ever lose a friend to a marriage/relationship?

[B_RedDude]

I think it's one of those things, at least for guys, that we'll all experience, and, as unpleasant and hurtful as it can be, we just have to learn how to deal with it. I think it's better for the person feeling abandoned to try to not be bitter about it.

At the risk of sounding misogynistic, I am so glad that I don't need pussy. My friends are my greatest treasure. But, of course, this stuff can happen with gay buds as well.

 

[B_RedDude]

One way to approach this is, if you like babies and little kids, which I do, you can offer to babysit. This can help maintain the connection, if you're up for it.

My best friend from college ditched me when she got married and started popping out children. I think people's priorities just change when they find somebody to truly settle down with. I mourned our friendship for years, but honestly, I get it now. She just entered a place in life where I had no experience, nothing to add, and the things we used to do together no longer fit into her lifestyle. People change... it's just part of life. Try not to be bitter, just enjoy and be thankful for the times you had together. :smile:

 

[D_Hillary_Clitton]

I can't even understand why anyone would be so cruel to the person they love, making them NOT hang out with their friends anymore. That is controlling and sickening. Same thing on the other end of it, but I seem to notice that it happens with the woman forcing it on the man more often.

I lost a few friends after my last break up, not the same thing but still horrible. Having mutual friends when you break up is a drag. I lost one of my oldest and best friends in the break-up from my ex... But guess he wasn't as good of a friend as I thought.

 

[dxgarten]

This is about to happen to me and it depresses me to no end.

It's bad enough that he barely has the time for me now he has a GF. But he's planning to move away to a different part of the city so it means the likelihood we'll be seeing each other on a day to day basis will be even slimmer.

 

[petite]

It doesn't just happen with men, women do it too when they fall in love and get into a serious relationship.

It has nothing to do with being "pussy whipped" because how do you explain their wives who are doing the same thing? Are they "dick whipped"? Are they both whipped?

 

[captainwhackit]

as soon as your friend gets into a relationship..he's gone,you don't hang out at all..
i know what you're gonna say.."he's in a relationship now" i'm good with that,but never hanging out at all? after being damn near brothers?
but when the relationship ends..he's your best friend again.

This is so common.

Ever wonder where the midlife crisis comes from? This is it.

Guys get into a relationship, and suddenly they realize a few years down the road that they have no social life without their partner, they have no really close male friends, they just do the same shit every day and see the same face all the time...

I've had a close friend for ten years now and we were/are like brothers, or a married couple lol
When he was single we would hang out together every week, go to the pub, clubs, play pool... We'd communicate ever day in one way or another.

But when he's in a relationship we barely speak once a month.

Don't get me wrong, I understand what a relationship means. But I completely believe that men absolutely need another outlet, they need their own social life.

It's a real shame that guys don't discover this balance until they're too old to enjoy it as much. Just look at retired couples, most of them have separate social lives, clubs, golfing buddies lol
If only guys recognized this earlier, they'd have much more fun and I'd be willing to bet their relationships would last longer and be more rewarding too.

My best buddy is now married (February this year) and we've met up about three times since then, which is bad considering he lives only ten minutes walk from me.

I'll still be here if it all goes wrong though

 

[D_4ew6trfiuy]

I think u should get a life, forget about him, .there are many fish in the pond .GOOD LUCK ,BRO