I've recently started chatting with a guy on another website, we are getting on really well and seem to be reaching a point where things may go further. (I'm usually a bad boy and not into any sort of committed relationship so this is a big step.) I find myself thinking about this guy all the time which suggests I am falling for him in a big way, but, and here's the problem, he's a serving british soldier who is about to be deployed to Afghanistan. Now I find myself worrying if he's going to be ok, what if he gets hurt or worse? I want to protect him and I know it's his job and his choice but can I put either of us through this. Some of you out there must be either serving soldiers or their husbands, bfs, wives or gfs. How do you manage your emotions and fears in these troubled times? How do you cope with the separation and the "not knowing" if your partner is ok? I hate war and violence of any type but I've never had to think about these sorts of issues before. Would really appreciate your views and advice.