Principessa
Expert Member
That sent up RED FLAGS for me too Matt! I was trying to focus on positive rather than negative things for TK in so far as setting up a support network but that can be difficult when you are not in a good place.
TK - what you said about him being abusive sent up red flags for me. You have the right not to be abused in your relationships, especially with friends and lovers. My new take is distance yourself from this guy as much as you can and start to take care of yourself. You are a good person and you deserve to have people around who will support you and make you happy. If you happen to be suffering from low self-esteem, a person who is abusive can be a magnet to you because s/he is reinforcing your subconscious bad feelings about self. Get away - you can always rescue the friendship later if you want to when you are feeling good and healthy. But in the meantime, focus on putting people and situations in place around you who will build you up and help you through the difficult period you are in.