I guess this might fall into the category of doing too much too soon, but I was wondering if any of you lost out on a potential long term relationship because sex came too soon or was too quickly got on the 'kinky' or 'porno' side?
Like most of you, I'd imagine, when I was single I tended to go fairly far on the first date if the opportunity was there. I did not discriminate. I was this way with females I wanted to be in a long term relationship with as well as ones I didn't necessarily see myself dating exclusively. I did not necessarily have intercourse on the first date, but I was always interested in cunnilingus, so typically all of my first dates (where there was a mutual attraction) resulted in oral sex or 69-ing.
I remember one woman who I really wanted to date exclusively, Julia. She was gorgeous and had a beautiful pink pussy covered in a thick triangle of black hair. Really pretty face too! We went out on a first date, she came back to my apartment and we 69-ed all night. And by that, let me just say we did it 3 times before the sun came up. I came hard the first tie, harder the second, and even the third time her lips and tongue coaxed out a smaller yet healthy load.
When I called to set up a second date, surprise surprise - she said she couldn't get into a relationship with a guy she blew three times in one night. "So why did you do it," I inquired. She didn't really know, but she said that sometime between the 2nd and 3rd 69 session she just figured this would just be for fun and not a relationship. Lesson learned - only two 69's in one evening from then on.