Fed up with being bisexual? Is that possible?

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I've always thought about me been straight. I'm 21 now. But during the last years I've been very active in viewing both male and female nudity online. So I became a bisexual for a time. I've never had sex with a man though, it was only watching pics.

But at the end of 2008 and the beginning of this year I realized as I've watched a thousand of male nudity pics that I am now fed up with male nudity. Now I'm more like watching only to see if there are some guys that look like me so I can use those image as a confidence-booster (Wow, he looks just like me and people find him hot, so I'm hot too, maybe my attitude sucks).

Images of naked men or men with bulges are not interesting for me in anyway anymore - there were times I even used to turn horny and become hard. But it almost never happens nowadays. When I see a pic of a naked guy now I just thin: "Yeah, whatever..." and I am not interested. I only use pictures of bulges as reference to see what clothes reveal more of your junk in order to know what to buy, but I almost never get horny when I see them. I just go "So you've got big balls or dick? So what? My balls are as big/bigger than yours." or something like that.

I am not fed up with seeing naked women (especially pics of boobs and nice female asses/vaginae) Does this mean that it was just a phase, that I am a straight guy or what? I don't know what to think since many people say that you can't change your sexuality. I'm totally confused. Have some of you ever underwent such a drastic change in taste over time?
 

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I've always thought about me been straight. I'm 21 now. But during the last years I've been very active in viewing both male and female nudity online. So I became a bisexual for a time. I've never had sex with a man though, it was only watching pics.

But at the end of 2008 and the beginning of this year I realized as I've watched a thousand of male nudity pics that I am now fed up with male nudity. Now I'm more like watching only to see if there are some guys that look like me so I can use those image as a confidence-booster (Wow, he looks just like me and people find him hot, so I'm hot too, maybe my attitude sucks).

Images of naked men or men with bulges are not interesting for me in anyway anymore - there were times I even used to turn horny and become hard. But it almost never happens nowadays. When I see a pic of a naked guy now I just thin: "Yeah, whatever..." and I am not interested. I only use pictures of bulges as reference to see what clothes reveal more of your junk in order to know what to buy, but I almost never get horny when I see them. I just go "So you've got big balls or dick? So what? My balls are as big/bigger than yours." or something like that.

I am not fed up with seeing naked women (especially pics of boobs and nice female asses/vaginae) Does this mean that it was just a phase, that I am a straight guy or what? I don't know what to think since many people say that you can't change your sexuality. I'm totally confused. Have some of you ever underwent such a drastic change in taste over time?

Well, if you don't like men and haven't had sex with any. Then, you are straight. But only you should know how you really feel about men or women. You will have to answer that question for yourself. I am not into women. I don't hate women at all. I am not wired sexually for them. I think that it would be cool being bi. (Hypothetical: But then, I wouldn't want to be the bisexual and both genders think that I am repulsive. That scenario wouldn't be fun at all.)

Emphasis: Only you can know about your sexuality. You must be open to whatever your heart, mind, soul, and cock dictates to you. You are young. Get out there, explore, and please do be safe in whatever you do.
 

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"I've never had sex with a man though, it was only watching pics."

So you were never bi. You were bi curious. Now that curiosity seems to be over.

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I watch guys' nudes the same as I do gals'.
They're not quite enjoyable but tolerable.
I can feel the powerful strength from their bodies and packages.
That's it. They never turn me on by their masculinity.

I love women.
It really makes me comfy just to be with them.
I am into toughing, smelling, tasting and feeling them.
I prefer girl's sweet boobs to guy's shield-like chest.
I like giirl's soft ass better than guy's tough butts.
I do love their beauty.
 
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If, like they say, sexuality is based on attraction ... and not behavior ... then ... well, hell, I don't know what it means. But I don't think you can classify yourself based simply on what you do. Lots of people experiment with stuff at times in their lives. It's what's in your heart and your head that determine your sexuality.

I've had times in my life when I've been bored or frustrated or just had enough of something, sexually, in my life. I think it comes and goes. Sometimes it seems to have to do with what's going on around me, sometimes it has to do with what I'm thinking or feeling.

It's really interesting that you were turned on by other dudes for a while, and now you're not. I'd approach it with an attitude of, "Wow, I wonder what else my life is gonna be like?" instead of "What does this mean?"
 

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The OP is really discussing an aspect of sexuality which I've not seen discussed elsewhere that I've dubbed "body envy". Or appreciation. You like to look and compare and wonder if you could ever measure up to what you are seeing. It doesn't mean you are gay, and it does mean an openness within yourself that isn't a bad thing to have. Empathy is in short supply nowadays.


I wouldn't worry about it. Some of the tales of men with long schlongs have a chapter or two where the guys at school all wanna have a look.
 
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I have gone through "phases" in what I found a turn on. I remember for years I only liked girl on girl porn. Now, it does nothing for me. I went through phases of only fucking black men. Now if a guy is hot, his skin color is not a determining factor as to whether I'd fuck him or not. Went through a phase of only getting off through dominating. Now, it's been there, done that.

Sexuality is fluid and seldom are people in one box forever.
 

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Sexual orientation is like one's I.Q. in that neither is completely static or unchanging. At different stages, under different conditions, with different stimuli we can be smarter or not, more gay or more straight. Certainly, most of us are probably born with a particular range of likely abilities and inclinations, but to devote too much time and energy to exactly how smart or gay I am at this one moment in time seems pointless to me.We love to think there are absolutes, but the people on here who claim 100% ANYthing are probably oversimplifying. Their reasons could be that they don't want attention from gays if they claim "100% straight" or from the opposite gender if they claim "100% gay," or they could be uncomfortable even thinking about the topic, or their sexual experiences so far have been exclusively one or the other. It doesn't really matter that much to me, but what does matter is that it be comfortable for each of us to accept, and be accepted for, who we are.
 

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Not portraying myself as an expert but have studied and followed this issue for a long time....here's my take:

1. Our brains are complex - our sexuality or how we define our sexuality lies in the millions of neural connections in our brains that have been affected by hormonal influences, genetics, and "learning." Yes our brain actually biologically changes as a result of experiences and learning. So yes it is very possible and likely that your sexuality will morph, change, evolve throughout your lifetime.
2. If you were to simplify or categorize human sexuality, you really could look at several questions to examine your current status. I think the X% gay, X% straight doesn't adequately reflect the basic dimensions of a person's sexuality. It might be better to look at a series of questions like - do some visuals of males turn you on,
do some visuals of women turn you on,
do you want women to be attracted to you,
do you want men to be attracted to you,
do you want to have emotionally connecting sex with a man or woman or does it matter,
does the idea of a woman being attracted sexually to a man or like a particular type of man (well hung) turn you on,
are you attracted to either sex demonstrating their horniness,
does any type of sexual expression turn you off,
etc...

Like I said, it is very complex. I think you will have peace with your current status when you sufficiently answer questions like these and understand that it is complex and always changing.

Good luck.
 

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Sexual orientation is like one's I.Q. in that neither is completely static or unchanging. At different stages, under different conditions, with different stimuli we can be smarter or not, more gay or more straight. Certainly, most of us are probably born with a particular range of likely abilities and inclinations, but to devote too much time and energy to exactly how smart or gay I am at this one moment in time seems pointless to me.We love to think there are absolutes, but the people on here who claim 100% ANYthing are probably oversimplifying. Their reasons could be that they don't want attention from gays if they claim "100% straight" or from the opposite gender if they claim "100% gay," or they could be uncomfortable even thinking about the topic, or their sexual experiences so far have been exclusively one or the other. It doesn't really matter that much to me, but what does matter is that it be comfortable for each of us to accept, and be accepted for, who we are.

Very well put and is in line with what I said about the complexity of this issue.
 

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Thanks Four19, I think we were both on a similar wavelength.I also have to appreciate the point Zos was focused on from the OP's original statement. Whatever "orientation" we are coming from (or headed toward), there is a lot of the comparison thing going on. I tend to find that the better I am looking or the more thoroughly engaged in a straight relationship, the less sexual my interest feels in the guys I look at. It's almost like when it feels too hard to look that good, I want to fuck someone who does look that good... or better yet, have him give me an earth shaking blow job. When I'm feeling more confident, the comparison is really more just that.So, maybe it comes down to male competition after all, for some of us.
 

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For more than half the years I've been alive I've had sex with both men and women. However, about 23 years ago I simply began mostly avoiding women except in group sex situations. I have many women friends, but I feel no sexual attraction for them. I prefer the company, smell, feel, taste, and all the naughty things I can do with men. When it gets down to it, I like the feel of a guy's five-o-clock shadow, being able to play tongue hockey as deep as possible. I much prefer fucking men instead of women. Men complain much less and are more willing to let me know if they are enjoying themselves or what else I can do to pleasure them. Finally, I like men because (at least in my case) they don't get up in the morning and mince around grilling me about what I'm going to do all day or brood for one week out of every four. I'm too old to deal with women. And then there are little things like the fact I like to suck cock and not many women (at least in my experience) have one of those. And I really get off on having a man sitting back in my lap as I hold him and nibble the back of his neck, ears while I play with his package.

So, yes. I'm a good candidate for a mostly bisexual male who has given up on worrying about being bisexual. Life is so much easier and comfortable -- for me.
 

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For more than half the years I've been alive I've had sex with both men and women. However, about 23 years ago I simply began mostly avoiding women except in group sex situations. I have many women friends, but I feel no sexual attraction for them. I prefer the company, smell, feel, taste, and all the naughty things I can do with men. When it gets down to it, I like the feel of a guy's five-o-clock shadow, being able to play tongue hockey as deep as possible. I much prefer fucking men instead of women. Men complain much less and are more willing to let me know if they are enjoying themselves or what else I can do to pleasure them. Finally, I like men because (at least in my case) they don't get up in the morning and mince around grilling me about what I'm going to do all day or brood for one week out of every four. I'm too old to deal with women. And then there are little things like the fact I like to suck cock and not many women (at least in my experience) have one of those. And I really get off on having a man sitting back in my lap as I hold him and nibble the back of his neck, ears while I play with his package.

So, yes. I'm a good candidate for a mostly bisexual male who has given up on worrying about being bisexual. Life is so much easier and comfortable -- for me.

I'm not sure if you meant it to be Midlifebear, but your response is truly hilarious. It's almost as if you're tired of most things female. There are times when I feel that way also but I continually hope that maybe there is a girl out there who isn't so high maintenance. Guys have their own issues so they aren't perfect by any means (nor am I) but I generally feel more relaxed around my male friends and can do any stupid thing I want without them caring.
 

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I've always thought about me been straight. I'm 21 now. But during the last years I've been very active in viewing both male and female nudity online. So I became a bisexual for a time. I've never had sex with a man though, it was only watching pics.

But at the end of 2008 and the beginning of this year I realized as I've watched a thousand of male nudity pics that I am now fed up with male nudity. Now I'm more like watching only to see if there are some guys that look like me so I can use those image as a confidence-booster (Wow, he looks just like me and people find him hot, so I'm hot too, maybe my attitude sucks).

Images of naked men or men with bulges are not interesting for me in anyway anymore - there were times I even used to turn horny and become hard. But it almost never happens nowadays. When I see a pic of a naked guy now I just thin: "Yeah, whatever..." and I am not interested. I only use pictures of bulges as reference to see what clothes reveal more of your junk in order to know what to buy, but I almost never get horny when I see them. I just go "So you've got big balls or dick? So what? My balls are as big/bigger than yours." or something like that.

I am not fed up with seeing naked women (especially pics of boobs and nice female asses/vaginae) Does this mean that it was just a phase, that I am a straight guy or what? I don't know what to think since many people say that you can't change your sexuality. I'm totally confused. Have some of you ever underwent such a drastic change in taste over time?

so that's why you joined this site, oh, let's see... just over a month ago?
no pictures of nude guys here, are there?
 

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im straight but i am partial to a big dick. in the last year i've watched more gay porn (cazzo, eurocreme, bulldog, treasure island etc). i guess my tastes have changed but i still want sex with women.
 

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I had several long term girlfriends (hi katy, lisa, charlci) before I finally owned up to the fact that men were foremost on my mind.
I am still attracted to certain women, still watch girls in porn, and still fantasize about certain girls...but it came down to...what do i want more/most often.
 

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I am a straight guy and I've only had sex with girls. My attraction is mainly for women however I don't deny to admit to find a guy attractive. When I see one in the gym, thoughts came into my head, is he taller? am i more buffed? do i have a bigger cock? Its more like having a competition than wanting to have sex with him.
 
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I can relate. Like my profile says, I'm 90% gay, 10% str8... because a small part of me does get turned on by girls. Mostly, however, I'm gay. I grappled with being bisexual for years, and recently decided that I'm gay, period. Girls, while they turn me on very occasionally (emphasis added), are there for my friendship and companionship, while dudes are there to turn me on. ;)
 

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Looking at male nudes doesn't make you gay. Looking at male nudes AND female nudes doesn't make you bisexual.

Being gay makes you gay. Being bisexual makes you bisexual. It's who you are, not behavior you do.