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to hair colour.

I've got a bit of a laissez-faire attitude to my hair. I mucked around with it a lot when I was younger. I can't stand the feel of styling products in my hair, and my usual hair care routine comprises of washing it, and then having it either up or down. Sometimes I brush it. I don't even like hair dryers.

I'm thinking about dyeing it, but I don't know if I can be bothered with the maintenance that would require. Because that is how lazy I am.

What is your hair care routine? Do you dye it? Generally, can you be arsed with that sort of thing?
 

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My hair and I have a love/hate relationship.

I love my hair, but I hate dealing with it. I refuse to dye it, I have a thing for my natural color. Light brown with red highlights? Can't get enough.

I cut it myself, just trimmed it last week. Cut it too short in the front.

It's always been long, and I can't style it to save my life. It's either down or in a classic ponytail. Just depends on my mood.
 
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I shaved it all off.

Before that though, I washed it omce or twice a month, put conditioner in once or twice a week, oiled my scalp five to seven times a week. If input in conditioner, I gave ot a dollop of Frizz-ease hair serum, then a squirt of mousse, and let it dry. Once a month, washed with extremely harsh shampoo until it squeaked when rubbed, soaked in vinegar, then soaked in conditioner, and rinsed. Hot oil treatment, leave in conditioner, squirt of mousse.

Before that, I kept it chemichally straightened, cut into short to medium styles. Saw the stylist for the relaxer every six weeks. Saw again for deep conditioner plus wash and set at the halfway point. Did not wash it between visits. African hair doesn't like to be washed. Too dry. Added oil as needed. The Scalp wanted almost daily. The hair wanted an oil sheen spray twice a week, daily in winter.

Shaved scalp still gets quite dry, but hates oil. Facial moisturizer with sunblock twice daily. Shave three times a week. Currently experimenting with an epilator. It's... VERY fucking painful. It also will keep smooth for six weeks. Presently, I do this to one part of my scalp. I like to think the rest of my scalp is the control group. But really, the epilator fucking hurts. That part of my Scalp stays hot for a week after. Gonna try Nair. Terrified it will get into my eyes. Might have a barber friend do it. Says we can try it in the bathroom at his shop with the industrial vent on when the owner is out. Then I can rinse in the shampoo sink. We just don't want the smell of nair to have a negative impact on business. I was thinking we could do it at my house, and I can arch my back over the side of the tub and have someone rinse me.
 
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At home, I use a semi-permanent dark blonde color (a couple shades lighter than my natural brown) just to cover my "wisdom highlights" (grey hair). Sometimes, I'll mix in brown or red for a change of pace or for the change of season. I often do it in the morning before work (takes ~25 minutes) or sometimes on weekends when I'm doing housework. I couldn't imagine setting aside hours to have it professionally done at a salon. Fortunately, I've always had a good and honest relationship with my stylists that they'll tell me if it's not a good color or if my hair is getting icky.

During a busy season of my life, I was pretty far behind on coloring, but thanks to a spray touch-up color for the roots, you couldn't tell. My stylist says I'm about 40% grey and has encouraged me to go natural. My hair is past my shoulders... and that'd be a LONG time to let things grow out. I wore my hair short (like Jamie Lee Curtis or when Jennifer Lawrence went short w/ long bangs) for a long time... it looked good and I liked how easy it was... wash and go. I imagine that when I decide to go grey, I'll probably cut it all off, too.

As far as styling/care... I usually wash every other day and apply a light leave-in spray conditioner. I usually blow dry straight and flip the ends under/up depending what it does that day. I don't fight it. The older I get, the more curl I have, so If I'm running late, I put mousse & glossing serum and scrunch it to air dry. Depending how uneven the curls are once dry, sometimes I'll put it up in a clip or comb. Weekends are usually ponytails, messy buns or hats during the day.
 

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As far as care, I wash and condition every other day. Blow dry when I have to be somewhere (takes a really long time for it to air dry).

I don't use many products, just mousse when it's really humid out, which is rare here.

My scalp? COMPLETELY taken over by psoriasis, I give it a coconut oil mask once a week.
 
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Have hair down to my butt but it's fine, thin and willful with a natural wave.

I have to be careful with my allergies so I rinse it well with the hottest water I can stand under the shower and give the scalp a very hard massage with my fingertips while under the same shower and then a rough towel dry and comb while damp.
I was a fan of hot/warm coconut oil conditioning treatments.
Heating the oil till it's a little warmer than blood temp. Pouring out over the hair and combing it through to the ends with a blunt wide toothed comb.
And then sitting out in the sun to activate it.
I couldn't do a damned thing with it for a week afterwards but gosh it looked good.
Wild hair - I don't care, touselled just rolled out of bed look.
Putting it in a flat ponytail at my nape ensures I'm not eating hair, getting it caught on my armpits (which is totally a thing ) when I wear sleeveless garments or get it caught in kitchen or farm machinery.
I'm don't even bother tempting fate anymore by trying to colour my hair.
Severe allergic reactions suck.
 
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At home, I use a semi-permanent dark blonde color (a couple shades lighter than my natural brown) just to cover my "wisdom highlights" (grey hair). Sometimes, I'll mix in brown or red for a change of pace or for the change of season. I often do it in the morning before work (takes ~25 minutes) or sometimes on weekends when I'm doing housework. I couldn't imagine setting aside hours to have it professionally done at a salon. Fortunately, I've always had a good and honest relationship with my stylists that they'll tell me if it's not a good color or if my hair is getting icky.

During a busy season of my life, I was pretty far behind on coloring, but thanks to a spray touch-up color for the roots, you couldn't tell. My stylist says I'm about 40% grey and has encouraged me to go natural. My hair is past my shoulders... and that'd be a LONG time to let things grow out. I wore my hair short (like Jamie Lee Curtis or when Jennifer Lawrence went short w/ long bangs) for a long time... it looked good and I liked how easy it was... wash and go. I imagine that when I decide to go grey, I'll probably cut it all off, too.

As far as styling/care... I usually wash every other day and apply a light leave-in spray conditioner. I usually blow dry straight and flip the ends under/up depending what it does that day. I don't fight it. The older I get, the more curl I have, so If I'm running late, I put mousse & glossing serum and scrunch it to air dry. Depending how uneven the curls are once dry, sometimes I'll put it up in a clip or comb. Weekends are usually ponytails, messy buns or hats during the day.
So, do root sprays and powders actually work then? Do they feel like dry shampoo?
I'm not expecting to have too much of a demarcation line because I'm going to use henna, and the blonde balayage thing I've had for a while was 'natural' enough that it's been growing out nicely and still looking good without me having to do anything to it. I don't have my fair share of greys yet.
 
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I use one called "Gray away" and for my hair color, it works well along the part. It's not so great for the temples w/o getting it on my face, but my grey isn't as noticeable there. At the salon today, I saw them putting powder on an old lady's roots and it looked like ti was working great.
 
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I use one called "Gray away" and for my hair color, it works well along the part. It's not so great for the temples w/o getting it on my face, but my grey isn't as noticeable there. At the salon today, I saw them putting powder on an old lady's roots and it looked like ti was working great.

It's a pretty popular thing these days for women/people with really thin hair.

Using a pencil liner then setting it with powder in the hairline is a huge Instagram hack.
 

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Isn't it trendy now for young ladies to deliberately dye their hair grey, or did that go away a couple of years ago?

That pissed me off. It was saying grey is only acceptable as fakery and on youth.
Fuck that.
 

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I’ve been colouring my hair since I was 22. After a bad break-up, a lot of my hair fell out and came back in grey. So to keep my natural colour, I’ve continued dying it. I’m kind of tired of it, but I’m at an age that letting it go natural would age me, so I’m “committed” to colouring it probably until retirement.
 
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Got my hair cut on Saturday and my stylist has encouraged me for the 2nd time to go natural grey. Last time, I was dating someone 10 years younger and didn't want to look that much older. I'm not currently coupled up, but my front runners are a little older and grey so it'd be easier now to not look a cougar.
 
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I’ve been colouring my hair since I was 22. After a bad break-up, a lot of my hair fell out and came back in grey. So to keep my natural colour, I’ve continued dying it. I’m kind of tired of it, but I’m at an age that letting it go natural would age me, so I’m “committed” to colouring it probably until retirement.
What sort of maintainence / upkeep does it require?
 
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Got my hair cut on Saturday and my stylist has encouraged me for the 2nd time to go natural grey. Last time, I was dating someone 10 years younger and didn't want to look that much older. I'm not currently coupled up, but my front runners are a little older and grey so it'd be easier now to not look a cougar.
I think you should look like a cougar :). Older, greyer men are not always aware of the fact that they're older and greyer. I guess if you tried the grey, and didn't like it, it would be far easier to dye it again than it would be to grow out the dye.
 
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Monthly maintenance on the roots. It’s such a pain. Any longer than a month and the grey gets really noticeable.
I think I might find once a month roots fairly manageable. I'd do it around that time of the month when I'd be unable to the things I'd otherwise be doing.
 
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My hair and I have a love/hate relationship.

I love my hair, but I hate dealing with it. I refuse to dye it, I have a thing for my natural color. Light brown with red highlights? Can't get enough.

I cut it myself, just trimmed it last week. Cut it too short in the front.

It's always been long, and I can't style it to save my life. It's either down or in a classic ponytail. Just depends on my mood.
I can't do hairstyles either. At All. I tried putting a bit of dry shampoo in my hair for a night out once, because it's the done thing apparently, and it made my head itch so horribly that I had to wash it out before I could go to sleep. It wasn't even a proper attempt at a hairstyle because I just had my hair down. :expressionless: . I only do plait, french plait, or twirled back in bun. Most other things seem to require styling products. And skill, and time and patience.