feeling sad

[The Dragon]

Thank you Naughty,
It had left me wondering what was wrong with me.
I never got closure.
Never got told why.

 

[The Dragon]

This situation is just so mixed.
On one hand I still love him and want to be with him but on the other I hate him for what he has done.
All I know is that he fell off the face of the planet and didn't seem to think I rated even a 25 cent text message to tell me it was over.
I have blamed myself for not being attractive enough, not good enough at sex and spent hours going over our relationship to work out what I had done wrong.
I don't like the rut I am in and I seem to be powerless to find away out.

 

[Sinnerly]

explore the sadness. enjoy it for what it is. sadness gets jealous when all you focus on is happy.

 

[nay-nay]

Dragonfly20, I have felt that pain too. Only I was in somewhat worse a spot; because for four years I was not only heartbroken and not 'getting over it'; I wasn't dating or having sex either. :frown1:

I heard all sorts of stupid ass theories from well meaning friends:

• Divide the length of the relationship by two and that is how long it takes to get over him.
• Go shoe shopping
• Buy a pretty dress
• Spend the weekend in Atlantic City
• A spa day
• Get drunk
• Eat a hot fudge sundae
• Buy sexy lingerie
• Hair of the dog that bit you, i.e. just start dating again - yeah that's easy

FYI - None of these things worked for me.

You will mourn the loss of that relationship for the amount of time which is right for you; and not one day more. I know that's not helpful but it's true.

that is SO true!

reminds me of this song by Kenny Wayne Shepherd called "Let Go."

"Let Go"

In a room filled with dried tears of sorrow
You come in and lay down by my side
When you feel the same way tomorrow
'Cause you smile just as easy as you cry

Was it wrong to be good to you
Was it wrong to be your man
'Cause I ain't getting through to you
And i've done all I can to make you understand

[Chorus:]
And my heart just keeps on bleeding
From the hole that drains my soul
And if I can't kill the feeling now
How do I, oh I, let go?

Time only heals when it wants to
I guess that's why I just can't get you off of my mind

Yeah, when the walls come down between us
Will you be on the other side?
If you say you didn't need it
I will let you right back in for the rest of my life

[Chorus 2:]
Only you can stop the bleeding
From the hole that drains my soul
And if you can't kill the feeling now
How do I, oh I, let go?


it's such a sucky feeling. i've been there myself. some days it hurt so bad i felt like i could die, but you don't die. it definetely wasn't easy getting over him, but i did. it took me a long ass time. i just distanced myself, changed my number so he wouldn't call me anymore, and i told him not to email me anymore b/c i needed some space. i listened to songs like the one i just shared with you (and inspirational songs), i vented to friends (til they were probably really annoyed) and i cried alot. i also would write in a journal. let it out girl! "...and this, too, shall pass." *big hug*

 

[The Dragon]

Thank you Guys for your love and support during this hard time.
Thanks to you lot, I came out of it alot better than I had thought I would.
And also a big thank you to those people who sent comforting PMs.

I LOVE YA HEAPS GUYS!

Dragonfly.