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I regularly jerk off thinking about women I know. I assume women also fantasize about men they know but haven’t slept with. For me, I spend most of my energy picturing the situation, the faces they’d make and the things they’d say. I don’t focus so much on picturing them naked. But I think that’s because there’s no big surprises. I kind of know what to expect as I’ve seen them in tight clothes or bathing suits etc.

But for women.. you really don’t know what a guys dick looks like. So do you try to picture it? If so, do you picture the same dick on every guy? do you picture a different dick based on the guy?
 

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Wow.. Some pretty interesting replies.. It’s actually very surprising that some women have never fantasized about their crushes. Especially because I’ve heard that a lot of women prefer fantasizing to watching porn. And the auto cock was also a surprise. I thought it was more likely that you’d have a “default dick.” It be really interesting to find out how close your “auto cock” is to realty
 

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You know, whenever I read posts on reddit from women whose partners are discovered with "Facebook porn" -- pics of women from their lives that they jack off to, I am beyond disgusted. It feels like, so violating.

So no I do not at all wonder what some friend's dick looks like. Unless they are a potential love interest, my mind ain't going there

I HATE the thought of a male friend having pics of mine he masturbates to. Yuck!
 

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You know, whenever I read posts on reddit from women whose partners are discovered with "Facebook porn" -- pics of women from their lives that they jack off to, I am beyond disgusted. It feels like, so violating.

So no I do not at all wonder what some friend's dick looks like. Unless they are a potential love interest, my mind ain't going there

I HATE the thought of a male friend having pics of mine he masturbates to. Yuck!
Yea.. I was definitely referring to a potential love interest or crush.. when u actually like a guy, do u ever fantasize about them?
 
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It's likely anyone I would be interested in is sex positive. I still get consent. I got Rem's consent to use him as wank fodder before we had ever had sex or were a thing.
 

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Also, I’m not trying to start a crazy debate or anything.. but I don’t think it’s wrong to fantasize about women I like or have a crush on. Some Women think it’s wrong for guys to jerk off to porn because it degrades women and some think it’s violating to jerk off to real women without getting some written consent.. and I’m sure asking for masurbation consent would probably be even more violating.. what am I supposed to do??
That’s a rhetorical question. I’m just saying I think it’s actually healthier to masturbate to real women in my fantasy than it is to watch porn.. but I’m not an authority or anything
 
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At least with porn the assumption can be made that they are giving consent for people to masturbate to them. A random crush, not so much.
 
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At least with porn the assumption can be made that they are giving consent for people to masturbate to them. A random crush, not so much.
I completely understand how a woman could feel violated if she found out somebody had been masturbating to them.. but I also don’t think we can judge or try to police somebody’s fantasies. What right would I have to restrict somebody else’s thought? That’s a pretty insane pecidence to set
 

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I can't say I have had detailed fantasies about men I'd never undressed. Fantasies, sure, but vague ones, usually centered around kissing and receiving oral sex. For a long time now, I have masturbated more to memories than fantasy.
That makes sense to me.. like I said in my original post. Most of my fantasy is vague and about the situation and what the woman is saying. Not as much about her body or even the sex
 
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I completely understand how a woman could feel violated if she found out somebody had been masturbating to them.. but I also don’t think we can judge or try to police somebody’s fantasies. What right would I have to restrict somebody else’s thought? That’s a pretty insane pecidence to set

I'm not saying I can or would restrict other people's thoughts. I CAN still think it's rude and shitty if some fucker I don't really know, don't know they're interested in me, have never done anything with them, uses images or imagines me to jack off to, though.

For example, the photos I post here were ones I took for my partner. I'm okay with sharing those and know some people fap to them. That's my choice to post them and I am okay with it. I sure as fuck can judge someone who I may have run into while on public transit, or out to eat, or what have you who might decide that my completely innocuous, unsexualized behavior is their wank fodder.

It's no different to think you can't judge someone for that as to comment on anyone judging a thought in the first place. That's judging me for thinking that behavior is crap. I think a lot of things people do is crappy. I can't make it stop, but that doesn't mean I have to be okay with it.
 
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the auto cock was also a surprise. I thought it was more likely that you’d have a “default dick.” It be really interesting to find out how close your “auto cock” is to realty

Nope, no default .. every dick is it's own self. None are particularly unique, but they're all individual.

Meh.. "really interesting" isn't how I would describe it. Sometimes I'm completely wrong about what I think it may look like. (Yes, I have had the opportunity to see some of the penises I 'fantasized' about). It's never been a disappointment either.
 
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I'm not saying I can or would restrict other people's thoughts. I CAN still think it's rude and shitty if some fucker I don't really know, don't know they're interested in me, have never done anything with them, uses images or imagines me to jack off to, though.

For example, the photos I post here were ones I took for my partner. I'm okay with sharing those and know some people fap to them. That's my choice to post them and I am okay with it. I sure as fuck can judge someone who I may have run into while on public transit, or out to eat, or what have you who might decide that my completely innocuous, unsexualized behavior is their wank fodder.

It's no different to think you can't judge someone for that as to comment on anyone judging a thought in the first place. That's judging me for thinking that behavior is crap. I think a lot of things people do is crappy. I can't make it stop, but that doesn't mean I have to be okay with it.
No offense, but I didn’t try to restrict your thought at all. I said it makes sense to be offended, you’re free to be offended. But you were advocating that consent should be had before proceeding with a thought. That’s the restriction I was referring to. Nobody needs consent to have a thought. That’s rediculous. Men aren’t evil mind rapists because we think about women without their consent. It’s completely natural and more than that i think it’s healthy
 

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Nope, no default .. every dick is it's own self. None are particularly unique, but they're all individual.

Meh.. "really interesting" isn't how I would describe it. Sometimes I'm completely wrong about what I think it may look like. (Yes, I have had the opportunity to see some of the penises I 'fantasized' about). It's never been a disappointment either.
I still think it’s interesting.. because I wonder what subconscious equation your mind does to create a dick for a particular guy. I thought maybe women would have an ideal dick they put on a guy. I was waayyy off based on the responses
 
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No offense, but I didn’t try to restrict your thought at all. I said it makes sense to be offended, you’re free to be offended. But you were advocating that consent should be had before proceeding with a thought. That’s the restriction I was referring to. Nobody needs consent to have a thought. That’s rediculous. Men aren’t evil mind rapists because we think about women without their consent. It’s completely natural and more than that i think it’s healthy

Eh.

I also don’t think we can judge or try to police somebody’s fantasies.

That's you making a judgement. About my judging that it's shitty for some random fuck I don't know using me as wank fodder. Which is a bit hypocritical. Other people can think what they like, that doesn't mean I have to like it. It doesn't mean I can't or shouldn't judge them for it. That's all the point I was making about that.

I also didn't say men, I said people. That's you taking liberties with what I wrote/interpreting way off base. I said people for a reason.
 
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Eh.



That's you making a judgement. About my judging that it's shitty for some random fuck I don't know using me as wank fodder. Which is a bit hypocritical. Other people can think what they like, that doesn't mean I have to like it. It doesn't mean I can't or shouldn't judge them for it. That's all the point I was making about that.

I also didn't say men, I said people. That's you taking liberties with what I wrote/interpreting way off base. I said people for a reason.
How are you so dense? U literally quoted me. I said u can’t judge a FANTASY. How did I judge your fantasy?
If somebody is openly espousing a belief, your more than welcome to debate them, which is what i did.
 

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I still think it’s interesting.. because I wonder what subconscious equation your mind does to create a dick for a particular guy. I thought maybe women would have an ideal dick they put on a guy. I was waayyy off based on the responses

I suppose it is worthy of a few minutes of thought... But not as much for me I guess, being that it's happening in my mind and I've never thought about it from a man's point of view.

For me, it's just random dicks that my brain makes up. None of them are particularly memorable either, because the penis itself isn't *the* main factor for me during sex. The main factor is actually the entire person, so that's what I remember..... as a whole. Not so much specific parts/moments.
 
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