feeling really envious of other guys w/ bigger dicks

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I would not say neurodivergent. Narcissistic psychopath definitely. This guy is doing the textbook "woe-is-me" spiel, waiting for someone to give him a compliment, and repeating the woe-is-me ad nauseam. He says if he had a big dick, his attitude would change. Well, HE ALREADY HAS A BIG DICK, and he has been told this multiple times, yet he still won't accept the fact that he is two standard deviations larger than the average man.

He's just fishing for compliments like this and then acting like a goldfish with a five-second memory to gaslight people into continuing this thread. It's immature, it's sad, and it's a waste of our energy. It's fair to say that no commenter can help him with his "problem," as he would still not be happy with a FOURTEEN-INCH dick, so it would be best for everyone to ignore it and move on to a thread where the OP understands this website is called Large Penis Support Group, not Small Penis Humiliation Group.
Yeah it is sad. And what is even more sad is that narcissists cannot see how their actions amd thinking is narcissistic. The average person thinks narcissists are all about how they are perfect and nothing about them is wrong. Nah, that's just one type of narcissist behavior and only when they have already got enough people to satisfy their need for attention or whatever.

Its unfortunate how despite the fact we have tried to tell him what is the problem over and over he can only focus on how he is taking physical actions to change instead of following our advice and changing his frame of thinking. He thinks we should praising him for taking physical action on his deluded thinking. He doesn't understand why we won't and instead we keep focusing on the fact that he is delusional in how deeply and why he feels inadequate!

In a different thread, he said he tried a therapist twice but also admitted he refused to follow their advice. He even admitted that he feels his way of thinking is correct, sustainable and thinking otherwise is delusional. If that isnt a flag of narcissism... lol. And of course as you said, the whole "woe is me" act and even trying to make us feel so horrible for him because SOME RANDOM INTERNET PERSON SAID SOMETHING BAD ABOUT HIM!!! Right after we just said he is doing a woe is me act lmao.

Also I cannot see how someone who is clearly above average in some ways and not some slob, is constantly saying how he is worthless and has no value to others and no one could possibly like him because of his physical features, could possibly not be EXTREMELY VAIN and judge others the same way. He claims he doesn't and can see value in others but that is impossible. I genuinely think when he thinks of "others" in his head, he means the top sexy models online and not the average person.
 

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Yeah it is sad. And what is even more sad is that narcissists cannot see how their actions amd thinking is narcissistic. The average person thinks narcissists are all about how they are perfect and nothing about them is wrong. Nah, that's just one type of narcissist behavior and only when they have already got enough people to satisfy their need for attention or whatever.

Its unfortunate how despite the fact we have tried to tell him what is the problem over and over he can only focus on how he is taking physical actions to change instead of following our advice and changing his frame of thinking. He thinks we should praising him for taking physical action on his deluded thinking. He doesn't understand why we won't and instead we keep focusing on the fact that he is delusional in how deeply and why he feels inadequate!

In a different thread, he said he tried a therapist twice but also admitted he refused to follow their advice. He even admitted that he feels his way of thinking is correct, sustainable and thinking otherwise is delusional. If that isnt a flag of narcissism... lol. And of course as you said, the whole "woe is me" act and even trying to make us feel so horrible for him because SOME RANDOM INTERNET PERSON SAID SOMETHING BAD ABOUT HIM!!! Right after we just said he is doing a woe is me act lmao.

Also I cannot see how someone who is clearly above average in some ways and not some slob, is constantly saying how he is worthless and has no value to others and no one could possibly like him because of his physical features, could possibly not be EXTREMELY VAIN and judge others the same way. He claims he doesn't and can see value in others but that is impossible. I genuinely think when he thinks of "others" in his head, he means the top sexy models online and not the average person.
If you’re just going to talk about me on MY own thread that I created as though I’m not here, just get off.
 

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Also, the reason why I was vehemently mentioning effort I was putting in to change physical attributes about myself was because I got the impression that the criticisms I received were suggesting that I did absolutely nothing to try to change my current state (hence how I've been told to get busy/consistent with the gym and to do PE if I'm so unhappy about my size). I simply wanted to set the record straight that it's not like I'm doing nothing to help myself at all.

But now, I understand that the premise of most of this thread was a refusal to change my mindset, which I will also keep working towards and have been working towards. That being said, I can't say for certain how far I can get with it. I'll keep trying meds, I'll keep trying to talk to my now-second therapist to see if it goes anywhere, and I'll change therapists again if it's not going anywhere (which I just might have to do). That being said, considering that I am actually taking steps to change my mindset with help from other people, I don't appreciate how you all act like I've again, done absolutely nothing to try to change that too. Especially to the point where you're suggesting I'm a psychopath, narcisisstic, have BPD, and/or am autistic (the fact that you all are concurrently suggesting those things is...interesting).
 

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The other guy was making a point out of how people perceive you more positively the most physically attractive you are, not because of being in shape as a “marker of ambition.” I’m not sure how old you are, but times are different now. Based on the shows/actors you had mentioned as being masculine, I’d imagine your older than me.
I disagree. People think more highly of others when they send signals of self-responsibility, commitment, ambition, reliability and a host of other positive traits. Such a reaction is hard-wired into humans and is timeless. The problem is that those markers must be developed by personal effort. It's a matter of fortitude; something of which you are sorely lacking.
 

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Also, the reason why I was vehemently mentioning effort I was putting in to change physical attributes about myself was because I got the impression that the criticisms I received were suggesting that I did absolutely nothing to try to change my current state (hence how I've been told to get busy/consistent with the gym and to do PE if I'm so unhappy about my size). I simply wanted to set the record straight that it's not like I'm doing nothing to help myself at all.

But now, I understand that the premise of most of this thread was a refusal to change my mindset, which I will also keep working towards and have been working towards. That being said, I can't say for certain how far I can get with it. I'll keep trying meds, I'll keep trying to talk to my now-second therapist to see if it goes anywhere, and I'll change therapists again if it's not going anywhere (which I just might have to do). That being said, considering that I am actually taking steps to change my mindset with help from other people, I don't appreciate how you all act like I've again, done absolutely nothing to try to change that too. Especially to the point where you're suggesting I'm a psychopath, narcisisstic, have BPD, and/or am autistic (the fact that you all are concurrently suggesting those things is...interesting).
Hello babe, I'm your friendly neighbour here. I recommend to you going to a therapist that has as form of therapy the schema therapy. This type of therapy focuses on beliefs that someone has been building since really young. Counting the fact that you said that two therapists already failed to help you. I'm asking you to give one more try to therapy. Please, I know it's tough and I know it's a lot of pain the amount of space this topic has in your mind. Let's give a try to fade these thoughts. I love you man.
 

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Believe it or not I am going through the same thing ddggg is going through and didn't want to let it out , not about my cock size , more serious, I thought I could hide my situation with laughter .
No , it keeps bugging me over and over till I get no sleep ..... Here it is , I have been conversing with a young man , back and forth in PVT , about sounding , He is very new to all of this ,Out of an only instruction on how and what. I sent a photo , at his request .... Now He Sent me a photo back of himself sounding , Just his hands and cock ..... I couldn't take my eyes off it , I kept looking over and over . His hands were beautiful, very long fingers of a piano player , long thin smooth and so soft looking , and his cock with the sound in it ,, I wanted it ,and I'm not gay at all , I didn't care ,I still wanted it all of it , Am I secretly gay and don't know it ?
 

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I disagree. People think more highly of others when they send signals of self-responsibility, commitment, ambition, reliability and a host of other positive traits. Such a reaction is hard-wired into humans and is timeless. The problem is that those markers must be developed by personal effort. It's a matter of fortitude; something of which you are sorely lacking.
If this is about going to the gym, I’ll say it before and I’ll say it again: I’m going. People always being up putting in effort to change things I don’t like about myself, which I’m trying to do, and no one ever acknowledges that. Literally that guy Cum_is_Great is acting as though I’m looking for praise for taking physical action when no…I’m trying to get people to stop acting like I’m not doing anything. I did NOT go to the gym for a year now in spite of feeling like shit about myself and being stressed about college work just for people to speak to me as though I never even stepped foot in the gym.
 

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If this is about going to the gym, I’ll say it before and I’ll say it again: I’m going. People always being up putting in effort to change things I don’t like about myself, which I’m trying to do, and no one ever acknowledges that. Literally that guy Cum_is_Great is acting as though I’m looking for praise for taking physical action when no…I’m trying to get people to stop acting like I’m not doing anything. I did NOT go to the gym for a year now in spite of feeling like shit about myself and being stressed about college work just for people to speak to me as though I never even stepped foot in the gym.
Good. Then you'll find out for yourself that first comes effort, then comes achievement and then comes motivation. Many think that sequence is reversed but studies show otherwise. There is no better medicine than getting off one's ass.
 
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I'm telling you guys. Narcissist in hiding.

If not, then autism. If not then BPD. Definitely something neurodivergent
I'm not a fan of clinical labels without proper interview.

Maybe everyone needs to calm it down and quit the name calling. People are all different and have different motivations. I'm not a fan of bullying.
 

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I'm not a fan of clinical labels without proper interview.

Maybe everyone needs to calm it down and quit the name calling. People are all different and have different motivations. I'm not a fan of bullying.
I'm a fan of honest dialogue and respecting someone enough to engage in it, no matter he might suffer some candor. In this case, the OP has gotten loads of honest dialogue and has given as good as he gets. No one here is a victim or victimizer. No one here is an oppressor or the oppressed. No one here needs to be defended, moderated or governed (within the bounds of the site's rule). We can all take care of ourselves. If not, then we should not be engaged in dialogue in these forums.
 
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I'm a fan of honest dialogue and respecting someone enough to engage in it, no matter he might suffer some candor. In this case, the OP has gotten loads of honest dialogue and has given as good as he gets. No one here is a victim or victimizer. No one here is an oppressor or the oppressed. No one here needs to be defended, moderated or governed (within the bounds of the site's rule). We can all take care of ourselves. If not, then we should not be engaged in dialogue in these forums.
I wouldn’t completely agree that calling me a narcissistic psychopath, autistic, etc. is truly honest dialogue. Beyond that, I understand where the contributors to this thread are coming from, and I’ll keep trying to change.
 

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I wouldn’t completely agree that calling me a narcissistic psychopath, autistic, etc. is truly honest dialogue. Beyond that, I understand where the contributors to this thread are coming from, and I’ll keep trying to change.
Maybe trying to change is precisely the problem. Being oneself rather than what everyone else wants you to be in the opitome of strength and being a solid individual.
 
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I wouldn’t completely agree that calling me a narcissistic psychopath, autistic, etc. is truly honest dialogue. Beyond that, I understand where the contributors to this thread are coming from, and I’ll keep trying to change.
My response was to @michael_3165 and in the context of his post; not necessarily how others might have characterized you in their posts. But, the sentiments expressed in your last sentence seem heartfelt and I respect that. See, you're making progress already!
 

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Maybe trying to change is precisely the problem. Being oneself rather than what everyone else wants you to be in the opitome of strength and being a solid individual.
My impression was that I should try to change myself along the avenue of my mindset / physique in pursuit of improvement of myself, as I had been advised to by a few contributors to this thread - correct me if I'm wrong.
 

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My impression was that I should try to change myself along the avenue of my mindset / physique in pursuit of improvement of myself, as I had been advised to by a few contributors to this thread - correct me if I'm wrong.
We have said changing your attachment to your need for so many physical attributes is likely the way to go. Acceptance is always the way to less suffering. At least whilst going toward the goal.
 

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Don't envy us so quickly.

The big-penised of the world have their problems too: money, health, family and job security or stress.

If this were a website dealing with any of the foregoing, a very different pecking order would emerge.
 

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Don't envy us so quickly.

The big-penised of the world have their problems too: money, health, family and job security or stress.

If this were a website dealing with any of the foregoing, a very different pecking order would emerge.
You imply a pecking order exists based on penis size; to wit: "a very different pecking order would emerge." No such pecking order exists except in your fantasies which causes one to wonder if you're fantasizing about your own size as well.
 

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You imply a pecking order exists based on penis size; to wit: "a very different pecking order would emerge." No such pecking order exists except in your fantasies which causes one to wonder if you're fantasizing about your own size as well.
He's not alone with the idea of a pecking order existing based on penis size. Not like there aren't many threads here about just that...

And as to his own size? You need to "get out more" around the site.

Dude's Member name is quite accurate! ;)
 
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