facial hair on women, please help

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Bryan_Lyte2 said:
Dude I'm sure you could have found a better "feeling" than that, and still cleared the non-offensive avatar high bar.:cool:

That's because you can't see the bottom half of the picture. :cool:
 

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Ah, we women are so touchy, it may really be a tough thing to bring up. If it's really bothering you, ask yourself this before you announce it, "If she found some physical thing about ME distasteful, would I want to know?" and then act accordingly. Personally, I would want to know, but then again, I already use NAIR.
 

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Thanks for the input. i expected most of it. the fact is the reason i am asking and that it bothers me is because im dissapointed i am letting it bother me in the first place and making me shallow, cos i am not like that. I can appreciate that she isnt miss world in her looks or body but this is 1 thing that has niggled at me, i dont know why though.

As for me i also know full well im not perfect, if there was something about me that i could do that was effecting my girlfriend in a way that was making her uncomfortable with me then i would definately want her to tell me. However i know she struggles at time with the size of my penis but we both know there is no solution to that problem so that is why she probably doesnt dwell on it.

i think i knew the answer before i asked, it seems there is no way i can tell her without upsetting her or causing some serious long lasting damage to our relationship so i guess ill just have to try and forget it
 

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In Latin cultures, such women are prized as healthy and hot-blooded.

Gringo tastes are a little different.

Just make sure you don't call her "Groucho", OK?

Seriously, maybe she doesn't know and would want to do something about it if she did. I don't like vagrant hairs on my eyebrows, ears, nose etc. and when my wife comes at me with those tweezers...yikes! But I shut up and let
her have her way with me.

Mutual grooming is a mammal trait, and especially among us primates.
 

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Women shave their armpits and legs
to appear less hairy and don't give it
a second thought...Steve, you sound
like a very caring individual and I
applaud the fact you have given this
as much thought as you have. In my
eyes, you girlfriend is one lucky person.

Yes, I agree Fred...mutual grooming
is a form of bonding and of wanting a
partner to be shown at their best, such
as ..."Oh, your going to wear that shirt
with those pants?" ;)
 

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Windtalker:

I neither dissed nor ridiculed anyone. Unprovoked disrespect is not my way. However, neither is dishonesty. I always say what I think, and I usually say it the first way I think it.

My communication style will often come across as harsh, and sometimes come across as crude, but my words almost always leave a lasting impression. Friends and associates respect me because I can always be counted on to let them know when their shit stinks, and I can take criticism myself.

I'm glad that this forum has both bomb-droppers like me, and warm huggers like you. Keep doing you, and I'll keep doing me. (There's a joke in that somewhere.)
 

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I'm no psychologist, so take what I'm about to say with a pinch of salt...

Do you think it's possible your sudden pre-occupation with your gf's moustache could be indicative of a deeper insecurity about the relationship? I'm close to a relationships counsellor and have done some myself in my time, and your dilemma sounds like something that comes around quite often. When one partner suddenly picks up on a characteristic or a habit that bugs them, and focusses on it so that it preoccupies them, we frequently find a deeper problem at the root of it. In men's cases in particular it can often be because they have something that they find too emotionally difficult to say, so bring an easy physical trait to mind as a mask and a precursor to dealing with the real issue; i.e. Get talking about the 'tache, then once the gates are open, follow up with the other thing that's been at the back of their minds all along. In such cases we advise that if the "real" issue is tackled, the minor irritation often ceases to cause any bother.

As I said above steve, I'm not a professional, and that's no form of amateur diagnosis, I just thought I'd throw the idea into the wind for your consideration
 

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dirtyde said:
Good points E.G.



Also notice the time frame, you have been together for three months......the honeymoon is over...now the work begins.

I think that society in general puts a lot of pressure on women to look a certain way, to act a certain way and to model the ambience of "supermodels." The fact is, we don't always look like we've just stepped out of a salon and thank God for that. It gives credence that we are human and are not "flawed."

Given your situation, I think it would be healthy for you to talk to your girlfriend and let her know your concerns. Open relationships help build lasting relationships. Naturally, I am sure, there are things about you she might not find overly attractive, e.g., back hair, thick chest hair, etc., for example. Too many times we sugarcoat things in an effort to save feelings, when in fact it could potentially jeopardize the true essence of how we feel. Open up and talk with her. Be real with her....

I would much rather my husband tell me, sweetie... you need to wax than him just holding back and not saying anything at all. Another thing to keep in mind is that maybe your boo is busy and has simply neglected to groom that area. Maybe she overlooks it because she does not see it as a problem... who knows? But, she will never know unless you share it with her.

Do be tactful and do be gracious when doing so, however, unless you want black eye - or better yet, blue balls. :)

 

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Hey Bronx,

Oh I realize that you shoot from the
hip, when you make a post. You are
a very confident woman and give as
good as you get but I suppose I'm
just looking at it from the viewpoint
of someone asking a question for the
first time...they may be less confident
in voicing their concerns, then the
comments begin, when what they
asked for was some positive help.

Sometimes we post without thinking
how those words will be perceived by
others...but sure...it's easy to see
that you and I have vastly different
approaches with regard to answering
someones query and I can respect
the difference, as this would be a boring
world if we were all cut from the same
mold.

Windtalker.
 

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BronxBombshell said:
Windtalker

I'm glad that this forum has both bomb-droppers like me, and warm huggers like you. Keep doing you, and I'll keep doing me. (There's a joke in that somewhere.)
Ok ladies you have become a couple of my faverite posters here lets just hope he doesn't notice her chest hairs :yikes: now for the joke in here somewhere.... Off to your repected corners and now come out :fight: :2gunsfiring_v1: :BoomSmilie_anim: :bluboomteamenforcer :chairshot: :swordfight: feel better? now :kiss: and makeup :naughty: me:nana:
 

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BronxBombshell said:
The hair is a good sign. It means she's a human. You could pray before bed that when you wake up you will no longer be shallow, you can bring it up and make her self concious, or you can move on to a woman who has already decided to make sure none of her facial hairs are ever visible to you.

LOL, BB - I think this is the start of a beautiful friendship. :tongue:

Seriously though, I'm considered a dirty blond....in both senses of the word. I have some hair on my upper lip too and try to wax it often. I don't think there is any delicate way to bring this issue up to a woman if she doesn't do it already. If it bothers you that much, you need to move on.
 

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LOL Curious N Str8, you're
a sweetie...

In my world this ole board is
nuttin' but one big love-fest
or should be considering the
subject. ;)

Ohhhhh...Alaska?
How do you keep...warm???
 

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curious n str8 said:
I snuggle neix to a grumpy ole sow bear when i can of course :eek:

Oh my!...bears are a 'theme' today
you know...you did see what Alex,
et al, were doing to bears in another
thread, Curious? Maybe I'll call you
Grizzly Adams, instead!:tongue: