You would think by now people would see each other for who they are and what they have to offer, and not for what they do in private that is really nobody's business. To identify someone by a label, and a discriminatory one at that, is exclusionaryit separates you from theman implied or unimplied distance to disassociate yourself from them based on their sexuality It could be your best friend that has been a part of your life for years. There is a difference in defining someone as your "best friend" or as your "gay friend." Time for more intelligence to happen in the world.