Feel guilty about young guys

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Not sure if others share this feeling, but when I find myself attracted to 20 and 21 year old guys (and early to mid 20s) I feel guitly about it. There are some very good looking guys in my area (and at my gym). It's mainly physical. A guy's body is only like that for so long.

Is this unsual or do some of you also catch yourself sometimes thinking this way. Oh, I am NOT married, if that matters.

Thanks!

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First of all I have to agree with some of what has been said already they are adults aren’t they? I do however disagree that they will only be in that kind of shape once that depends on genetics, their own desire to stay in shape etc. Unfortunately I see a lot of young people both men and women who are pretty out of shape at a time when myself and my peers were indeed at out prime I fart it off to their generation being locked up in the house playing video games. Ask any military recruiter or high school gym teacher the noted difference in over all fitness today vs. just ten years ago, the noted difference is even greater if you compare twenty years ago.

As for the age dilemma as you expressed it; it is not a NEW thing. When I was in my freshmen year of High School and was shoveling the snow for our house as well as the two next door neighbors I was invited in by the girl two doors down who was a Senior. Not only was I a Cherry Boy at the time but I lacked the experience nor the confidence with girls my own age little lone a 18 year old young woman. She made me nervous, took me on a ride that I will never forget and taught me things that I still use today including about what women like.

After getting out of the Marines in Honolulu I was in my late twenties when I met and eventually became the boy toy for a successful female writer for Magnum PI at the time. Sure she may not have had the same tight firm body of a younger woman (she was in her mid-forties and recently divorced but very attractive especially dressed up) but she did know what she wanted and knew how to get it. She didn’t waste needless time with courting me since she obviously knew this was only going to be a physical thing. For me it was some of the BEST sex of my young life at the time. She loved it when I performed Oral Sex on her and she loved to dress sexy almost sluttish at times and go out and be seen with me at her side. This was probably the only aspect of the relationship I didn’t like, being seen by girls my own age in a bar or a restaurant with her was almost always frowned upon by them.

So again if you are two consenting adults (him 20 you???) I can’t see the harm it isn’t as you were abusing your position at work or as a teacher / student relationship I would be against that as it is a conflict of the role you have in their life.

Life is too short and too many go through it without achieving their total happiness or enjoyment of it along the way. So let your hair down select carefully the young stud you wish to pursue. Make sure they have some level of maturity to know that they expect nothing more than a purely physical relationship and enjoy it (or in this case him).

Sex is definitely one of those things in life that is meant to be experienced and through this you will only identify clearly your own likes and dislikes (thats why masturbation is important) therefore when the right one comes (cums LOL) along everything will just fall into place.

NOTE: I think it is kind of ironic in 2011 there are still women who don’t take charge, assert themselves and their desires to achieve their own happiness. We men unfortunately are basically like dogs, we may bark loud and scratch and sniff our tails but we really are just seeking someone to be in charge of us, scratch our balls, feed us and fool us into believing we are in charge.

Enjoy the young stud(s) I definitely wouldnt feel guilty as men never do!
 
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If they were my parents' age, I'd have to use the lube to pop them out of the wheelchair! Never looked at a guy entering his 90's and thought, 'mmm, gotta get me some of that!' :biggrin1:

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I know what you're talking about slimgurl. I'm 30, and I have only ever had sex with guys I've been in a relationship with - all of them my age, give or take a couple years. However, I recently met this most adorable 21 year-old. 6'4, killer body, cute face... and a cowboy, which has always been a fantasy of mine. I've told him numerous times I'm too old for him, that he should be out chasing younger girls - but he won't hear a word of it. He's mad persistent, and after making out with him unexpectedly the other day, and having some very hot conservations each night before bed, I'm seriously thinking about indulging in a little affair with him. I do feel somewhat guilty though...

:-/
 
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slimgurl,

Don't feel guilty, even though I know it can be hard not to think WTF am I doing. My average age of sex partners has stayed in the mid-20's for the last 20 years. Currently I am hooking up with a 19 (gasp) year old who is hung like a horse and can go for hours at a time, something that men my age cannot do. He is tall, lean and chiseled abs (god they look photo shopped). But he is very mature and understands that we are just having a FWB relationship.

So like I said every once in a while I think WTF am I doing but then he takes his shirt off and then I realize WTF I am doing.

Have fun.
 

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Personally speaking I've always been attracted to mostly older men. There's something about an older man's face, his body that just hits my happy spot. However, I have a close friend that I've never known to date or be FWB with a man out of his 20's.

I think it's all personal preference. Enjoy yourself and don't stress over it (as long as he's legal that is ;)
 
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Don't feel guilty, even though I know it can be hard not to think WTF am I doing. My average age of sex partners has stayed in the mid-20's for the last 20 years. Currently I am hooking up with a 19 (gasp) year old who is hung like a horse and can go for hours at a time, something that men my age cannot do. He is tall, lean and chiseled abs (god they look photo shopped). But he is very mature and understands that we are just having a FWB relationship.

Massive generalisation there. Men vary as much as women in their sexual abilities, needs and preferences. Many men in their 40s or older can indeed fuck for hours.
 

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This thread really piqued my interest as, until fairly recently, I shunned the advances of much younger men because of what I perceived as the "young enough to be my child" squick factor, as well as a die-hard reluctance to be considered a cougar (a term I consider extremely derogatory).

However, those youngsters are hella persistent, so I finally caved. Fortunately, one of them turned out to be perfectly lovely, and we actually dated (not just fwb) for a while. He just turned 25. lol.

As alluded to, though, dudes can be either awful or wonderful regardless of age, just like women.

(Sorry. Got wordy on my first post after lurking forever).
 

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When I was 19yr old I was in college and started dating a woman that was 35 and had a daughter that was 6 yr old, we had a great time together, enjoyed each others company and I love being with kids, so that did not bother me that she had a daughter....To make this short, she ended up stopping the relationship, and it was from peer pressure, her own friends made it an issue to ride her about all the time about my age and her age...Finally she caved and said it would be best that we did not see each other anymore, however that was not the case, I would stop and see her at her job, and she would come over and we would watch a movie or eat dinner together, and yes her daughter was with us too. We just didn't go out in public....When the last semester was over with for me I left for the summer for home. When I came back, she was dating a man her age, we stayed friends, but it was sure nice to be with an older woman, she was wonderful.....
 

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I feel the same way. There's definitely a line for me where I cross from "this works" to "omfgthisisreallyyucky". I think if you see a kid when you look at them, they're too young. Maybe they're an adult, as defined by law, but that doesn't mean they're actually adults yet. I take it on a case by case basis. If they're mentally and physically on par with me, fine. If they look and behave like they just stepped out of a high school locker room... Not so much. It just grosses me out. There's nothing appealing or attractive to me about sex with a kid. Blech. I'm 28, about to be 29. I can't bring myself to go below 23. It just freaks me out.
 

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Redkitten, I know about the persistence, for heavens sakes! Some of the young guys cannot get a clue that married means married and I'm not at all interested in how they can "rock my world!" And as for younger guys lasting longer, I've got a 47-year-old that already lasts too long! LOL!

Actually, he lasts for just long enough - perfect!
 

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... Currently I am hooking up with a 19 (gasp) year old who is hung like a horse and can go for hours at a time, something that men my age cannot do. He is tall, lean and chiseled abs (god they look photo shopped). But he is very mature and understands that we are just having a FWB relationship...

Does he have a brother? An older one. :tongue:
 

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I just think this is something I am going to do very soon. I already pretty much know who, but I some days tell myself, "are you serious about this?"

He has an amazing body, and just overall attractive face. Kinda shy tho

your comment "are you serious about this" indicates you may be considering more than just a 'fling' or "fwb" with the guy in question.

You don't state how old you are, but IMO, age is just a number. Once you become an adult, the only barriers are in your mind. Look at Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher (still together after many years and in the public eye at that).

It's all about your attitude and what you feel comfortable with. No matter what anyone else says... ultimately the decision is up to you.

I am married to man my age, but I have had a few "sexperiences" of which he is very much aware. The youngest, 21.. the oldest 3 yrs my junior. I am attracted to younger men, but the 21 yr old was definitely too young (emotionally). My preference is somewhere within the 10 yr range... (I am over 40) ...

Your needs are completely different from mine, so, doubtful that my information is of much help... just an FYI.
 
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Don`t let the age difference bother you, I started having sex with my current gf who was then married at the time when I was 18 years old (she was 39 at the time), fast forward to today and we are living together now and still having sex on average about 4-5 times a week, if you have chemistry with someone and get along great when outside the bedroom as well as in it then that is all that matters.