Your friends are your friends. Period...Let's say you have a friend, who "meets" all of your standards. Mentally and physically. This friend suddenly has a stroke, or is in a horrible accident, that changes their physical or mental capacity. Would you ditch this friend? This is the question you need to address for yourself. If you feel your friends are inferior to you, then you never saw them as friends to begin with. You probably think of them as friends, but they're more like "acquaintances with flaws", to you..
It started out as friends, but yes slowly most people are turning into acquaintances because I'm not getting the friendship I'd like.
At birthdays for example I think it's rude to show up without a present and even when I didn't have any money to spare I made sure I brought one hell of a gift suited for the person.
Now giving doesn't automatically means you always get something in return but I haven't gotten a thing from these so called friends over the past few years or on occasion 8 months later because the guy felt guilty and not because it was the decent thing to do.
I also make a habbit of being on time but if I want to peacefully live with these people I have to say the appointment is at 2 if i want them to show up in time on the actual 3 o clock apointment.
The only thing these people are in the mood for is going to the movie theatre because we have a membership card and you can watch unlimited movies you want for 20 dollars a month.
So as long as it's cheap and boring we can hang out all the time and don't get me wrong I love going to the movies from time to time but don't let it be the only thing you do.
As for the Miami thing I don't judge people for not having money to go I know it's not the cheapest place in the world, I judge them for saying they're going with me and end up backing out at the last moment for the same reason they always do, lack of money, so I have to make new arrangements and end up paying for it.
I'm realising that all I'm getting out of these friendships is mostly having fun and joking around but when any other quality is desired, like being dependable or knowledgeable it's just not there.
Now I have lots of circles in different areas, there are smart people but usually not good for laughs, and funny people but usually not good for serious topics.
I don't discard friends unless they are harmfull in any way like drug abuse, stealing or just talking shit all the time but I feel like it's time for me to surround myself with more positive people and the circles I am in are slowly changing into acquaintances for me as they are not the people I want them to be.
Now I'm looking mostly for external factors because I do have solid friends and I have shared this with them as well to get some honest feedback.
Living far away from me these people agree that it's mostly because of my environment and that I should change the scenery if I want to meet better people as they have experienced my friends and environment first hand.
Let it be known that my town is in the middle of the two worst "ghettos" in Amsterdam as far as you can call them ghettos but it's filled with all sorts of scum and they like meeting in the middle.
Now the place or the people won't hold me back doing what I want to do but it's a factor that has played a big role as we have a saying in dutch "Je bent waar je mee omgaat" translates as you are who you surround yourself with.