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My S/O and I have had our parents and some friends over to stay with us from the UK for the last three weeks. The all went home to the Uk earlier tonight and we are really enjoying having the house to ourselves again.

The problem is we feel really guilty. We have loved seeing them ( especially our parents who are getting on in years ) as they live so far away and we only see them a couple of times a year. On the other hand we value our space and our independence.

We feel really selfish and shitty for enjoying our own space again. What do you guys think? Are any of you in a similar situation?
 

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My S/O and I have had our parents and some friends over to stay with us from the UK for the last three weeks. The all went home to the Uk earlier tonight and we are really enjoying having the house to ourselves again.

The problem is we feel really guilty. We have loved seeing them ( especially our parents who are getting on in years ) as they live so far away and we only see them a couple of times a year. On the other hand we value our space and our independence.

We feel really selfish and shitty for enjoying our own space again. What do you guys think? Are any of you in a similar situation?


Dave, I dont' think there is anything wrong with your feelings.

I know that when I have an extended stay with my parents, it is really nice at first but eventually, I get bored and crave my "freedom" and privacy.

I think there comes a point when we as humans enjoy our own space. It's not a bad thing at all, buddy.:rolleyes:
 

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I think guilt is the wrong emotion to be experiencing.

There's nothing wrong with enjoying others' company.

And there's nothing wrong with enjoying your own space.

We all need a bit of both in our lives, so why not just enjoy both on their own merits?

One of the best decisions my parents and I ever reached was that we love each other dearly, but readily acknowledge that we prefer to see each other for a couple of weeks a year, rather than try to live in one another's pockets. :rolleyes: Doesn't mean we enjoy the 'together' times any less, they're just something markedly different to everyday life in one's own space.
 

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Thanks guys for your replies and Alex for the rolling eyes.

I took them to the airport almost six hours ago and as yet they are still on the Island. They have been delayed 3 times so far.
 

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Well we have just been to see them. They were delayed for 24 hours and taken to an hotel at 7am this morning. They did not phone as they did not want to bother and worry us any further. They seem quite happy in the hotel and are enjoying an unexpected extra day.
 

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We almost all feel that way, mate.

Most important thing is that you love your parents, and that you are ready to help and to support them when they ask it to you, or when you know they need you, even if they do not ask.