Ok- So I am trying to be more of a bottom lately. I have a new "buddy" who is only a top and so we have had our fair share of oral and now we want to move on to anal. I haven't done anal for about 3 months now because whenever I did it I would bleed the next day if I ever went to the restroom (as lovely as that sounds I am sorry) So, I am going to try to play with some toys before we start anal sex to get my ass prepared. I have 2 dildos...ones a 7 inch and one is an 8 inch...yet the guy I am with is about 9 max. So for those expert bottom guys out there what is the best way to relax your ass so the next day I don't have to worry about bleeding or any of that. Everyone always says Relax...I have always felt relaxed before, but I guess I wasn't. What else can he do or what else can I do to prepare? Rimming? Fingering? I just want to make sure I am doing everything in a safe manner because I bet a lot of you guys who have bottomed don't bleed afterwards the day after. I must not be doing the right steps before. Any advice would be great!