I too used to be in your shoes till even my early 20s. Lacking confidence and self-esteem and very self-conscious about my looks. Things started changing after I entered the workforce and found that I was really good at some stuff and then made good friends too because it was a young workforce there most of us just out of college like me.
If I could go back in time I would give myself the following advice:
1. Not everyone is *really* doing all the awesome things they claim to have done.
2. There will always be areas in which you are far better than average
3. Looks can be worked on ... honestly I think it's OK to be average looking when you have good character
4. Not every thing in life is going to be perfect so relax learn to enjoy what you have
5. Most people are dumb, mean or both.
Great post, buddy!
(We're the same age):wink::biggrin1:
Well, you can go to a weight lost camp or walk a couple of miles everyday until you lose weight.Hey guys. I don't want to make this a sad depressing thing so I'll cut to the point.
Spent most of my childhood/early teens a bit overweight, therefore - self confidence sucks.
Now, at 18, I'm 5'9'' and 140 lbs, which is obviously anything but overweight. I think I look pretty good in the face, wish my body was a bit better (no sixpack... trying so hard though.. any tips?) but the worst thing of all is - I can't seem to get any self confidence.
This is an issue because I can't seem to pick up anyone. I haven't had any guys interested in me, and it's begin to drain on me being so alone.
What's your advice?
Thanks
Thats one number where I can match you
Well, you can go to a weight lost camp or walk a couple of miles everyday until you lose weight.
Just wanted to thank all you guys for providing real good advice and not making this a downer thread! Haha I know, it's something that will come in time. It's not really my looks I'm concerned about (I mean, like I said, I have no sixpack, but that doesn't bother me) sometimes its just the fact that you feel like you're living in a world made for couples.
Anyway, thank you all again.
My cooking is very basic I am afraid.Just one? LOL
Well, I would love to have some vindaloo (extremely spicy) and a mango lassi if can't match the other numbers (I see you cook).:biggrin1:
Peace and take care
I feel for you. I think many guys don't know exactly how to deal with their loneliness because of cultural reasons, also maybe what you're saying about "living in a world made for couples" could be changed. You might want to live in a large city where there are a lot of single people; some looking for partners and others wanting to remain single. I don't think you have to be married to be happy and fulfilled. I don't feel this is a downer thread but more what people experience in their lives. I think all of us can learn from your experience. I got some great advice from an older friend of mine years ago; he said, do the things you love to do and similar people will come into your life naturally. It has proved to be very true for me. All the best. :smile: