exboyfriend drama

[vegascutie]

i dated a guy for about 4 mo but were together nonstop for about 6mo... we were friends for about 5 yrs, anyways, while we were dating he slowly started being more and more controlling. he lives in canada and i would take his car and visit family in washington and he would always bug me to hurry to come back. i even got into a car accident in his car back in september in seattle, and he let me use his paypal account to buy shit off of ebay, we were pretty much living together at his house in vancouver. anyway, he kinda turned into a dick the last 2 months, i was getting really fed up. oh that and he likes to talk about shitting and farting all the time and would bend over in front of me and fart super loud and just gross me out which made having sex kind of weird... anyway, the last straw was he tried to get me to give him a blowjob, which, i didn't want to do, we weren't getting along and i wasn't comfortable with it. well he got PISSED and yelled at me then stormed upstairs to bed without saying a fucking word to me. we had been laying down on the couch infront of the tv. with the tv on. so when he got up, i went to the laptop on the kitchen counter and played on the computer and got drunk. a few hours later he comes downstairs yelling at me calling me a fucking bitch and a cunt cuz the tv is still on and it's keeping him awake. he left with it that way, so i didn't think about it bothering him. anyway, we got into an argument, then he had to go to bed cuz he had to work the next morning. so when i wake up, i find all the car keys gone, i didn't have a car at his house so i just used his. anyway i woke up remembering the name calling and wanted the keys to go have lunch with my buddy to get some advise and my boyfriend won't let me have the keys, anyway we get into a shoving match, the cops come and make me leave. i take most of my stuff some of it i forgot and he still has it. well now he is threatening to sue me over the car accident and the paypal shit from months ago, and is emailing my friends talking shit, text messaging me stupid shit, harassing my mom at work with stupid faxes from his attorney saying i have to pay up or be sued. i mean what the fuck is he thinking................. soooo i got a restraining order on him last friday which is temporary until this friday when we go back for a hearing.......... i didn't want it to have to come to this. he has shit at my moms house in wa. and stuff at my house in vegas, i'd like to just trade all of our stuff back and call it good... but i don't know what to do.

anyone listening?? hehe

 

[B_Think_Kink]

Oh gee, thats rough. I would get a male friend to assist you in getting your stuff back and leave it at that.

 

[vegascutie]

i tried that. he's being a dick. its all girlshit i don't know why he'd want it.. unless he wants to cross dress or something. he said he'd cut it into little peices and send it in the mail to me...

 

[B_Think_Kink]

Is it anything of real imporrtance? Can you live without it, or replace it? If you can, just leave him be...

 

[vegascutie]

ya i can live with out it but it's the suing me part i don't get. it's harassment. we dated i wrecked his car which was covered by insurance... so we break up and he decides now.... 4 mo after the wreck and right after we break up that he wants me to pay for his insurance going up. and he's involving my mom when she has nothing to do with it.

 

[vegascutie]

and then because of the restraining order he said he is going to sue me for $100K because i mentioned on it that he's a past drug/alcohol/steriod user.. all of which are true.

 

[B_Think_Kink]

I think he is just trying to scare you... I doubt he'll actually do it. But get your mom to keep ALL the things he faxes her, and keep records of everything, and anything that could prove his harassment.

 

[railfan69]

he cant sue you for the accident or the paypal you two were together at the time

 

[railfan69]

everything else is just material items you dont need the bs let him have it all

 

[Yorkie]

and then because of the restraining order he said he is going to sue me for $100K because i mentioned on it that he's a past drug/alcohol/steriod user.. all of which are true.

So this guy thinks he can sue you for telling the truth?
He doesen't sound like he was ever Prince Charming so why did you hook up in the first place? It couldn't have been the conversation from what you tell us!
It sounds like you're well rid of him.If you don't desperately need the stuff you left behind then I'd say forget it and put it down to experience.The less contact you have with him the better.

 

[vegascutie]

ya i don't know. i'm sad it has gotten this far. i don't know what his problems were.. he acused me of being lazy... he worked and i didn't... plus i was in canada and it's not like i could have gotten a job up there. he wasn't exactly prince charming... but we had soo much fun together.. it's really too bad it ended up like this. he wasn't so nice to me.. maybe stressed out because of work or something i don't really know the whole reasons behind this. i don't need my stuff from him either, but he sent my mom at work some letter from some gay ass attorney saying i had to pay him 2500 bucks by feb 15 or else they were going to sue me for it. i don't think he has told his attorney the whole story. i mean that accident WAS back in sept. and we never signed any agreement saying that if i wrecked his car or broke up with him that i would pay him back. this whole thing is just PLAIN FUCKING SILLY!!!

 

[vegascutie]

Any Attorneys Out There??? I Have A Good One.... But Just Curious On Others Opinions.

 

[Yorkie]

Is Judge Judy still going? :smile:

 

[trufitjock]

tell him to sue you... go in front of judge judge.. she'll ripp him a new one !!

 

[nwarluvs2jo]

First off.. I AM NOT AN ATTORNEY and I don't play one on TV either...

Save all the correspondence from this "attorney" of his. From your story so far, he doesn't have a case against you at all. However, I wouldn't post any personally identifiable information on here in regards to your situation. If he really hasn't had past drug/alcohol problems and you state he has in front of others it could be consider slander by the judge IF it EVER got to court.

The insurance is in his name, there is no way YOU can be sued for HIS insurance increase unless there was agreement between the two of you that you broke. Even then, it would be hard to determine damages. I wonder when he filed the claim for the wreck did he say who was driving? If he said HIMSELF, and goes ahead and tries to sue YOU, he could be tried HIMSELF on insurance fraud if the insurance company wanted to come after him.

The paypal situation... who knows... Depending on what you bought I would assume that it would fall under small claims court unless it was a large $$ amount.

Basically, just chalk this one up to a relationship gone sour. Since you have filed the restraining order, I would contact the Sheriff's office and let them know that you still have some items at his home that you wish to retrieve. They will likely provide escort to the home for you to recover the items. I would have his personal belongings as well and bring them with you at that time.

Overall, get youself out of that situation and find someone who will actually treat you with respect. He sounds like a dick nugget.

My .02 :biggrin1:

-D

 

[vegascutie]

no the police came to the wreck, they found me at fault. he told his insurance i was driving, which is funny cuz the dude has a commercial plate on the car and i guess it's only allowed to be driven 6 days a month, which he drives it every day, so whatever, and as far as the drug stuff... no that's all true, his credit cards were swabbed at the canadian border and they found coke on them so this guy is already red flagged. he even got strip searched one time last summer. they checked his bunghole for goodies... and the guy drinks daily, got a dui in canada, and well he was doing steriods when we were together. he said he had quit, but he was fucking moody like a bitch on the rag! this paypal shit is stupid too cuz i have people emailing me that were being disputed saying that paypal didn't find on his side. he tried to charge everything back. ya it's small claims, he says there was $1000 worth of shit when really there was only $500. but anyhow........ it's a fuckin headache, and a sad story cuz we were friends for so long.... oh well....

 

[jjsuperbird]

sounds like this guy is nothing but trouble. make sure you have your integrity and your personal safety ... the rest is just stuff that can be replaced.

Good luck with it.

JJ

 

[Belly_Dancer]

First of all, Vegas, I just want to say I'm sorry you're going through this, and you have my sympathy and support.

Overall, it just sounds like this guy is angry with you and trying to get revenge any way he can. The threats mostly sound like empty ones to me...I agree with the suggestion of getting an officer to escort you while you recover your property, and returning his stuff at the same time.

Perhaps when he realizes he can't possibly succeed with his manipulative tactics (i.e. threatening a baseless law suit), he will move on.

If he doesn't, sue his ass. Just kidding. I don't really know all the answers, but experience tells me this guy's bark is probably much worse than his bite.

Take good care of yourself in the meantime.

 

[vegascutie]

i tried to get those stupid vancouver bc police to go with me to get my shit. they're fucking retarded uneducated idiots who are too lazy to do the job of a real cop. he had pushed me and shoved me and grabbed me and i got some pretty bad bruises on my arms from him, in the states he woulda been hauled off to jail in no time, but those stupid rcmp idiots had their heads up their butts. it was a total joke. i yelled at him, he called the cops, i had no rights because i was an american in fucking canada. canada is pretty lame.

 

[vegascutie]

the whole things lame............ fucking really lame. it's nice to bitch here... haha. it's just gotten so way out of hand.. the last time we spoke on the phone he told me he hoped i crash my car. then i cut off all communtication to him. we've both done some fucked up shit to eachother but it needs to end.............