EX's on Facebook, Myspace etc...

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  1. D_N Flay Table

    D_N Flay Table New Member

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    Anyone here friends with thier ex's...

    I never really have been...

    Except for this one girl who is pretty cool... and Bragged about me to all her friends...

    how bout you?

    Is your partner friends with an ex?

    How do you deal with it??

    The gal I am with is friends with many of her ex's and I am totally cool with it.

    I guess I really just don't worry to much.

    Smooches.

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    Some I am and some I'm not. I guess it depends on the foundations of the relationship. I have had partners who were still friends with their exes and it has never really bothered me.
     
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    I don't speak to any of my ex's, not especially when they were all cheaters, users, etc. etc.

    I find life is better when you filter out the trash and keep the good :D
     
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    Stayed good friends with one of my ex's, she was my favorite girlfriend (a real freak)
    My most recent ex, we have to play friendly because we now hang around with the same group of friends (yeah i know stupid idea to begin with. oh well). I honestly cant stand her anymore, but gotta put on a happy face for the groups sake
     
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    I'm still friends (or at least friendly) with almost all of my exes - male and female. Obviously, I don't want to be with any of them now or they wouldn't be my ex, right? So there wouldn't be a reason for jealousy.

    My BF isn't in contact with any of his exes, but how I would feel about it would depend entirely on how it was handled. If his communication with them was behind my back and I found out, I'd be pissed. Because if there's nothing to hide, then don't. But I'd be totally fine if he were still friends with them and it was all on the up-and-up like any other friendship. I think it's a sign of maturity and a good nature when people can care deeply about someone, realize it isn't working out, break up, and remain friends.

    The only time I've become upset when a current BF was still friends with an ex-girlfriend is when she was disrespectful of me. We met her at a bar and when she wasn't shooting me dirty looks, she was hanging all over him and pretending I didn't exist. I was pissed at him, too, for not telling her something to the effect of, "Look, this is my girlfriend and if you're really my friend then you'll accept that and be nice to her, too." (I actually had to have that conversation with a male friend of mine.) But he seemed to like the situation it created.
     
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    I think this was specifically "friends" online, such as myspace and stuff.

    I have been, and if something goes wrong...not horribly wrong, with what I have I will be again.
     
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    Yeah, they're on my buddy lists.
     
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    I'm cool with just about most of my exes. In fact, the majority of them I could probably reunite with, there's only one or two where the door is closed and locked. My contact with them is limited to facebook and being on my msn chat list. I just don't believe in having someone who was once in my life be an enemy. Some situations occur where there's a nasty breakup, but I've never really had one. Not to brag, but quite a few recently, in the past year alone, have hinted at reuniting with me because they've played the field and realize what they had with me.
     
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    Pardon, Proud7. That's braggin.'

    ""Not to brag, but quite a few recently, in the past year alone, have hinted at reuniting with me because they've played the field and realize what they had with me.""
     
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    I'm friends with most of my exes... but there's one, my first love, who I haven't spoken to for nearly 18yrs (despite having lived in the same small town for most of that time) and I'd so love to, if only so that I could tell him that despite all the ups and downs in my love life over the years, that because of him I know that good guys do exist and for that I'm grateful!
     
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    I'm not bragging, even if it sounds like I am. I'm stating what I have been told, by a few ex girlfriends. So dont' shoot the messenger :wink:
     
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    I have ex fuck buddies, some I talk to regularly, it's no big deal.
     
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    Hmm....I'm friends with 4/5 exes. Not really close, but we talk on occasion. I have them all as friends on Facebook and/or Myspace, as well.

    However, one of them...who was just annoying as hell, did the passive-aggressive bullshit and deleted me from FB and Myspace after we broke up. Total mistake to be with her ugly ass.

    I figure just because we're not dating anymore, doesn't mean I don't still think my exes are someone worthwhile. I'd like to still be friends with them and see how they're doing. Where life takes them, etc. I have a positive opinion of them, and if they ever want to get back together...hey. I'm open for it. Especially for my first gf.
     
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    All my ex girlfriends have chosen not to contact me and for the most part I accept that. There is just one however who chose a really ugly, despicable mofo over me which I found hard to accept. We don't talk, I just think about her quite a lot. Could also have something to do with me having decided to end all other relationships, and those girls taking it badly. With the one girl it was totally out of the blue and not my own choice.

    My current girlfriend told me she still thinks about her ex a lot which is understandable because they split up just before Christmas and I only met her on New Years Eve. I don't mind that and don't worry about them getting back together since he is on another continent and barring a miracle will always be on another continent.

    I wish she would decide to be with me though since I like her a lot and I would settle for her and with her. It is also really strange yet refreshing how honest she is and how honest we are with each other. She is a few years older than me though and wiser for it.

    Me and my current girlfriend aren't friends on Facebook, I don't think she wants to add me (yet?). We did discuss it briefly and she said she would when she was ready. It doesn't bother me because Facebook has little meaning next to our real life interactions.
     
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