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I can't speak for other men, but for me. What keeps me from pursuing physical interaction with other men? Nerves, for one. As dumb as that may sound. Two? Is fear, of some sort. Not scared of being with another man, but scared of the possible repercussions. Will I like it? Or Won't I? I'll never know until I try, this I understand.
After much consideration, I realized I lust for the physical with men, not interested in any emotional connection or relationship for the time-being. There's nothing wrong with it, I'm not saying I never would, I'm just saying, at this point in my life. I'm not interested in men for that purpose.
Labels are irrelevant to me, I don't like to put myself in a box as such. I just say, I am who I am.
Which leads me to question myself, is it wrong for myself to lust for men just for their physique, and the purpose of fulfilling my curiosity?
The main thing that has kept me from experimenting, is I've never had someone come on to me, or had any instances in my life where me and another guy have even fooled around in the slightest. As much as I yearn and would like to experiment. I haven't the slightest idea where or how to start, I've gone as far as signing up here, and a few other sights to open up, and talk to people about this exact issue. Every-time I come close to connecting or planned something, I backed-out last minute. Due to nerves, fear, anxiety ... call it whatever you'd like.
@Deno, I do know what I want. Approaching men for sex, or sexual favors isn't something I'm familiar with :wink: ... but you're right, I am not going to force something to happen.
As for regrets, we live once. I've done, and regretted many a thing in my past. Not to say that I'll regret experimenting once it does happen, but if it does happen to turn out that way, I'll at least be able to live with myself knowing that I went through with it.
With that being said, I feel that I would regret NOT experimenting with another man, because like I said. I know what I want.
At times, the curiosity and lust reaches unimaginable levels. I'm not going to fight urges and feelings that occur naturally.
- chungster
Hey there,
I am one of those 'straight guys', and like you, Chungster, I say I am because exactly like you I cannot imagine sharing something with a guy that goes beyond friendship.
However, I am attracted to the physical part. For years I have jerked off to vids or pics of guys sucking dicks, I like watching a pic of a big dick, etc.
I however have made a move on it, after years of fantasies. I found out in my 20's that I had a nice dick, so I started posting pics on the internet. On this French website, people were sending me messages saying my dick looked nice and they wanted to play, but I turned them down saying I did not do live.
Until a guy (with awesome pics) insisted and when I refused, proposed that we cam together. So we did. Man, that cock and balls. I wanted to reach and touch the package.
So finally I went to his place. I was sooo nervous. He opened the door naked, his big package hanging just like that and I fondled it on the spot.
Then we started playing, jerking each other, doing some cock to cock. It was nice!
And at some point I had his big balls hanging mere centimeters from my face, so I said what the fuck and licked them. He saw I was ok for some sucking action, so he sucked my cock, and we 69 till we both came.
It was really fun. It felt real good, but I did not feel changed, I did not feel anything for the guy. I thanked him, got dressed and left.
It was just fun play, with absolutely nothing beyond that. We played with our dicks and it felt good.
Since then I have played with like ten guys, never going beyond sucking, never kissing or cuddling or anything. I never felt a hint of emotional attraction to any of these guys. I have played sometimes more than once with the same dude, but they're just sex friends.
So from my experience I can say this much: you can be straight and have fun with guys. And fuck labels