks on Chase porno I found the other day, was actually Spadle. I thought I recognised the guy.*

You caught me!

 

[B_NineInchCock_160IQ]

I forgot what I was going to say.

Anyway, I don't think there's anything wrong with two people sharing something purely sexual even if it only lasts a night. and yes, I've done this before myself. Alcohol was never a factor, and I've never been drunk in my life. Sometimes it's circumstance (girls I've met while travelling, at times when one or both of us simply didn't have time for a relationship, or when one or both of us simply were not interested in a relationship, or there may be some other factor complicating things), or maybe you figure out after one night that you're not going to click (hey, what better way to get to know someone?), or maybe there was nothing wrong with the sex but at the same time you want to try something new (variety is a wonderful thing), or maybe it happens with someone you've known for a long time and after satisfying your curiosity you don't feel the temptation again, or maybe you're just horny...

to me it seems like there are plenty of reasons why someone might have a one-night stand that don't involve a lack of respect for oneself, or not enjoying getting to know your sexual partners, etc.

 

[jeff black]

I'm guessing the first few responses in this thread established a certain atmosphere hostile to those who might want to brag about their "conquests" and that in turn led to these people choosing not to post their own opinions.

Which is a shame, because as I said before... this isn't as bad as some of the other threads. Two people who find each hot, and can give each other a few hours of pleasure and comfort SAFELY, is fine by me.

@IQ~Sorry dude, I tend to comment fast when people direct it towards me.

 

[B_NineInchCock_160IQ]

no, but id like to. The problem being is i get myself into serious relationships.
-bec

if you're ever in Northern Virginia I'll let you experiment on me.

 

[Lex]

"People go looking for love and settle for sex."

 

[B_NineInchCock_160IQ]

"People go looking for love and settle for sex."

I've had many bad experiences with love...

very few with sex...

and I've had sex way more times than I've been in love.

 

[Lex]

You know, I did not mean that statement (a quote of a good friend) to come off as judgmental. I believe that what 2 consenting adults do is between them--drunk or sober.

I have hooked-up with guys and girls one time only a few rare times.

I used to be better built for casual sex. No longer.

I am much more into being mentally/emotionally/spiritually connected with my sexual partners these days.

Fro me, the switch happened while dating my Ex when I experimented with becoming more versatile. I found that I have to have emotional connection with a guy to go there--and that need for emotional connectivity is more of an overall factor for me since.

 

[B_NineInchCock_160IQ]

You know, I did not mean that statement (a quote of a good friend) to come off as judgmental. I believe that what 2 consenting adults do is between them--drunk or sober.

I have hooked-up with guys and girls one time only a few rare times.

I used to be better built for casual sex. No longer.

I am much more into being mentally/emotionally/spiritually connected with my sexual partners these days.

Fro me, the switch happened while dating my Ex when I experimented with becoming more versatile. I found that I have to have emotional connection with a guy to go there--and that need for emotional connectivity is more of an overall factor for me since.

I didn't take it that way... just sharing my thoughts on your good friend's statement. I'm glad you, Lex (and anyone else who has posted to this thread stating something similar), have figured out what satisfies you.

Personally, I've found that people who always equate sex with some kind of emotional bond have all kinds of other problems, ranging from dependency issues, to personal insecurities linked mostly to self-worth, to abandonment paranoia, and myriad other relationship/communication problems.

 

[jeff black]

Personally, I've found that people who always equate sex with some kind of emotional bond have all kinds of other problems, ranging from dependency issues, to personal insecurities linked mostly to self-worth, to abandonment paranoia, and myriad other relationship/communication problems.

So, does that mean you feel sex should be disconnected with an emotional bond?

I think what you just said, is a terrible comment. Regardless of how I sound... sex is supposed to be more than just a casual thing. It can't be all about just fucking. Adding love and emotion to it, is part of the reason it happens.

Maybe I am just an oldfashioned guy, but I can't do the one night stand. I have to know them, and have some connection with them.

 

[D_Gunther Snotpole]

So, does that mean you feel sex should be disconnected with an emotional bond?

I think what you just said, is a terrible comment.

No, it's just a sane comment. NIC is not saying they should never be connected ... only that they don't have to be, and if in a given situation they're not, there need be no problem.

 

[jeff black]

No, it's just a sane comment. NIC is not saying they should never be connected ... only that they don't have to be, and if in a given situation they're not, there need be no problem.

Ahh, thanks Rubi. I must have misread. My apoligies, NineinchCock.

 

[Lex]

No, it's just a sane comment. NIC is not saying they should never be connected ... only that they don't have to be, and if in a given situation they're not, there need be no problem.

I totally agree with NIC's assessment here, as implied by senor r. I spent a lot of my sexual life with the ability to totally separate the two. Hell, I fucked girls I didn't like personally because they were hot and I could. And as long as they were okay with that; it was alright with me.

"...but it was Saturday night, I guess that makes it alright..."

 

[Wilde316]

I've had several in my time, I find that I normally had one night stands in between long term relationships. Mainly I think it was a need on my part to remind myself that even though I might have failed at a relationship I could still fuck well. On several occasions the one night stands turned into multiple random night stands but most of the time it was only a one time thing. My need to reassure myself of my sexual prowess well overshadowed my true need for some form of affection, strangely enough I think that sexually I was much more aggresive during these one night stands, but in the long run I find I'm much happier with a long term relationship.