TomCat84
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SGOT, I tend to agree with TomCat. You sound a lot too choosy.
Maybe I just have a promiscuous attractiveness meter, but I'll never understand the boxes people put up around what they are WILLING to find attractive. You ONLY like guys around your age, because somehow that number 30 magically makes men less attractive. HOW? I'm 32, and I look nearly exactly the same as I did when I was 28. Really, I haven't changed that much in 4 years. Still, when I was 28 I fell within your age-restriction parameters, and now I do not. It sounds a lot like you're cutting out a significant number of potential partners simply because of some preconceived notion of what you think you should find attractive.
I suggest you lighten up on yourself a little. Meet people, and judge them on a per-person basis. Lumping them into groups based on your parameters is only limiting you to an exactly perfect idea of a mate who likely doesn't exist. Get out there. If you like smart guys, join some message boards for smart guys - at least one of them is bound to be gay. If you like sports, join some amateur sports leagues - at least one of your team mates is bound to be gay. Open your mind to the possibility that Mr. Right might not be what you expect. Amazing things happen in ways we never expect they could. You just have to approach life with an open mind, and life will open her heart to you and happiness will follow.
This. When I was single, I did have somewhat of an age range, but it was never exact.
OP: Some people here have suggested lowering your standards. That's not quite what you need to do. But you DO need to realize that NOBODY is going to satisfy ALL of your requirements. You can go for 90% even- but 100% is ALWAYS going to be impossible.
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