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A man that I really am really into recently told me that he only wants me for sex -- nothing else, not even friendship.

This is the result of a rekindling of a fling from 5 years ago. Back then we had a series of hook-ups... and it resulted in me pushing for more and him telling me that he was not attracted to me. I took this rejection hard because he is a professional athlete, has model looks, perfect gym body, etc. He made me feel like I wasn't in his "league." It felt terrible.

Recently, we started meeting again for sex and its been amazing. He is an aggressive power bottom. I signaled that I was looking for more and he reiterated that he only wants me for my cock.

Is this a common issues for other hung men out there? I really am a quality guy but he doesn't even want to get to know me.
 

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I have had "some experience" on this topic and its often what we think we need and what we want. much like shopping.

Looking back i may of broken few hearts and had mine broken so, the lesson is to now do what serves you well and makes you feel good and less of the latter. I truly hope you find someone of your equal and im not referral to the size of your member but the size of your head and heart. Everyone is beautiful in their own ways.

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*Ive dated many a models as Im in travel industry/flight attendant and no we all wake up looking a hot mess and not always smelling of roses.
 
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unfortunately that is the way of the world, probably not worth getting to know anyway, you will find someone eventually who wants you for you and not what you are packing, don't get hung up on him, MOVE ON, happy hunting.
 
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A man that I really am really into recently told me that he only wants me for sex -- nothing else, not even friendship.

This is the result of a rekindling of a fling from 5 years ago. Back then we had a series of hook-ups... and it resulted in me pushing for more and him telling me that he was not attracted to me. I took this rejection hard because he is a professional athlete, has model looks, perfect gym body, etc. He made me feel like I wasn't in his "league." It felt terrible.

Recently, we started meeting again for sex and its been amazing. He is an aggressive power bottom. I signaled that I was looking for more and he reiterated that he only wants me for my cock.

Is this a common issues for other hung men out there? I really am a quality guy but he doesn't even want to get to know me.

Well. The crossroad is: Now that you know he only wants you for your cock...not for friendship or something more...would you be cool with him just for the fuck.? That is where you are. He is where he is.


If you feel you want more from him...and he doesn't want what you want...why bother? You should meet other men with similar wants as you.
 

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It breaks my heart to know that you've fallen for someone who is not interested emotionally - only physically. that is the lesson to be learnt in your own pace - there is never any harm to take it for what it is and enjoy it for what its worth, at least he had the balls to be upfront and you are not walking into it blind (not that it helps the heart).

I truly hope you see, from the posts here, how much support you have. Be strong - chin up and think of the possibilities now you have opened yourself to the universe of what may come. Embrace. Love. Yourself. Ready. For. Someone. Else.

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I agree with everything above. If you were both in it just for the sex that would be fine. You have to decide whether the sex you have with him is worth your heartache. My advice, if you want to be happy, is find someone who loves having sex with you and loves you too :) good luck!
 
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The sex is amazing-- so of course I have the desires to continue the behavior.

I appreciate the empathy on here, but I still feel like shit when I think that this guy that I have all of these feelings for -- is not interested in me for my personality or looks.. only below the belt. Its not like I am bad looking or have a bad body... the rejection is driving me crazy.
 

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You do have a relationship with this guy. It's just not on your terms.
I have been with someone sexually for five years now. We are not each other's types and would never be in a "realtionship" but the sexual attraction is amazing. It's a give and take....right now I'm willing to take it.
Over the five years we have actually become friends. We know of each other's lives and share it to some extent but never so much as to interfere with the sexual aspect of our relationship.
Time.....give it time.
 
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I feel for you op. when I meet someone and they ask how big I am or the subject comes up I will say "tiny" or I guess "average." The reason is I don't want them to like me just for the size of my cock, I'd rather it be a nice surprise if or when we get physical. If they don't want anything to do with me after I say small or average then I know they only like me for my cock lol.
 

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OP - You're going about it all wrong. You need to take that big dick you got and just fuck the shit out of him. Every time you fuck him get your shit and leave. Always act like you have something to do or somewhere to go. Never act like you give a fuck. Keep it just as a fuck and that's all it is. A FUCK! Nothing more nothing less. Once you start doing this you will see someone start to catch feelings. And when he does u still have to treat him like shit. Never give him the upper hand. Make him feel like a whore.


Most of them need to feel this way before getting involved.
 

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I agree with much of what's been said above. Sometimes it just happens that two people are an amazing fit sexually and aren't meant to be anything else...even if one of them thinks something else would be great.

Not to delve into this more deeply but: He has amazing sex with you but is not attracted to you? I think this is untrue, he is not fully honest with himself. If he wasn't attracted to you he wouldn't be letting you fuck the hell of him and certainly wouldn't have allowed things to be re-kindled after 5 years.

Sounds like he doesn't want to date you or get to know you beyond just sex. Well, that's his loss. You just have to ask yourself whether you can deal with only sex with this guy. Even though the sex is amazing, if you have strong feelings for the guy and you know they will never be reciprocated it is probably best to move on. There are a lot of guys with whom sex will be great, and soon you will find one interested in you for you, not your cock. Just my $0.02
 

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The sex is amazing-- so of course I have the desires to continue the behavior.

I appreciate the empathy on here, but I still feel like shit when I think that this guy that I have all of these feelings for -- is not interested in me for my personality or looks.. only below the belt. Its not like I am bad looking or have a bad body... the rejection is driving me crazy.

My feeling is, you need to take a break. Try and do things that you would like to do for yourself. Get involved with things you've wanted to accomplish. Get into doing things that will benefit your mental well being. Once you're able to accomplish some of these things you've always wanted to do... then go back into the dating scene. You just need a break from this guy, and you probably need to divest yourself from this guy. There are TONS and Tons of guys, who would be honored in being both your lover and friend. I saw your photos, and from what I can see, you're a great catch and very attractive. If you need to talk with someone on a professional level, try getting in touch with your local Mental Health Worker in the phone book and make an appointment to see then. MHW's are relatively inexpensive, and they're a good source to help you cope with what has been going on in your life. You can't keep throwing yourself at someone, and have them reject you at every turn. You need to get this guy behind you, and out of your life, so you can move on. This man is harming your well being. That can't happen. You're a great looking guy. You need to love and be loved.
 
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A man that I really am really into recently told me that he only wants me for sex -- nothing else, not even friendship.

This is the result of a rekindling of a fling from 5 years ago. Back then we had a series of hook-ups... and it resulted in me pushing for more and him telling me that he was not attracted to me. I took this rejection hard because he is a professional athlete, has model looks, perfect gym body, etc. He made me feel like I wasn't in his "league." It felt terrible.

Recently, we started meeting again for sex and its been amazing. He is an aggressive power bottom. I signaled that I was looking for more and he reiterated that he only wants me for my cock.

Is this a common issues for other hung men out there? I really am a quality guy but he doesn't even want to get to know me.


Luke, I'm going to be a bit blunt with you on this.

1) This guy is a professional athlete, whom I am going to guess is in the closet. He will never be able to show you any type of affection because he is a professional athlete who is in the closet.

2) This guy sees you as nothing more than a walking giant dildo. And you are falling for it deluding yourself that if you keep the sex great, he's going to change his mind. This guy is a user and it's all to his benefit.

He's not going to change his mind.

3) You have way too much going for you to be tethered to a douche like this. Even after a 5 year break, where you admitted you pushed to hard, you are falling back into the same self destructive pattern as before.

This guy isn't into you. He's into your cock and that's it.

You can do better than that.

My advice to you is this:

1) Ditch this loser. Drop all contact with him. Delete any phone number, email, address, etc... go cold turkey all over his ass.

2) Find someone who appreciates you for who YOU are not what your dick is. Will it take time? Yes. Will it suck? BIG TIME. Will it be hard? Yes. Will it be worth it? FUCK YES!

I've been where you are right now; wanting something so desparately that we'll sacrifice anything to hold on to something that's not worth holding on to.

He's not going to change and all you will be is hurt.

You're worth 20 of him.

Find someone who will prove that.

Sklar
 

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OP - You're going about it all wrong. You need to take that big dick you got and just fuck the shit out of him. Every time you fuck him get your shit and leave. Always act like you have something to do or somewhere to go. Never act like you give a fuck. Keep it just as a fuck and that's all it is. A FUCK! Nothing more nothing less. Once you start doing this you will see someone start to catch feelings. And when he does u still have to treat him like shit. Never give him the upper hand. Make him feel like a whore.


Most of them need to feel this way before getting involved.

I am very tempted to take this approach. He is after all the best piece of ass I've ever plowed into.
 

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OP - You're going about it all wrong. You need to take that big dick you got and just fuck the shit out of him. Every time you fuck him get your shit and leave. Always act like you have something to do or somewhere to go. Never act like you give a fuck. Keep it just as a fuck and that's all it is. A FUCK! Nothing more nothing less. Once you start doing this you will see someone start to catch feelings. And when he does u still have to treat him like shit. Never give him the upper hand. Make him feel like a whore.


Most of them need to feel this way before getting involved.


I like this piece of advice as well. A girl treated me like this and only came around for my dick, so I implemented a variation on this advice. Subsequently, her attitude totally changed where suddenly I had the upper hand. The end result was I gained a lot of confidence I could find another girl who appreciated me better for everything I have to offer, which opened a lot of doors for me.
 
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I kind of like this too. Make him feel like what you feel like and see if he likes it.




OP - You're going about it all wrong. You need to take that big dick you got and just fuck the shit out of him. Every time you fuck him get your shit and leave. Always act like you have something to do or somewhere to go. Never act like you give a fuck. Keep it just as a fuck and that's all it is. A FUCK! Nothing more nothing less. Once you start doing this you will see someone start to catch feelings. And when he does u still have to treat him like shit. Never give him the upper hand. Make him feel like a whore.


Most of them need to feel this way before getting involved.
 
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It isn't a usual thing for me but then again i don't really consider myself as hung. And yes i agree it is fun at first. Don't worry though, people will see what they want to see. Doesn't mean thats all you are.