Feeling too fucking little...

[Cottonfield]

Originally posted by Cthulhu@Oct 13 2005, 10:50 AM
I can't stand average. Average penises are small. Average cars are slow. Average wages are low. Average books are boring. The average family is disfunctional. The average person is stupid. The average person is ugly. There is nothing good about average. For me, saying something is average is like "it's shitty, but most of the times it's like this, so let's accept it".

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Cthulhu, thanks. In all my years I never put it into words like you did. That's a great insight, and helps me understand why it's always been SO hard to "accept" my 5" size. I've never wanted to be average in anything, and certainly not in something so primitive and masculine-competitive as dick size. It's less how women see me than how I see me in that rank-in-the-pack thing. And it's not delusional-- it's a comparison ALL men engage in all the time. Well-hung guys are [rightly] pleased and relieved at their good luck, and would never trade down, even if such a thing were possible. Smaller guys know it's a crapshoot that they lost, not something they "did." But it's a crapshoot with consequences, and smaller men would trade up in a heartbeat. "Just love yourself" is easy to say, hard to do.



Cottonfield

 

[Love-it]

Have you heard about men saying "My wife thinks this is 6" (while holding up 2 fingers to indicate a much smaller length). Your gf's gf, bf may be bullshitting the gf and himself.

Your height of 1.7 meters is equal to 5' 7". A meter is almost 40" (39.37") not 3' or 36". 1" = 25.4mm

 

[Cthulhu]

Dude, how do you know about The Overlord if you just joined this board today?! Gotta say, your command of the "QUOTE" function is really advanced for a newbie.

Firstly, I have been reading the forum for quite some time now.

Secondly, I used to have an account with this nickname, had posted a couple of times too, but for some reason (probably me not logging in for quite a long time) it was deleted and I had to create it again.

Thirdly, I have been in a million other fora, where the "QUOTE" function is similar. And, even if I haven't been in any forum at all, I 'm really good with computers and I would have figured it out anyway.

what do you want people to say? that we're sorry you got a small dick? that we're sorry we got bigger ones? fuck, it's not like we can donate our extra inches to your worthy cause or something. it's really difficult to sympathize with inferiority complexes, cos folks who have them generally go around blaming anything and anyone for shit that nothing and nobody could possibly have had any influence over. if you wanna do stuff to your dick to try and make it bigger, nobody's trying to stop you. at the risk of sounding dismissive, there's already a substantial small penis support group out there for people with your anxieties: it's called modern human society. you're spoiled for choice with ways to compensate for a small penis, man - don't be taking it out on us.

Dr Rock, you don't have to be a head doctor to know that when a man has a problem or an obsession, any problem or any obsession, he should better take it out than leave it in his head, where it could (and probably would) grow beyond epic proportions.

I just got frustrated and had to let out some steam. I could probably put all of this in a Microsoft word document and stash it in my hard drive. But it feels better to be talking to other people, getting their feedback, whether they agree or disagree with you. And I could probably talk to my friends, but starting a penis conversation out of the blue is kinda hard for me (and probably for many of you).

I don't need anyone being sorry for my, I 'm already sorry enough for myself, thank you very much. And if you think that I 'm blaming you or anyone else in this forum, well, I' m not. And if you don't like reading what I have to say, guess what? You don't have to read it. Click the small "x" on the upper right hand side of your browser and "Bammo!", no more Cthulhu whining.

Would it help if you ever met this dude and found out he was an ugly goon with a personality of a rock, and a bum. Would you still trade places with him? Would it make you feel better? Just curious....

Firstly, I have seen pictures of my g/f's friend and if an ugly, rock-solid bum can score with such a girl with only his huge dick (or the "big dick attitude" some hung guys have), then I would probably feel much worse for myself.

But, then again, having such a girl probably means that he's got way more than just a big dick - and that's what intimidates me.

If you're giving her multiple orgasms already, I don't think you really need to worry a whole lot about your size.

My g/f can have (and has had) multiple orgasms with a finger. It's her body, not any special talent of mine. And I 've never been with anyone else to know whether I 'm good or not. But, having a great big stamina, I guess I'm not too shabby, regarding sex.

On a side note: Dr. Rock is one of my favourite posters on this board.

I have to agree. Dr. Rock, rocks. I too enjoy his style - and since I recognise it, i don't get offended by it.

First - Happy Birthday bud. Don’t party too hard.

Thanks

Secondly,
A big dick does not make you a better "Man".

If having a big dick made me get rid of this obsession, well, I would probably be a better man, nobody likes the obsessive type... Then again, I could (and should) probably get rid of the obsession by myself and also be a better man, but I 'm not exactly sure how to do it...

Third, as far as YOU know... he has a 3" dick.. that’s wider than a coke can.. Which means your LONGER than him.

Most women agree that girth is more important than length.

If you want to take charge, then Jelq, and pump, as it added 1.5" to mine.
(Just ask me)

Just PM me.

Cthulhu, thanks. In all my years I never put it into words like you did.

Thank you, Cottonfield. I'm a published author. I 'm great with words (espesially in my native tongue, greek), but hearing it once more is always welcome.

Have you heard about men saying "My wife thinks this is 6" (while holding up 2 fingers to indicate a much smaller length). Your gf's gf, bf may be bullshitting the gf and himself.

...but stil has to wear XL condoms. The girl is not stupid, she has been with other men and I think she would know if a man needed the XL condom or if he's just showing off.

Your height of 1.7 meters is equal to 5' 7". A meter is almost 40" (39.37") not 3' or 36". 1" = 25.4mm

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Thanks man, I could have found an online convertor for my previous post, but I got lazy...

 

[smallman]

Originally posted by Cthulhu@Oct 13 2005, 08:02 AM
5.5 inches, never measured girth, feeling small as hell

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you're on the wrong board, needle dick.



im small too, just use you're fucking tongue.

 

[Cthulhu]

Originally posted by smallman+Oct 14 2005, 09:39 AM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(smallman &#064; Oct 14 2005, 09:39 AM)</div><div class='quotemain'>you&#39;re on the wrong board, needle dick.
im small too, just use you&#39;re fucking tongue.
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Well, if you think about it, I had a problem with a large penis and I needed support - but wasn&#39;t my penis . So, I &#39;m on the right board.

All in all, after all your good advice and a lot of thinking by myself, I came to terms with my anatomy. And, to quote RoysToy:

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we learn to live with and accept what we can&#39;t change. I believe if we feel short changed in one area it can be a driving force in helping us excel in areas that we do have control over. This force in me has produced advancements above and beyond those of the taller males referred to above[/quote]

And, boy, have I excelled in everything I have the control of in my life. Nothing about me is average, but my dick. And I ain&#39;t gonna let 5.5 inches of flesh have any control over my mind...

Thank you all. Your input has been priceless...

 

[wutdouthink]

i think just coming to this site to ask takes some balls. so you must have something down there that is working because i dont know if i would come to a site dedicated to hung guys if i was in a bad mood about feeling not so big. either way if she is getting multiple orgasms then don&#39;t worry. some "hung" guys are too big to do that since it starts to hurt the girl after a while. you should be fine

 

[B_Hung Muscle]

I agree with wut (who, incidentally, has one of the best looking cocks on this board) about speaking up here.

I guess it&#39;s easier for others to say "calm down, you&#39;re fine, you have no problem" than it is for the one going through it to internalize these messages.

 

[Dorset]

Originally posted by Hung Muscle@Oct 14 2005, 01:13 PM
I agree with wut (who, incidentally, has one of the best looking cocks on this board) about speaking up here.

I guess it&#39;s easier for others to say "calm down, you&#39;re fine, you have no problem" than it is for the one going through it to internalize these messages.

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It may well be easier for us to say that but if he&#39;s going to dismiss our comments on those grounds then why the hell post his problem on a forum for people with big dicks???

What does the guy expect to hear?

 

[Cthulhu]

Originally posted by Dorset@Oct 14 2005, 04:24 PM
It may well be easier for us to say that but if he&#39;s going to dismiss our comments on those grounds then why the hell post his problem on a forum for people with big dicks???

What does the guy expect to hear?

I didn&#39;t expect to hear anything in particular. I just felt that if I didn&#39;t speak, I was going to burst. And this forum is the no1 place to speak freely about dicks in a mature level (well, Dr Rock&#39;s sarcasm excluded)

Believe me, Small Penis Support Groups are so depressive, you wouldn&#39;t believe it.

Here, even if one has one or two problems with his big dick, he is generally happy for packing what he &#39;s packing.

In a SPSG, everybody is bitter for not having a big dick. Everybody has the attitude "Even if you have a g/f, she will definately, sooner or later, leave you for someone with a bigger dick". Take my first post here, make it twise as depressed and multiply it by 2.000. That&#39;s what a SPSG really is - which, by the way, offers no actual "support" at all...

 

[Dorset]

Would it be too evil to suggest an LPSG day trip to a small penis support site?
Maybe post a few pictures and cheer them up a bit?

Could put a bit of work in the direction of the Samaritans

:evilgrin:

 

[Cthulhu]

Originally posted by Dorset@Oct 14 2005, 06:43 PM
Would it be too evil to suggest an LPSG day trip to a small penis support site?
Maybe post a few pictures and cheer them up a bit?

Could put a bit of work in the direction of the Samaritans

:evilgrin:

Or, alternatively, you could go to hungry, bloated-from-malnourishment people in Africa and show them how much you enjoy eating your huge sandwich - and then complain that you don&#39;t enjoy it too much, because of all the damn flies, and throw it away...

I guess you would get exactly the same reactions...

:evilgrin::evilgrin::evilgrin:

 

[Dr Rock]

Originally posted by Cthulhu+Oct 14 2005, 07:00 AM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Cthulhu &#064; Oct 14 2005, 07:00 AM)</div><div class='quotemain'>And I ain&#39;t gonna let 5.5 inches of flesh have any control over my mind...

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without wishing to state the horribly obvious, it does seem a wee bit late for THAT particular resolution in your case.

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Here, even if one has one or two problems with his big dick, he is generally happy for packing what he &#39;s packing.

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... or maybe it&#39;s simply that more of us have long since come to realize that there&#39;s not much point in worrying about something you can&#39;t change. :shrug:

 

[Knight]

The key is to not worry about things you cannot change. You can&#39;t change them therefore getting upset about it, trying to change something, or wanting the impossible is always going to be detrimental.

I sometimes think &#39;I&#39;d like a bigger dick&#39; or &#39;I wish the head of my penis wasn&#39;t so ridiculously thin&#39; (in comparison with the shaft. Then I think, what I&#39;ve got isn&#39;t too shabby, its mine, it works and it feels purdy nice to play with.

You&#39;re a successful writer, and that is a great accomplishment. Most writers either get ignored or take the best part of their lifetime getting noticed. You have an attractive girlfriend and she likes your dick. Wanna trade places?

 

[amethyst]

Originally posted by Dorset@Oct 13 2005, 07:56 AM
I would seriously advice against letting your gf find out that you&#39;re not meeting him because she said he had a big dick.

Even if she was a bit curious about a bigger guy (which she probably isn&#39;t but lets assume she is for the sake of arguement) it almost certainly isn&#39;t anywhere near as important to her as it is to you.
However, from women I&#39;ve known, that absolute biggest turn-off, without a doubt, is a guy riddled with insecurity and bitterness

You having a smaller dick will be nothing to her compaired to you not meeting a guy because of his size

Hopefully the women on here will back me up on this

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Yep, I agree 100%, Dorset&#33; The only thing unappealing here was your insecurity. Natural, but unappealing. And it appears that the extent of your insecurity was an indication of something much deeper that has nothing to do with your penis size; your penis size is just the scapegoat? Anyway, aside from the psycho-babble, I have been with a few men that were 4" and under, and they were great men, great people, and great lovers. I would think your 5.5" was wonderful (I actually don&#39;t prefer bigger), and I&#39;m glad you are feeling better about it.

Amethyst

 

[Cottonfield]

Originally posted by Hung Muscle@Oct 14 2005, 08:13 AM
I guess it&#39;s easier for others to say "calm down, you&#39;re fine, you have no problem" than it is for the one going through it to internalize these messages.

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It&#39;s important to remember why this is so hard to do. It is because of the double message involved. If there were ANY societal endorsement of smallness to point to to back up the assertion that small is good, it would be a lot easier to accept that there is no problem. But there is no small dick porn except negative humiliation stuff, there are no small-dick sex symbols either gay or straight where they are sexy because they&#39;re small rather than despite being small, there are no tales of smallhung men being ogled and envied and sought after by partners because of their endowment, etc. So when the message is given to "love what you have, it&#39;s all good," it has a really hollow ring to it -- even though that may be the only possible message to give-- because there is absolutely no reinforcement for it.

The opposite message however, that bigger is better, is reinforced constantly in society, even in a forum as basically understanding of all male issues as LPSG. LPSG&#39;ers know that being hung is a matter of pure luck and not of worth. But if you look back in LPSG postings over time, many a guy who offers support and encouragement for smaller men when they&#39;re feeling down about their situation... will also have some exultant statement in his sig about his size or the glory of being big, or will in his other posts recount tales of the great sexual advantages he enjoys because he is hung. So when that guy says (even with sincerity, because what else can you say) that you need to believe that it&#39;s OK... well, that&#39;s one example of the double message.

We all know that the hard reality is that you can&#39;t change what you got, and you have to somehow find a way to be positive despite the fact that there are zero positive reinforcements around you. But it&#39;s not easy, and the achievement is never complete. If you ask any of the well-adjusted unhung men, either here or on any other board, I&#39;ll wager that to a man they&#39;ll still say they wish their luck had been different.

Lastly-- I hope you can understand why someone from the other end of the spectrum might come here for support. Cthulhu is right that it&#39;s not easy to find on the small-penis boards. It&#39;s important to be validated by people who have the validation you seek -- not by people who, like you, don&#39;t have the validation. I&#39;m probably putting this badly because it&#39;s a complex idea, but maybe others will put it better...

Cottonfield

 

[Cthulhu]

Originally posted by Dr Rock+Oct 14 2005, 07:18 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Dr Rock &#064; Oct 14 2005, 07:18 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-Cthulhu@Oct 14 2005, 07:00 AM
And I ain&#39;t gonna let 5.5 inches of flesh have any control over my mind...

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without wishing to state the horribly obvious, it does seem a wee bit late for THAT particular resolution in your case.
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...have any control over my mind anymore.

Better, e? And true. Told you, my english could be better.

A couple of minutes ago, spending my final minutes as a 22 year old (although I wasn&#39;t born on 0:00, local time, but anyway) I have made a discovery which has proven to me how utterly and incredibly stupid I am.

My g/f has three good friends at the university: Marianna, Irene and Constantina (not to be confused with John Constantine of Hellblaser)

When she told me about the large guy, who&#39;s name is Costas, I thought that he was Irene&#39;s b/f. Irene, as far as I can tell from pictures, is probably one of the best looking girls around (according to my taste, anyway). And it was that connection, that the big dicked guy had the really hot chick, that made me feel miserable (as if the really hot chicks are reserved for big dicked guys, or something equally stupid).

Well, guess what. Costas is Constantina&#39;s boyfriend, not Irene&#39;s - and about her, I couldn&#39;t care less. Irene is with a guy named Spyros, whose weight is around 100 kilos (220lbs), not too tall (i.e. FAT) and average down there. And unemployed.

Fuck, I was devastated from a misunderstanding&#33; That should definately teach me something about myself.

I &#39;m a complete idiot. Throw rocks at me, I deserve them...

 

[hippyscum]

We don&#39;t throw rocks at folk around here.. even if they say "Jehovah".

 

[dlcs]

Originally posted by hippyscum@Oct 14 2005, 03:31 PM
We don&#39;t throw rocks at folk around here.. even if they say "Jehovah".

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*throws flowers and nubile young maidens at Cthulhu&#39;s feet*

 

[hippyscum]

Originally posted by dlcs@Oct 14 2005, 09:42 PM

*throws flowers and nubile young maidens at Cthulhu&#39;s feet*

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Y&#39;see, I told you.

 

[rawbone8]

Congratulations on turning 22&#33; Don&#39;t worry, with a bit of luck your sense of inferiority will diminish as you age, become a man and accept that childish jealousy is a demon of your own invention. Whether you based your whining and insecurity on a fallacy or not. The point is you can&#39;t base your self esteem on 8 to 10 ounces of flesh. You must realize that you feel power when you focus on things you CAN change and feel powerless as hell when you focus on those that you will never change. I don&#39;t doubt that you are a talented guy, but you really have to look at life as a roller coaster of achievements and disappointments. I&#39;m 49 and humility bites everyone eventually