If you have no intentions of meeting anyone for in person for sex is it cheating to chat online and talk about meeting even though you know you’ll never meet?
Cheating or being a time-waster?
I think that this depends on a few things:
- If you have a partner and what your boundaries are. Some people think that looking at porn is cheating ("mind cheating" - eye roll). Some people have open relationships but have rules like no repeats, or friends/friends of friends, etc.... It's all up to the individual arrangement. Only people in the relationships they might be cheating on know what the boundaries are. Dont know? It's probably time for a constructive talk to find out what the boundaries should be.
- Ethics regarding the other person. This kind of falls into the category of being a bit of a catfish, or a prick tease, or a time waster. Lots of people like to chat for titillation. Some people enjoy it on the way to hooking up, even with people who they'll never get there with. If you have no intention of ever meeting up though, it's probably most ethical to state that you're only looking for chat in your online profile. If leading people on so you can get as much chat out of them as possible with no intention of meeting up from the get go is your thing, I'd say that you'd be pushing the boundaries of common ethics there, but the harm factor is pretty low, because you could get all the way to whatever in-person sex act you want to name, and still pull the plug at any point. It's a bit of a fine line there.
I think that for either point, you have to ask yourself "is my behaviour causing harm to another person?" Would they / I feel bad if the truth were revealed?"