Feel Guilty?

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  1. D_Carroll Condomripper

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    Does anyone ever feel guilty/grossed-out right after they masterbate? I swear, everytime I look at porn or something, right after I cum I feel completely grossed out and like I can't believe I was looking at that stuff. Is this normal or just me?
     
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    it's normal, if you were taught that masterbating is wrong.
     
  3. D_Carroll Condomripper

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    I wasn't taught that though...single mom, things were never discussed lol
     
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    I was raised Catholic and went to a middle school run by nuns. On top of that, I'm obssesive-compulsive and used to be terrified of my own semen. My first years of wacking off were horrible. Right after I came I used to feel not only disgusted by my cum, but terribly guilty and terrified I was going to hell.

    It's all behind now. For the past two years I've enjoyed jerking off freely A LOT. I guess I'm kind of making up for those dark years.

    But why, what kind of porn do you look at? Or why the guilty part?
     
  5. Northland

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    The only time I feel uncomfortable after masturbating is when I was fantasizing about any friend who I know has no sexual interest in me. The uncomfortablility passes and I get on with my day. Beyond that, it's all physical relief and release; therefore, no reason to feel guilt or shame.
     
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    Guilt? Only if I go blind, like we were all "taught".
     
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    my advice to you is dont feel any guilt whatsoever,masterbating a total normal and healthy thing to do,you go for it and enjoy.
     
  8. Ineligible

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    I assume it's a hormonal thing, due to the hormones released at orgasm.

    There's a famous saying Post coitem omne animal triste est ("after sex every animal is sad"), possibly originally Triste est omne animal post coitum, praeter mulierem gallumque ("after sex every animal is sad, except the woman and the rooster"), variously ascribed to Galen and pseudo-Aristotle (not the real Aristotle).

    See also The Wikipedia Knowledge Dump (WikiDumper.org): Post Ejaculatory Guilt Syndrome
     
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    I'm kind of the same way.

    Not really guilty, just kind of grossed out. I think once a dude comes his brain releases chemicals that just compeletely turn him off. It's the same when I'm with a chick. Right after I cum I don't even want to be near a girl, but you kinda have to stay there and do the whole cuddle thing (depending on the situation). It's like "eww, sex is gross. I gotta get outtta here!"

    Anyway, I know I'm not the only one as I've talked to a bunch of guys from work about it and they get the exact same way.
     
  10. D_Carroll Condomripper

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    This is exactly what I'm talking about!
     
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    i am the same way dude and i agree totally with what jlr080281 posted. it is kind of a gross out feeling.
     
  12. Darpon

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    THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU OH MY GOD THANK YOU SO MUCH

    I really, REALLY thought that I was the only person who did this, so I never mentioned it.

    I'd be really horny, so I'd be up late at night, searching for good porn to jack off too. Whenever I got off, I felt SUPER guilty. I should have been sleeping, or I should have been studying, there were so many more productive things I could have been doing, but I had just been watching porn instead. I'd feel wretched.

    Thanks for letting me get that off my chest. Jesus, I thought I was the only one. I've been afraid for awhile now of when I do get laid. If I cum, and then feel super guilty for doing what I did, what will I do?

    Fortunately, recently, the guilt hasn't been so bad. I'm not worried about it right now.

    But thanks for letting me get that off my chest.
     
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    Happens to every man. I don't feel grossed out though. Actually, after I pop, I feel like I want to talk. I feel like I can be more open and sincere about things.

    Once a man cums, he loses that testosterone fueled rage to have sex. It's like we actually become civilized.:tongue:
     
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    I know what your sayin man. Once i've shot a load I go and get cleaned up and then when I get back to the PC if theres still porn on there i'm like, eww. lol. And its weird cus it was really gettin you hot a minute ago... I guess once you've cum you just turn off.
     
  15. No_Strings

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    Woah, woah, woah. Hold on now. This doesn't happen to me at all.

    I've maybe experienced a similar thing after masturbating to pornography when I turn it off, but there's no feeling even resembling guilst, disgust or anything else - it's simply that my libido and sexual desire has been satisfied for the moment and I have no more need for porn to be open on my PC.

    Even though my needs may have been satisfied, I can still look at a woman and admire her shape and her form. The height of my libido doesn't affect how beautiful I think females are - it affects how I want to display that primal appreciation.


    As for sex, that's entirely different for me...

    In that brief, blissful, post-coitus moment, all boundaries are lost; it's no longer simply a penis in a vagina. There's no beginning or end, there are no edges, no definitions. It's simply two souls swimming and dancing in the moonlight from a source that cannot be seen. My essence merges with hers and for that beautiful, all-too-quick period we are simply one being. We don't even have a physical presence or tangible body, we become a force in a universe of nothing, yet which is brimming at the edges with a million other energies of couples in similar stages of ecstatic epiphany.
    I can see people making love all around the world, all in the same limbo that my partner and I are in, smiling and sharing the knowledge with each other that we've reached through that barrier. That we've touched that sacred realm that exists only because we do make love.

    And then the float back down to earth, our bodies separating and forming two opposing entities again as we know them on this plain of existence. Holding each other in our arms; shaking, quivering, frightened by what just happened but entranced by what our subconscious witnessed. Our soul's desire to make that journey again so strong, but our physical body's energy so depleted that all we can do is lay next to each other, breathing, bathing, being. Giving each other our skin to feel so that in this vulnerable and open time we can feel safe and protected. Realising that giving ourselves to each other, physically and emotionally, is what caused this feeling. Having my partner take my seed is true euphoria.


    I could never, ever feel guilty about experiencing something so beautiful.
     
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    I don't feel guilty before, during or after my orgasm when I masturbate.

    Is that bad? :)
     
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    Wow, just wow. That must be some sex you're having there. I'm kind of jealous :eek:

    Seriously though, that was a little over the top, but I'm sure you'll earn a few brownie points if/when your ladyfriend reads it. Good job! :p
     
  18. No_Strings

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    Heh, she won't be online for a while so I doubt she'll read this.

    No, but this is what I experience whether it's making love or 'only a fuck' - ejaculation just does this for me. When I was younger I thought this is how everyone felt which is why there's such a reputation about sex, I'm surprised to see not everyone feels that way. :redface:
     
  19. unabear09

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    sometimes I do. Was brought up religious, but honestly don't recall the subject of masturbation coming up. However, I do recall many many instances of being told that if it feels good, its a sin, and you'll be cast to hell, and bullshit like that. Thankfully around the time I hit puberty, I started to think for myself, and realise that as long as you're not hurting yourself or others, then pleasure is good.
     
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    I'll be honest here: I experience this feeling of guilt after masturbation as well. The odd part is, I never experience it after sex with someone else. I've never been able to understand it, except to think that maybe my masturbatory fantasies, which are just thoughts in my head, are probably unconventional for what I might think is acceptable is real life. The fantasy gets me off, but after I think, wow, I shouldn't have been excited by that. However, in my real life, what I do is "normal" and there is no feelings of guilt.

    So at heart, most likely that feeling of guilt is related to believing that what you are masturbating over is wrong. You can manage this by either reminding yourself that fantasy is fantasy and as long as you don't try to go overboard with it, it's healthy to confine it to your masturbation, or you come to accept aspects of yourself and figure out how to appreciate it in a healthy way.
     
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