Exposing your Friends List (or not)

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  1. exwhyzee

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    We have had a couple of thread that discussed the topic of accepting friend requests and cultivating your friends list but I have noticed more and more members are now hiding their lists. I'm curious to know why some of you are not willing to make your friends list public.

    In light of the changes last week, there seems to have been a early rush for some members to play with new tools and grow their list of friends quickly, and even join a couple of social groups. Within a day or so later, an increasing number of people took their lists off public view. In conversations I have had, some people began to question the ramifications of having a public friends list, and chose to sit things out for a while.

    For those who have taken the list off line...why did ya do it?
     
  2. dong20

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    It was never on-line. In the 'real world' I don't carry around a billboard advertising my friends, why would I do so here?

    Social groups are a novelty, harmless and diverting undoubtedly, but with one or two exceptions I wonder if they'll thrive, at least as conceived.
     
  3. No_Strings

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    Member(s) on my list that, bar politeness, I would not choose to be.
    Member(s) not on my list, who I wish to be.

    I'm extremely tactical in what I reveal on this website and what I don't. (And in real life, while I'm at it - if someone sees me act in a certain way, or hears me say a certain something, it's because I allow them to; almost every word, thought, action I undertake has been formulated in that way to some degree.)
    I choose who does and doesn't know who I do and don't socialise with - my friendslist is a false indication of that and therefore I do not want it publically visible.

    As for my social group, that was just satirical. :smile:
     
  4. Mr. Snakey

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    I have made some great friends on here and have no problem with people seeing who they are. Also because of this im making some new friends which is nice. I reached out to some and some reached out to me. Its been nice.
     
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    I think the friends list only has as much significance as one allows it to have. I just thought it was a nice touch that was added for members to enjoy. It has been fascinating in the last few days to see how members perceived it . I have no problem with anyone seeing who is on my friends list. If anyone feels uncomfortable with anyone seeing them on my friends list, or that accepted out of politeness please dont stand on principle. I will feel no pain if you wish to remove yourself from the line of fire. :biggrin1:
     
  6. B_dumbcow

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    I don't really understand the function of the firends list, but it's nice to have :smile:

    I have an extremely long buddy/contacts list, filled with loads of everybody who I get on with, and I find myself updating it often. But I'm a tad apprehensive about inviting people to my friends list because they might not really think of me as a friend.

    Anyway, I'm not going to hide it... it's a sweet little extra to have :biggrin:
     
  7. lucky8

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    I hide mine because i don't want random people to keep requesting to be my friend
     
  8. naughty

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    I dont think that actually can stop them from asking. But you can...:biggrin1:
     
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    I can't say I'd given the visibility/or not of my friends list any thought. Doesn't bother me one bit if people can see who is on there though
     
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    I have not problem with the friend list being exposed...I have met some wonderful people online. I wasn't sure how I felt about it at first, but I am growing to like it. Like DumbCow, I am a little apprehensive to ask someone to be a friend because I am not sure what that means exactly (hah)...but I think we should all just be supportive friends to each other in our big dick community! (hehe)
     
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    I don't see what all the fuss is about? show your friends list, don't show your friends list....anyone who wants to be on my "friends" list is more than welcome....it's meaningless.......My "friends" here on LPSG already know who they are and I'm a lucky man to have met them and gotten to know them...
     
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    but people on LPSG aren't 'real' friends to me - they're friendly contacts, who I share similar interests with. They no nothing more about the real me other than what I choose to tell 'em, but hey - we all haev LPSG as the common interest.

    I'll leave mine open.
     
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    I know, but I think it may help in deterring some people a little. Ever since I put my list on hide, i haven't gotten a single random request, whereas beforehand, i had like 20 people I've never heard of send me requests. It gets kind of annoying having 5 new notifications everytime i log on
     
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    I hear ya. Actually there was someone who I was going to ask but I felt bad when I saw it said they didnt have any friends and I didnt want to go there! LOL! Now I realize they had their friends list on private. To each his or her own.
     
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    I think it depends. There are people on here who actually have made that leap from friendly contact to friend. Then there are others who are online acquaintances or individuals who for whatever reason find that their interactions can not or should not go further.
     
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    :cool: Yeah, my page is sexy :biggrin1:

    I think if anyone wants to recieve no more friend requests, they could set the colour of the "Befriend SuPer_big.Sexxxydick" button to the same colour as the background, so it can't be seen. (Just a thought - not sure if it would actually work)
     
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    I don't have a mind about the list either way. I see no reason to hide my list and no reason to consciously try to grow it. I especially will not be cruising profiles to see who is on whose friend list.
     
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    :eek:uch: I Hide my list out of embarressment, cause im new i don't have any friends, but im okay,Honestly :rolleyes:
     
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