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When you said short I thought you were going to say like 5 6 or something. 5-10 isnt short unless you are looking to date a 6ft tall girl lol. I do think that women do want to date guys who are taller in general..but seriously man 5-10 is fine..if anything you just maybe surprised her when you got off the board and shrunk down a few inches ...
 
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You're taller than most guys. I don't want to diminish how you feel, but if you were 6'2" you'd probably just feel insecure about something else.

The OKCupid people put together good data on this: blog.okcupid.com: The Big Lies People Tell In Online Dating
Check the 'unsolicited messages per week by height' chart. You'll see that taller men, up to a point, get more interest from women, but 5'10" is about where it flattens out. If you were 5'6" that'd be another story, but in the aggregate there are as many women who are interested in 5'10" guys as 6'6" guys. Don't let your insecurity-fueled confirmation-bias lead you astray either: obviously there are some women who much prefer a very tall man, but there's enough women who either don't care or actively prefer someone shorter than that to balance it out. You may internalize it every time you hear a women express a preference for men taller than you, but it doesn't accurately reflect reality.
 

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I'm 5'7 ... Maybe 5'7.5...

I agree with post 18. Women are more influenced by height than most men.

I think that's maybe one reason why I decided to live as gay rather than bi. Although I'm naturally only about 5-10 % bi anyway I think.

Women are generally a little bit less flexible than men, mentally. I think there are good reasons for that when you think about ancient roles - childcare and agriculture versus hunting and tribal security for example ... It's not a bad thing ... But it does seem to carry over into attitudes to sex and relationships.

Sorry if that offends anyone; it's not meant to. It's just one of those things, if it's true. Just my observation.
 

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My best friend is 5'6", 190#, and can bench press 350#. Earned a black belt in Tae Kwon Do. Very confident man. Dude, maximize who you are, and AS you are. I see in your stats that you have a big dick. Man, you have ASSETS! Stop crying! Now, get OUT there and get some PUSSY!
 
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I am 5'5" tall and I don't give a shit. I have fucked more than my fair share of women and have no problem meeting them. I have been told I am too short, I just tell them life is a game of inches. Hearing a guy 5'10" complain that he is too short is funny to me. Speaking for experience, if a man is having a hard time pulling girls it is his own fault most likely. We all have things about ourselves we wish were different. The thing is though you gotta be the best you that you can be. Insecurity is the most unattractive thing in the world to women.

Yep, I don't want to hear it. I do my best to fight insecurities about height because I'm barely taller than the average female. I would love to be 5-10, but I'm 5-6. I know there are probably a lot of women who dismiss me because of height. I see many women that state they like tall men in dating profiles. Oh well. You may not stand out as the tall guy, but no one is overlooking you because you are "short."
 
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Yep, I don't want to hear it. I do my best to fight insecurities about height because I'm barely taller than the average female. I would love to be 5-10, but I'm 5-6. I know there are probably a lot of women who dismiss me because of height. I see many women that state they like tall men in dating profiles. Oh well. You may not stand out as the tall guy, but no one is overlooking you because you are "short."


HAHAHAHA thanks a lot. I have said before that life is like football, it is a game of inches.
 

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HAHAHAHA thanks a lot. I have said before that life is like football, it is a game of inches.
I was agreeing with you. Don't want you to think I was telling you that "I don't want to hear it." That was meant for the OP. Not crazy about being short, but cry me a river if you are average height. Maybe he lives in holland where everyone is 6'4"
 

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Height is kind of relative to your surrounding. I was considered "kinda tall" in my family, once I hit 5'9/5'8 (without shoes). I guess dick insecurities have trumped my height insecurity...but I honestly forget that some folks consider me short. I just think I'm normal/average height. It's funny when I do find myself surrounded by "giants"- then it hits like a ton of bricks...like "Oh damn, I guess I am short."
Lol, also explains that "One...Two...KO Punch" feeling when I run into tall hung guys.
 

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I had stopped dating short guys after a series of short men mistreated me. I had noticed that they seemed not to like MY height. I'm usually 5'8.5". I shrunk recently to 5'6". After seeing a chiropractor, I'm back over 5'7". (Never ignore chronic pain!) After a while, height became sort of a fetish for me, and I exclusively dealt with men over 6'2". Those men liked that I was tall, and I was really comfortable with them. Since, I've given a few short guys a chance, being disappointed only once, and his height wasn't the problem. None of the short guys I went with gave me any static about my height. They didn't even care if I wore heels. A comedian even gave one a high five during a show because I was several inches taller, and have (as revealed by the jokester's questions) a tattoo that has to do with the Egyptian God Horace, who is kind of a phallic figure in mythology. The comedian said, "Dude. And YOU conquered that?" *high-five* I wouldn't have called myself a THAT, and I wouldn't have considered myself conquered (more like someone whoseattention and affections had been won for the short-term), but the point of the joke was not lost on us.

My current dude is probably 5'6". The last time we were able to be together in person (long distance relationship) his family noted that I was taller than he is, but when I face him, I feel like we are the same height. Since then, the chiropractor has stretched me back out some, as I noted earlier. I love how close in height we are. It feels novel after so many years of extreme differences in size between my partners and I. Most of all, I love how our bodies fit together when he holds me while we sleep. I love how it feels like we envelope each other when we make love all wrapped around each other. Really tall men still catch my eye when I'm out and about, but that's all they catch. Someone else already captivated everything else that matters.

A lot of factors govern attraction. Height is only one, and there are always those who will want exactly what you bring to the table, including your height, regardless of whatever that height actually is.
 

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please... could you put its photo on your album?... thank you A/E...
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I would rather not have photos out of my control of it. If we were face to face, I would show you. This is my way of keeping my ink unique. Even the artist doesn't have his sketches and didn't take a photo.
 
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because people were only checking me out because I appeared taller while riding on my skateboard 6'2 instied of 5'10,. it shows how shallow women can be about height... it's something I noticed


some women was checking me out as I was passing by
Head to toe type so you know she really is checking me out.

(she had her boyfriend with her, he had a grin on hos face lol, he caught me looking) or was Jealous even off the board I'm still taller then him.
I don't think it's fair to call women shallow over this.

Women are statistically more likely to care about a man's height than a man is to care about a woman's height. Either there is some weird cultural assumption in our society driving this, or some bizarre aspect of feminine instincts. I'm sure women get the same feelings of resentment when you stare at an unusually petite woman.