Eye contact - how do you interpret it?

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  1. dongalong

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    A lot can be said without words just by the way people look at you or you at them.

    How do you interpret eye contact from someone you are trying to seduce or who seems interested in you?

    Do you have a checklist of actions before you decide that you or they are or are not interested? If yes, list your theories.
     
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    I don't see what you mean Rob!:eek:
     
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    I catch the eyes of people looking at me in public but I always attributed it to something other that sexual interest, because I like to look at all types of people even one's I'm not attracted to sexually. I am usually oblivious when people are cruising me in public places unless it is blatant. Catching someone's eyes and keeping it for at least 1 second is a good sign that there's mutual attraction. A stare and a smile or grin is a clear signal; winks also mean I'm interested or we have some connection (this is kinda cheesy). Raised eyebrows are a good sign too. Unfortunately you can be attracted to someone and never look them in the eyes - this happens to me all the time so it comes as a complete suprise when someone that has been ingoring you comes on to you.
     
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    I'm flirting-retarded so I never know. :tongue:
     
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    This is partly why I started the thread, I thought it strange why my attractive neighbour almost goes overboard in avoiding eye contact, normally if you aren't interested you would at least politely look in a neighbour's eyes and say hello.
    The way I look at it is, she either finds me physically repulsive (I'm not that ugly!:confused: ) or she might be interested but very, very shy! Of course she could just be rude, which is normal in Paris!:wink:
     
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    ah u live in gay paris!
     
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    It depends on the vibe I get. Normally when people look at me, I generally just think they're trying to figure out whether or not I'm a lesbian. :rollseyes: But when a guy gives a smile or something, I know it's usually something more!
     
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    Ha, I just assume all women want me. (I'm mostly wrong)
     
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    I would be embarrassed by rejection. To think that I came on to you and you rejected me would be unbearable if I lived next door to you and had to bump into you again and again. I'd have a hard time looking you in the eye afterwards.
     
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    Here are the ways in which I interpret eye contact:

    1. Uh oh, is my fly undone?
    2. Don't look so disgusted
    3. What the fuck are you looking at?
    4. Was she checking me out? Pity she's not hot.
     
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    5. She must be looking at somebody behind me.
     
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    6. Was she checking me out? God doesn't she know I'm gay.
     
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    Eye contact, especially prolonged eye contact, das guud.

    Only time I don't like it is when its a girl I don't fancy looking at me giving the dirty looks like 'I wanna fuck you'...hard to explain. Making excuses to walk past etc...don't like that.

    Eye contact is good but I never seem to act on it :redface:
     
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    I know within three instants of eye contact whether I will have sex with someone.
     
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    Depends on culture also. Some Native American Indians do not make eye contact, ever. it is consider rude, like you are trying to rob thier soul.

    Espically true of Women with strange men.

    I never notice anyone looking at me, in fact even after someone points it out I usually miss it. Just a little too shy I guess.
     
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    If I hold his gaze for more than a few seconds and he doesn't look away, it's a sign of good things to come.

    If I hold his gaze for a second and he looks away, blushes, and looks at me again, it's a sign of good things to come.
     
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    I wish I had a nickel for each time a pretty girl smiled at me, I smiled back, and then watched as she walked right past me to chat with her friend, leaving me looking like an idiot.
     
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    I'm not shy about making eye contact. Usually when I'm out in public, there will be clean cut young guys that I'll notice. When our eyes meet, I instinctively smile. Sometimes the dudes look away, and sometimes they smile back. I love getting smiles!
     
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    Ha yes I knew I'd missed something!
     
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