I think this is the most interesting post on this whole thread. I have a question, PG. Why would you be married to a lesbian when you're 99% gay? Why not be with a guy? Am I missing something here?
Me and my wife are pretty much just a story of odd, remarkable luck.
Growing up, I never considered myself gay, just bi because of a few experiences with other guys. Never wanted to have a love relationship with another guy at all. Met my wife and it was love at first sight.
A year after we started dating, we were just sitting around talking and she confided with me that she'd been with a woman before and that she liked it. I told her I'd been with guys before and that I didn't regret it either. She was cool with it and so was I. Over the last couple of years we've been helping each other accept who we are individually.
I'm still not really crazy about the idea of having a love relationship with a man, and for the life of me, I just can't see myself falling in love or experiencing the same level of romantic feelings towards a man that I can towards a woman. It's almost like I am drawn to relationships with women but sex with men. Don't get me wrong, my wife and I have an active sex life and we have a LOT of fun with it. But we both think about gay and lesbian sex situations and are open to the possibility of her having friends with benefits.
I have to admit, I've changed my percentage several times since I've been a member here, and it depends on how gay/bi/straight I'm feeling at the time. To complicate things and play devil's advocate to my own situation, I guess if ever I had to choose between either being gay OR staying married to my wife, I'd choose to stay married any day.
I guess my best and only answer to your excellent question is this:
True love crosses all genders and sexual orientations.