Ex BF befriending my mom

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  1. barbsdaughter

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    OK now what's up with this.

    My Ex BF has become overly friendly with my mom and talked to her longer than a casual 'hi how are you.' Odd thing is she used to berate him and now he's trying to be friends. She said he's been where she was, amazingly enough, 4 times in the last week and wanted to carry on a conversation with her of which she felt like she had to excuse herself each time.

    Hope he's not trying to use mom to win me back....NOT gonna happen!
     
  2. blkbro510

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    Talk to your mom ASAP about it. It's boundery no no
     
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    Maybe he just wants to sleep with your mother as a form of revenge sex?
    It seems as if your mother is doing the right thing and moving away from him. Thank her for it and just remind her of the pain he caused and that you dont want him back in either of there lives. This will reinforce her feelings towards not letting him hurt you, and also make her think twice (If she was even thinking in the first place) that he's not the kind of guy either should have anything to do with.
    Hope this helps
    Tom.x
     
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    Does she have that kind of awesome boobs, too? ;)
     
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    What a load of crap another bloke with a fake pic pretending to be a female.

    Look at the other thread, its a give away when you start a thread with "im a female".

    Feel sorry for your real mom.
     
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    Barbara's Daughter you have read my reply as I have seen your addy at the bottom of the page , reply to what I have said please chap
     
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    And now gone offline suddenly, what a shock.
     
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    It is creepy behavior of somebody who is manipulative and thinks this is going to work because they have muscled their way into lives in a similar fashion in the past. You must hold firm and encourage your mom to do so too.
     
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    Btw iian, I researched barbsdaughter's posts and do not understand how you reached such a conclusion.
     
  10. dolfette

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    she turned you down for cybersex then?
     
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    Cyber sex wow, if you look at my track record on her, im not looking for any cheap thrills trust me.

    Liars and cheats for me are the lowest form of pond skum.

    Their are to many people in this world that try to scam lie and cheat and i for one have not a minute for them.
     
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    "Hey, I'm a female undergrad PhEd major and cut a class checking out LSPG. Gawd have I seen some sights and I just thought my BF was big. Hope there are other women on here, looks like it! I'm going to class but back later."

    You should not take a job in research HELG
     
  13. dolfette

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    the ''i'm female'' post was her first post in her introduction thread. it seems a pretty logical thing to point out when introducing yourself online.

    you need to have better reasons than that!

    post some links to back up your accusations, or be assumed to be just a bitter rejectee.
     
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    Words from another person that does not want to verify them selfs on this site
     
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    If I am so wrong why is Barb not having some input into this.
     
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    Thanks for the suggestion blkbro510. I talked to mom and she already told my stepdad yesterday. She didn't say but I guess he's going to have a talk with my Ex.
     
  17. dolfette

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    my gender is irrelevant and is certainly none of your business.
     
  18. dolfette

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    sounds like you have nothing to worry about then.
    my mother almost always used to find this situation flattering and usually ended up taking the guy's side. your mom saw it for what it was and dealt with it.
     
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    her name is not barb, for one thing... that is her parent. You are spending far too much time on this for someone you have pre-judged a fake and con artist of some kind, don't you think? When I did my research I read all her posts, not just her first.

    She is justified in ignoring you and tending to her actual offline life.
     
  20. Northland

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    If you have genuine proof, then provide it baby; otherwise you are only harassing barbsdaughter, who placed a legitimate question before us. Harassment by the way is a violation of the TOS and can lead to exile.

    Now back to barbsdaughter, have a talk with your mother, and discuss this matter. Let her know how you feel about her interacting with the ex. If he is showing up unannounced, you may also want to check into seeking an order of protection from the local police as he may be drifting into the dangerous area of stalking.
     
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