I went to the NYE NY Jacks and two guys tried to slip a finger into my hole. It made me real nervous and not feel the most safe.
I am sorry that experienc was uncomfortable for you. Everyone going to a group, specially a well organized one which as such would have rules, should well read the group docs to know what to expect. NYJacks website describes the masturbacion activity as “ Mutual stroking is the major action with some nipple sucking and/or kissing if you want. We discourage ass play, more for health reasons than any other. ”; “discourages” vs “prohibits” , it leaves the door open to it. When I was there with what I would imagine was 30, 40, (more?) guys and no one was found assplay masturbation so I would say it is unusual, but not impossible as you experienced and as by the wording is permitted, though discouraged. Hopefully you were able to shake it off, club guidelines also set an expectation there: “If you don’t want to play with someone who has approached you, just say a polite, “No thanks.” and walk away. If they persist, move their hand away gently but firmly and walk away. Most guys are very polite and will know when to leave you alone. No one will make you do anything you don’t want to do.”... folks breaking the rules (including not respecting a “no”) who would “ be escorted out of the club. NYJacks is mostly self-policing but there are club monitors to enforce these rules”
Hope your next experience is better bud, just everyone research beforehand what the clubs allow, before arriving make a decision what you want to engage in and what not to engage in, and mentally rehearse/prepárate to say “no” to the parts you don’t want to be a part of, then have a blast. As an example, I did not want to jack others or be jacked myself: I was happy to freely show off, watch, but not touch/be touched. A ton of guys wanted to touch, I said “no, thank you”, or “I am good, thank you”, or “I’m only showing off’ , and no one insisted not was pissy.
Hope that helps man.