Feeling ashamed of gay sex

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The question is are you feeling guilty about having sex outside your marriage or ..............

Are you wrestling with being bi?

The first of these only your conscience can answer this.

The being bi and wanting the intermate company of another man can take time to process the post meat guilt, if you need and enjoy it that much cuming to terms with that man on man contact you will get there
 

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is it that you feel weirded out by having sex with a guy or is it that your cheating on your wife with another person.
Masturbation feels good too and we do it all the time
Is it a morality thing you were taught that M M sex is wrong against human nature or religion (that puts doubt in a lot of minds on a lot of things)
you need to come to grips with what ever part of having sex with a guy is bothering you and fix it. if it is the cheating part or the morality part or whatever and then enjoy your life as you want it to be.
 
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The question is are you feeling guilty about having sex outside your marriage or ..............

Are you wrestling with being bi?

The first of these only your conscience can answer this.

The being bi and wanting the intermate company of another man can take time to process the post meat guilt, if you need and enjoy it that much cuming to terms with that man on man contact you will get there
I just always feel Im doing something wrong. I guess its the bi thing confusing my psychy. Because im so turned on before the act. Im lured. Constantly watching gay porn and looking at mens crotches in public. It used to be worse . But ive been sucking dick for a long time. So its confusing. Maybe Im just afraid if stepping out...and maybe thats what I need. Oh the struggle.
 

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I just always feel Im doing something wrong. I guess its the bi thing confusing my psychy. Because im so turned on before the act. Im lured. Constantly watching gay porn and looking at mens crotches in public. It used to be worse . But ive been sucking dick for a long time. So its confusing. Maybe Im just afraid if stepping out...and maybe thats what I need. Oh the struggle.
It took me a while to cum to terms with the post guy on guy meeting, after a bit of deep internal reflection I have accepted I need, and enjoy sex with guys
 

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It took me quite a few years to stop feeling this way after a BJ or handy that I gave or received from a guy. Now, I just enjoy the fuck out of it!
I felt a lot of guilt when I was younger. This was amplified as I couldnt talk to anyone about it.

I engaged in MM sex the first time with an older neighbour. What started of as a "massage" over time led to anal sex most times we hooked up. I rationalized my guilt by saying that all I was doing was going over for a "massage" to justify the guilt. Eventually it got to a stage where I enjoyed it so much, I just accepted that this is who I am.

Who I have sex with, does not define me as a person.
 
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I too had guilt and shame issues when I realised that I was sexually attracted to men as well as women. One of the things that was so difficult for me was that in society, one is expected to be "gay" or "straight", and "gay" carries its own stigma and is often best hidden. It was clear to me that what I felt wasn't acceptable- a common comment from gay men was that I was "transitioning" to gay and would soon loose my attraction to women, but in my own mind I was sure of my sexual attraction to women and I continued to be after my initial experiments with M2M sex. Add into the mix some unpleasant initial experiences with men where transactional anal sex seemed to be the goal, and I was a very confused and ashamed person.
I found the guilt and shame to be so overwhelming that I got to the point where I couldn't enjoy any sex because I wasn't comfortable with my own sexuality; I didn't understand it and I didn't understand how to make things work for me because what was real for me seemed to be a sexual dead-end.
What clarified things for me and made the guilt and shame go away was responding to a customer's sexual comment; after I responded positively he helped me to fully explore my curiosity in my own time without pressure. I learnt within about 10 days of intense afternoon sex that I really enjoyed man sex and men's bodies. The experience that cemented in my own mind my attraction to men could be rewarding and pleasurable, the guilt and shame melted away from there.
It was quite some time before he introduced me to anal sex (outside rimming) and I again found much shame and no pleasure in butt stuff; it seemed dirty and pointless. With encouragement, it took me about 4 weeks of spare time with a dildo and vibrator to enjoy anal stimulation but once I got to that point the shame disappeared entirely and I became a dripping mess when receiving cock, twice an afternoon at least 5 afternoons a week at times.
 

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I've never had any feelings of guilt or feeling ashamed of M2M sex. I have looked back at a few encounters with regret, but mainly because my lack of good judgment at the time of being selective. I could have made a better choice with who I engaged in the sex act with.
 

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Why do I feel weird or ashamed that I sucked cock or got sucked..
It feels soooo good. The horned up anticipation is wonderful too. Im.a married man and doing bi sexual acts that make me say " i cant do this anymore"
I get it. Are used to call it “gay guilt” and I used to feel it almost after ejaculating. Every second leading up to that could be exciting and amazing but as soon as I came, I it felt weird and I would rush to get my clothes on and leave.

but here’s the thing, then. You’re gay or at least bisexual. there’s nothing wrong with it. some guys are just sexy as fuck and it feels nice to handle a nice hard cock if you’re into it. And it seems like you’re super into it so just embrace it.