I understand what the fantasy is here, but I simply cannot connect the word "Rape" with "Consent." In real life, it simply does not work that way. What is described here is a sexual fantasy where one is in a submissive role and the other dominate. It excludes fear, random acts of violence, and in fact, has nothing to do with "rape" as the world at large understands it.
I just wanted to put out there that not every female wants to have this experience - fantasy or not - so that the men who read this can know there are some who simply don't get off on it.
I'll back out of here and leave you all to enjoy your fantasy without me adding a further negative to it. this one just hit really close to home.
Again, I do understand a female wanting to be submissive, but it is not rape by any stretch of the imagination.
I did want to share this below from Wikipedia.
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
This article is about a form of sexual assault. For other uses, see
Rape (disambiguation).
In
criminal law,
rape is a type of
sexual assault usually involving
sexual intercourse, by one person against another person without that person's
consent. According to the
American Medical Association (1995), sexual violence, and rape in particular, is considered the most under-reported violent crime.
[1][2] The rate of reporting, prosecution and convictions for rape varies considerably in different jurisdictions. The U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics (1999) estimated that 91% of U.S. rape victims are
female and 9% are male, with 99% of the offenders being male.
[3] In one survey of women, only two percent of respondents who stated they were sexually assaulted said that the assault was perpetrated by a stranger.
[4] Several studies argue that
male-male and
female-female prison rape are quite common and may be the least reported form of rape.
[5][6][7]
When part of a widespread and systematic practice, rape and
sexual slavery are recognized as
crimes against humanity and
war crimes. Rape is also recognized as an element of the crime of
genocide when committed with the intent to destroy, in whole or in part, a targeted ethnic group
I can see why it would scare you. The thought of someone using a discussion like this as an excuse for raping someone is horrifying. I guess nothing can really be done about them - they will always find an excuse for their actions (although there is none).
For those who might possibly interpret someone's message wrong, the key is
CONSENT
And just like you learn in sex ed, consent is NOT about reading messages, or thinking that fantasy = real life desire for a sex act. Many people fantasise about this but would NEVER want to do it. Consent is getting a clear and definite 'YES, I would like to do this and it's NOT just a fantasy'. Consent is discussing what is and isn't acceptable in a scene. Consent is going through EVERY SINGLE major detail, and many of the minor ones. Consent is about having a safe word or signal, and stopping when the person uses it. Consent is about aftercare. It is ALL ABOUT consent.
And people need to be careful about who they play with. Something of this kind of depth should only be done with someone you trust with your life, because that is essentially what you're doing - putting your life in their hands.
Understandable that it hits you hard *hugs*
I've sent you a PM.
I know, and agree. Hopefully that person would also take notice of my big old paragraph about consent, but I'm probably hoping in vain.