Ever have trouble climaxing with a blow job?

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I have only climaxes while getting a blow job a handful of times despite tons of attempts. At first I thought it was my wife’s technique but I have had others try and only two have caused me to cum. Sometimes, it has lasted a really long time with no finish. Has anyone else had similar experiences and any advice on getting it done?
 

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Yes, I have the same problem. I think it is actually technique. My wife gives great head. She can get me really hard. She is beautiful and it is incredible to watch. But I can never cum when she does it.

I have been with other women in the past and while they weren’t doing anything obviously special, I was ready to blow and had to pull back. It caught me off guard.
 

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i think a lot of it has to do with what is in your head; after all, your brain is still the sexiest organ you got. i will also support what @Alex22876 said that technique is also very important. i've received a lot of head from various women in my life and some were just god awful bad... such as too much teeth, no enthusiasm, not enough saliva, too much grip, not enough grip, and the list goes on and on.

back to what i said about it being in your head... getting a blowjob to me is like watching a show. you want the show to be entertaining and fun and pleasurable all the while, at the same time, you want to see that she is enjoying it too. so this begs to say that it has to be the combination of all the above unless you're just a horndog and just glad someone is sucking your dick.

for me, my wife has figured me out, so i like her to tease me with lotsa of sloppy sounds and moaning from her to tell me that she's enjoying what she's doing to me. i like it when she tells me how much she loves sucking my cock and also how she's not afraid to look me in the eyes while gobbling down my meat. i appreciate her using her hands while she sucks me (kinda like a hand-job-sucking action). i also like it when she comes up for air to kiss me while continuing to stroke me then go back down. lastly, if she plays all the above well, all she has to do is verbally beg for my cum and i'm gone.

my advice: take some time to reflect and see what "truly" turns you on about being sucked and go from there. once you figure it out, don't be afraid to communicate that to your partner and hopefully your partner is more than willing to give you what you want.
 

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In my teens and early 20s i always had difficulty cumming from a blowjob usually it took a long time to get me there and i usually had to finish myself, although as has been said i think a lot of it may have been in my head and a lot of the women not wanting me to cum in their mouths so i was always concerned about that. When i was 26 or so that changed, hooked up with a chick at a party, she was barely 19 but gave the most enthusiastic mind blowing head i'd ever received, she was doing her thing and i realized she was getting me there much sooner than normal, i warned her i was close and all she said was "good" gave me a smile and went back to sucking, i tried holding back as long as i could, i'd never had a blowjob to that point before but finally i couldnt hold back any longer and she inhaled every last drop. We ended up dating for a while and for the year and a bit we were together i never had one issue cumming from a blowjob and she'd blow me at least twice a day.

After her i think i learned to relax and enjoy it more and found i could cum more easily from blowjobs, that being said there have still been some that were just horrible for any number of reason just like listed above and no matter how long they went it just wasnt happening.
 

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I have only climaxes while getting a blow job a handful of times despite tons of attempts. At first I thought it was my wife’s technique but I have had others try and only two have caused me to cum. Sometimes, it has lasted a really long time with no finish. Has anyone else had similar experiences and any advice on getting it done?

Yes. Ex-wife gave really intense (too intense) blowjobs that felt really good but generally left me more in a state of hyperventilation a few minutes into them than a climax.

But speaking more broadly, I have an easier time reaching climax through intercourse (where I'm driving) than I do from handjobs, blowjobs, etc. The necessary rhythm / pace is tricky and too complicated to explain. It's just easier if I drive :p
 
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I don't think I've ever cum from a blowjob. And a it's now coming up to 8 years since I last had a blowjob I have no idea if I would or not now.
 
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Yes. Ex-wife gave really intense (too intense) blowjobs that felt really good but generally left me more in a state of hyperventilation a few minutes into them than a climax.

But speaking more broadly, I have an easier time reaching climax through intercourse (where I'm driving) than I do from handjobs, blowjobs, etc. The necessary rhythm / pace is tricky and too complicated to explain. It's just easier if I drive :p

Same for me easier time through intercourse then hand jobs, blowjobs. I know hearing her enjoying sex is a big turn on and probably contributes to my excitement.
 
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I had trouble cumming from a bj but not any longer. I think it is simply I was focused on the stimulation from a pussy and this felt different. Eventually got used to it and now it is no problem. I had a little difficulty transitioning from masturbation to pussy. The feeling was different and it took a couple of times to get the feeling right. My first couple of times having sex I couldn’t cum.

All’s well now.
 
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I struggle with this a bit. I have no problem cumming from 69. I think it’s subconscious worry that Mandy isn’t enjoying herself, will be grossed out, etc. Which was fairly true a few years ago. I think the reason 69 is different is my mind is so busy focusing on giving and receiving pleasure that there isn’t room for much else.
 
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I struggle with this a bit. I have no problem cumming from 69. I think it’s subconscious worry that Mandy isn’t enjoying herself, will be grossed out, etc. Which was fairly true a few years ago. I think the reason 69 is different is my mind is so busy focusing on giving and receiving pleasure that there isn’t room for much else.

I think my biggest problem is also my mind. I worry that she’s not truly enjoying it but feels obligated to reciprocate. I soo try not to do anything that will turn her off of it. I know some guys do hip thrusts when receiving oral but I think that seems disrespectful. Though I wonder if it would help.
 
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Only ever cum once from a blowjob and it was the first one given to my now missus. We had been fucking at least daily for a few weeks and she came on her period. This month she point blank refused to let me fuck her and after a few minutes of other foreplay started giving me my first blowjob. Not many minutes in she was taking somehow the dick to the base when suddenly I erupted and held my dick to the back of the throat and she had no option but to swallow the lot.
From that day onwards the tip of the dick was the most she would swallow and nearing the point of no return it was a titty fuck or nothing
 

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For me it’s defintely technique. My head gets super sensitive. If they use their tongue or lips on the head too much it’s almost uncomfortable. Keep the lips below the head on the shaft and don’t keep popping the head in and out of your mouth. Hands and lips on my shaft and balls is fine. :)
 

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I need someone with good technique to make it happen, but I also need to be relaxed and in the right frame of mind. My cock likes aggression, to be slapped around, so a handjob/blowjob combination is more likely to produce results.
 

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I have only climaxes while getting a blow job a handful of times despite tons of attempts. At first I thought it was my wife’s technique but I have had others try and only two have caused me to cum. Sometimes, it has lasted a really long time with no finish. Has anyone else had similar experiences and any advice on getting it done?

Every time. I love it when it’s good, but I rarely cum from it and I rarely try. It was like that since the beginning

I have to be super horny and at a very comfy position where I can enjoy the visuals... I just resigned myself to not really getting off that way. Or any other for that matter. I just love pussy

When I do it, often I jack myself most of the way there and finish with head
 
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Even well performed BJs rarely made me come, it took a lot of enjoyable practice to find a solution and make it happen regularly. It made my lovers' jaw ache less too.

Here are 3 steps that finally made it possible for me.

1. Allow your balls to fill up several days before, no ejaculation.
2. Train, communicate and guide your partner to use the right technique with the right pressure and speed at the right time.
3. Probably the most important - if you have got used to the sight of a face attached to your cock and it doesn't get you super turned on, you'll have to close your eyes and imagine something that does, it might be something you did in the past or it might be a porn scene that always makes you bust a nut.

Have fun!