I'm really quite surprised. For website/forum that's about a sexual organ the level of prudishness I have seen.
I'm really sorry that you both feel so incensed by the question. As someone that worked as a sex worker for many years I'm also sorry to see so much prejudice exists about the issue.
Thankfully you two are not the only men in the world. So my question goes out to other men who are more open minded and might actually consider something like this.
And I'm sorry that you can't wrap your head around the fact not every one can be bought and there actually exists for some (apparently not you) personal principals and that you are having to resort to claims of bigotry and closed-mindedness in order to defend your argument. If one was to go just by the make-up of this site, one could see how you might get the impression almost every male member on here that lists as straight is really just a closet case, but then how is this any different from some straight guys on here who assume every woman is a member because they want to see endless pics of dick and so they then decide to send them one of their own unsolicited?
Or would you think then it's fair to assume, due to the glut of incest posts mostly by those listed as gay or leaning in that direction, that every gay guy secretly wants to fuck their father or brother? Or maybe that every gay guy wants to seduce straight men, a stereotype your post is helping to reinforce. One could make blanket assumptions all day about different groups if you limited yourself to the small sub-sets here. This website will naturally skew towards certain directions that do not represent either the straight or gay population at large and I hazard that it is you who are adding to existing prejudices by giving ammo to actual bigots who will read your post and claim it as proof certain groups are trying to "Turn them gay".
How is your assumption that every straight man is really just bi in disguise and willing to embrace it for the right price any different then the assumption throughout throughout history that every gay guy could be turned "normal" if the right woman seduced them; even going so far as some parents hiring a prostitute for their sons?
Back when we were into swinging we had sex for mutual agreed upon pleasure, not profit. That made the difference in something that could have had the potential for being illegal, legal; despite some still finding it morally reprehensible. There were many women I meet who had no interest in me that I would have very much loved to play with and I respected and accepted their choice. I would never imagine a situation in a million years were I would have tried to change their minds by offering to pay them; nor would any other guy in the Lifestyle I knew. Plenty of other women out there who would be interested, just as there's enough straight guys out there who would be willing to experiment to fixate on the ones you might not be able to get. If they are interested they will come to you and all without risking a friendship.
Most straight guys if they are willing to try will do it because it is something they want to do and something about the other guy appeals to them. They would not have to receive money to be persuaded. But it seems to me you are not willing to accept that and feel the only way you can get some straight guys to have sex with you is to pay them; which I guess is saying more about your appeal to other guys than anything.