Facials: degrading or expressions of love?

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  1. abaco

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    I posted a thread called "Who invented the cumfacial?" in another room, in which I was seeking input on when and where in porn history this obsession with ejaculating on a woman's face began. But it seems a few others are more interested in discussing my secondary point, that it is a degrading practice meant to appeal to sexist men. Not to make the claim that a facial is always degrading among consenting partners, only that it's overuse in porn is more for the sexism than the sexual nature of it.

    A fellow user posted the following, in part:
    I think this quote provides only further evidence of my point, but I thought I'd put this on the Women's Issues forum to at least put down the notion that women seek out and enjoy this practice. So...

    Do you feel "loved" and "appreciated" when a guy blasts one in your eye?
     
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    And here I thought this might... actually be a legitimate post/question....
     
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    Do you feel "loved" and "appreciated" when a guy blasts one in your eye?[/quote]
    .Sure Honey!
    Blast away into my eyes..just so I feel loved!
    So then after that you won't mind me punching you in the balls..just so you feel equally Loved right back!!
     
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    At least the question was framed in an unbiased fashion.
     
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    I don't care for facials, but I do see where the women ask for them. I don't know whether it's all staged or what. Same with cumming in her mouth. I would never force that or really even want to unless it was requested.

    The only thing I like to watch being cummed on is tits.:cool:
     
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    I think if you took a poll of all the porn watchers asking, "Would you rather watch a a man quiver as he ejaculates in a woman then see it leak out, OR see him blow his load all over her", I think they would choose the second. Also, there is nothing hotter than having a woman groan in excitement and watching the faces she makes when he busts all over her. PERSONALLY, I prefer to blow on her belly, or the arch of her back when hitting it doggie style, but thats just me. In fact, when they are lying on their back, I like pul pull out and see if I can hit their face when launching from her hips. However... I merely think that porn companies noticed that facials sell more. End of story. I do see how it can be taken as derogotory... but you cant fault them for trying to stay profitable. In closing... the only thing that gets me back up just 2 seconds after busting is watching a girl guzzle my load like a champ... so KUDOS to all you swallowers out there!
     
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    The OP obviously doesn't care for facials. I have to say that if the woman is willing then I am more than happy to squirt on her face. I get off on it, but I'd never do it unless she was OK with it.
     
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    I'm a guy who would never cum on a girls face uninvited.....

    .....But, maybe I like being abused or something (who can say) the thought of some guy/guys cumming all over my face, uninvited, is a major turn-on.
     
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    Yeah, I got a little snarky at the end there. Curse this natural showmanship. I just can't go ten seconds with trying to crack a joke. It is sort of my job, after all.

    I always thought this was a weird argument, although I understand it -- that we need to "see" the man orgasm. But what about the woman? We don't really "see" anything. But we hear it, we see the outward signs of it, and if we're actually engaged in the sexual act ourselves, we certainly feel it. Why is it so necessary to see the fluids shooting in all directions? I personally prefer pornography where both parties seem to be legitimately engaged in a sexual act, not just an act (hard to find, sometimes). I would prefer the guy just do what feels good rather than what the director tells him to do. It's more convincing and sexy that way.

    Nope. Not end of story, and I can fault them for being party to an organized practice of sexism. Just because someone gets rich off it doesn't justify it. There are people out there in the world getting rich making child porn. Can you fault them for trying to stay profitable? God I hope so. And just because child porn is ILLEGAL and a facial isn't makes no difference either. At some point in the past child porn was not illegal. Then society as a whole decided it was immoral and outlawed it.

    If pornographers are making boatloads of money by promoting sexist behavior, I think we have every right to question whether such a practice should be allowed to continue. Of course, there are quite a few people who will claim all pornography is inherently degrading to women, as it separates the woman's body from the complete woman and makes her into nothing more than an object to be conquered. I'm not totally in agreement, but at least if pornographers are doing something very clearly degrading, it should be addressed I think.
     
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    I can't imagine a woman wanting/prefering to get a load in her face or even in her hair. Then there's on her back or up her poop chute, her boobs, even her tummy. But it's been my experience, at least with condomless or uncertain unprotected sex (yeah, she swore up and down she was on the pill and takes it religiously as instructed, that or uses an IUD), that to shoot on her back and tummy is safer than inside her vagina.
     
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    Please try not to be so ethnocentric. Facials are hardly the worst of it. When you could be addressing the Russian sex slave trade or the AIDS infected men in Africa raping little girls and giving them that Godforsaken disease, instead, you are putting the practice of women getting PAID top dollar to take a man's load on their face. Seems like there are some better things to discuss. And please dont ever try to link facials with child porn, it makes you sound less than intelligent. We live in a capitalistic economy where everyday, people compromise their morals to make a buck. It's not something new and crazy, drug dealers have been doing it for decades. You live in Rhode Island... you know what kind of country this is. When I was overseas in the Navy, I saw women be beaten in the streets. Did I want to help, yes. Could I, no. Lastly, you don't have to pretend that you are soooo incredibly straight that you don't enjoy watching a man nut on a woman (wherever he chooses to).

    Ethnocentrism = Judging a culture by your values

    Cultural Relativism = Judging a culture by their values

    Here are a few ethnocentric groups you may fit in a little better with:
    Nazis
    KKK
    Black Panthers
    White Supremecists
     
  13. melis

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    Personally, I find it degrading. I don't have a problem with him cumming on my stomach, on the arch of my back or on my breasts. I much prefer the intimacy when he cums inside me, though!

    Here's another thread about it: Do girls like facials?
     
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    Real men cum in their woman's mouth and then kiss them with their mouthful....

    And real men go down on their women immediately after shooting a load inside of them...


    And real men ascribe to the 20 to 1 rule--- that is, your woman should get 20 orgasms for every one you have....

    Why?

    because they CAN.
     
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    I dont think they are either a expression of love or degrading. If you feel degraded by anything you partner does to you then there is a problem as there should be a mutual trust and respect i all things you do. also i dnt thinnk it is a expression of love as majority of the tme women aren't into it and only do it for the sake of their mans pleasure. Really, we get no physical pleasure from it. It is however just something thing couples do, Nothing different from any other sexual act.
     
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    You know, I believe that most think facials are degrading or they simply don't like it. Some get off on it - there are all kinds.

    My gf generally doesn't like them. However, a few times when I was trying to cum on her belly it has ended up on her face. She's never seemed to mind then, and has mentioned it later on as if very impressed, along the lines of "Wow you shot so far, it even ended up in my hair/on my pillow/on my face/in my eye, etc."
     
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    Well I would say ....why waste it.. I like it.. and if he dose blow one off... NOT ON MY MAKE UP.. RUB IT IT,, IT'S GOOD FOR THE SKIN!!
     
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    Personally i dont even like to cum on a girls face, it just feels wierd. I like to cum inside her or on her stomach/breasts.when i cum inside her, i really like to start kissing just below her belly button and work my way down ;)
     
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    I totally agree with you. I like cum on my breast, stomach, butt, in my vagina, but just across my face and in my hair, not really into that. Some of the girls on the porn shows don't look like they enjoy it either sometimes.
     
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    i personally don't like facials.. but that's more to do with just not liking a load of gunk blasted across my face, than feeling degraded.
     
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