I'm a 26-year old gay male and I have a problem . . . I feel like I'm not any good at having sex. I came out when I was 19 and I lost my virginity at age 22 when I messed around with a friend. It was an awkward experience and I chalked it up at the time to nerves. But since then, I've been with three other guys, and I haven't enjoyed the experience. To be exact, I've never found the sensation of kissing or receiving oral sex to be pleasurable and I have difficulty achieving orgasm from handjobs or anal sex. This isn't a "one-night stand" problem either. Around a year ago, I dated someone for around five months. My boyfriend was always patient with me in bed, but I never felt like my performance "improved" with time. What's going on? I feel like there's something wrong with me. I know that I'm gay, but why can't I perform?