Ex just got married, I've got mixed emotions

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The last time I saw my ex was a few months ago, I just discovered that she is now married. :eek:

Part of me is disappointed because we left on good terms and I thought that maybe we'd get together in the future but my rational side is happy for her and reminds me that she clearly wasn't right for me, so the news didn't hurt, but I'm surprised by my reaction, I can't get her out of my mind. :confused:

Anyone else had the same experience?
 

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Start dating.

If you're still pining for an ex-, you're probably not dating or getting involved with other women. Once you do, you'll be in a better place to wish her well.
 

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A) u always want what u have't got, u prolly weren't even that hot for her when u were married, but now that she's off the market u want it back, it's natural.

B) unless breakups go into full metal meltdown, u tend to remember the good times and forget the bad, so just conjure up a couple of memories of fights had with her and you'll be fine.

C) staying friends with an ex makes it harder to close that chapter and move on also. U don't have to be mortal enemies but if u dont' have kids together, u dont' need to socialize.
 

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A) u always want what u have't got, u prolly weren't even that hot for her when u were married, but now that she's off the market u want it back, it's natural.

B) unless breakups go into full metal meltdown, u tend to remember the good times and forget the bad, so just conjure up a couple of memories of fights had with her and you'll be fine.

C) staying friends with an ex makes it harder to close that chapter and move on also. U don't have to be mortal enemies but if u dont' have kids together, u dont' need to socialize.
A) Don't think they were married.

B) The thing that makes the old times seem so good is a bad memory.

C) Depends, had one ex-where she liked it so much in bed that we had breakup sex on and off for three years, including threesomes with a boyfriend and later with her husband. We both knew it was over so we didn't care.
 

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We weren't married and didn't really know each other that well but we were almost in love.
There was one major problem that put me off her - selfishness, so I'll probably get over it by tomorrow morning! :wink:
 

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unfortunately, i'm the one with the full metal meltdown mentioned in thadjock's post above. i really wish she'd find a hobby or someone new and
stop calling me for advice that she never listens to.
 
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